Do you and your mate have the same belief system?

Question

If not, how do you reconcile that?

Answer 1

yes... we do!

Answer 2

No. We just, hate to use the cliche', fell flat on our faces in love. Later did I find out, after marriage and kids, he was really a closet agnostic, going through the robotic motions in the Catholic faith and became more apathetic towards Christian values and activities. I've been a disillusioned Catholic for years before we met, but hadn't ever lost desire to get to know God or do God's work, whereas my now husband lost all desire to follow His lead. In my own effort to "reconcile" our religious differences (ie. initiating bible studies to his reluctance), I soon realized I didn't have the power to set the process in motion. Especially since I came to uncover the insidious sin that was lingering from my now husband's past. Jesus was the only one that could deliver Him, if I also surrendered to Him so that He could use me to complete the process. In hindsight, I believe God prepared me long before I met my husband to deliver Him from his lifelong darkness (1 Cor 7:16-17 NIV). Obviously, the incompatible beliefs was a non-issue for Jesus, because the result is that we are both in His glorious light, with my husband taking the lead as head of household the way it was always intended (1 Cor 11:3 NIV). And we're not budging! What a wonderful God we serve!

Answer 3

Same belief system, but different beliefs about it, I guess.

We met at church, got married and are still there 12 years later. But Jim is more rules oriented and I am more relationship oriented as far as our religious views go. We debate a lot, but then we compliment each other as well. We've worked on sermons together that we were both happy with.

He knows where to find specific scriptures and details better than I do. I grasp concepts more easily than he does. I can see abstract ideas or plans in my mind. Jim deals in concrete things.

Before we got married, we both agreed that our number one obligation to each other was to help the other get to heaven. I think that's been really helpful to both of us.

Answer 4

I've had many, many relationships with people of different religions. Some of them were excellent, some of them were a nightmare. Of course, dating within your religion is still no guarentee that you're going to get along.

I think as long as the two don't sincerely believe the other is doing something cosmically "wrong" or is truly "blind" to knowing something, then religion isn't an issue. As a rule though I never date Christians, for more reasons than one.

Answer 5

Yes.
2Corinthians 6:14

Answer 6

Yes we do. It has certainly helped in or marriage. Unfortunately not all of it rubbed off onto our kids. No, I take that back. For the most part they do have the same beliefs but not as formal about it as we are.

Answer 7

Basically. We're both Christians, but we have different views on certain things ... probably because he was raised Christian and I didn't become one until I was nineteen. However, we both agree that the message is what's important, and we can peacefully agree to disagree on some of the smaller issues.

Answer 8

My husband is cathlic, I am an atheist. Religion does not play a part in our lives. He believes I don't. End of discustion. Also he dosn't tell me I'm going to hell or uses his beliefs to force me to do what He wants or believe as him. He loves me for me.

Answer 9

My Yahoo boyfriend is an Atheist like me. I'd never be able to date a believer. I have enough people trying to convert me on here. I'd have to sock a guy in the nuts for trying to convert me at home too.

Answer 10

My husband and I have the same belief system. We both love God and work together in our church. It' great!

Answer 11

not at all
I am spiritualist , he is hhmm agnostic now perhaps ( with Asatru influence )
we agree to disagree , we find that we think the same things but perhaps with different terminology
so it is finding the similarities rather than the differences
and respecting each other