What do I do? I just found out that she getting married in a few months(we broke up a while ago), why wont she give it back? and what can I do to get it back?
2007-05-26 09:11:29 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it's a hireloom
2007-05-26 09:24:26 · update #1
a family hireloom
2007-05-26 09:25:23 · update #2
it suck! she lives in england now but know her family well. I thought she would have just given it back. Goes to show me what women are all about.
2007-05-26 09:29:42 · update #3
she cheated on me while I was visiting her. During my stay I tried to maintain my character and even thought for a moment that we could get back together, but after some time I lost my nerve and did lash out. I decided I couldn't trust her anymore and that she wasn't worth marrying. We stayed friend for a time... I thought that she would give me the ring back once she was ready to move on. Now that she is getting married that time is now, but is still holding on. It pisses me off, thank good she lives in another country.
2007-05-26 10:06:43 · update #4
While some people may choose to give a ring back when an engagement ends, they are in no way obligated to do so. You gave it to her--it's hers. It is no longer yours or your family's.
I was just reading the responses from other people--they are wrong. You do not have a legal basis to demand the ring back until you can prove breech of contract, which would mean you said to her, I'll give this ring to you and in return you have to marry me and she agreed but then did not live up to her end of the contract. If you just gave it to her as a gift, too bad. You can sue anybody for anything in small claims court, but you're not going to win.
While you have no right to expect or demand the ring back, if you called her and asked nicely would she consider giving it back because it is a family heirloom, maybe she would. OR maybe not. Maybe you did something that hurt her really badly and she's keeping it out of spite. Maybe she sold it. Who knows?
Don't dwell on it. Ask, and accept her answer, and don't make the same mistake again. Some lessons in life are hard and some are expensive.
2007-05-26 09:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by kk 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In some states an engagement ring is considered a gift given with the intention to marry and it is expected that the ring be returned if the marriage does not take place. Some state view the ring as a gift and the property of the recipient.
If the ring is very valuable then seek legal counsel or go to small claims court.
But, if the ring doesn't have that much value put this in your past and consider it a lesson learned.
2007-05-26 09:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unless you gave it to her on her birthday or as a Christmas gift, that ring is legally yours. You give an engagement ring with the promise of marriage - a contract - and if the marriage does not happen, then the ring must be returned. This is law. Threaten to sue her. If she doesn't give it back still, then actually sue her.
What the heck does she want it for, anyway?!
2007-05-26 16:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring is intended to stay on her finger as long as she is engaged/married to you. She did not marry you, she should give back the ring. You could take her to small claims court to get it back. I would imagine a carefully worded letter from an attorney would convince her to return it so you don't have to go to court. You can get an attorney to write such a letter for you for around $150. I would call a family law specialist. They will be on your side, trust me. She is not in the right, she should return the ring. What she is doing is unethical and it's also illegal. Good for you for not marrying her, obviously she is a difficult personality that you don't need to be around!
2007-05-26 09:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, the decent thing to do, was for her to give the ring back to you, but especially since she is going to marry someone else. You can do one of two things. You may take her to court and get it back that way, and if she's gotten rid of it, but you have the receite, you can be reimbursed for the cost. If you do not have the receite, go back to the store you bought it from and ask them to look up your name on file, they can give you "another" receite, okay? But try looking at this in "this" way. The reason you broke up, and her refusing to return the ring, should tell you that you are actually "richer" for it, because it tells you what kind of a person you "almost" married. Yeah, so either way, you have come out ahead. Good luck either way.
2007-05-26 09:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally, she must give it back to you. It wasn't an open-ended gift, like a birthday gift or a Christmas gift. She accepted it as an agreement to marry you, and when she strayed she broke that agreement to marry you. You need to file a civil suit to have her give the ring back, or have her give you the monetary value of the ring (she may have pawned or sold it). It'll be hard because she's out of the states, but it can be done.
2007-05-26 22:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by lilmissmiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what the laws are in Britain. An engagement ring isn't considered a gift in many states it is considered part of an agreement to get married. You need to do some research on British law.
2007-05-27 07:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.nolo.com/article.cfm/pg/3/objectId/E2120B2B-1C65-4E77-92A0ADC4FA3EDC2A/catId/F896EE61-B80C-4FE1-B1687AC0F07903BA/118/304/ART/
"Just a few years ago, the Supreme Court of Pennsylvania stuck steadfastly to the no-fault reasoning and decreed that the donor should always get the ring back if the engagement is broken off, regardless of who broke it off or why. Lindh v. Surman, 742 A.2d 643 (Pa. 1999). Iowa, Kansas, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, and Wisconsin have the same rule."
It may depend on what state you are in, but if I were you i'd compile a list of previous rulings compareable to the above, and send her a letter telling her that the ring is a conditional gift, meaning she gets to keep it on the condition that you marry, and you will take her to court to get it back if neccessary. This appears to be a gray area in the court room. If the ring was a couple thousand dollars I think it is worthwhile persueing ownership.
2007-05-26 09:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
The engagement ring is a symbol of your promise to marry.Since the marriage never took place,she should have returned the ring.That is the "Emily Post proper etiquette" version.In real life,many girls do not return the ring.If you still have the sales slip for the ring,you could sue in small claims court.If it cost a lot,you could hire a lawyer and sue for the cost of the ring.Or you could just consider it a bad chapter in your life and move on.After all,she didn't have much integrity did she?
2007-05-26 09:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 04:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋