Abstaining from sex till marriage?

Question

I’m a 20 year old girl, still a virgin, and abstaining from sex till marriage. Ideally I would like to meet someone who’s the same as me, abstaining from sex till marriage. However, I realize that we do not live in an ideal world. So my question is this, do you think the man I fall in love with, will understand my beliefs? Or will most men laugh in my face? It’s just, I have never fallen in love yet, that is the reason I ask this question, to prepare myself for the most likely outcome.

Answer 1

Personally i would, and i would respect your morals and see it as a plus that you have and not a minus

Some guys just can't wait and might be As*holes about it
Those guys probably are not the ones for you anyway, so look and you will find the one for you, he is out there

P.S. good for you for abstaining till marriage, keep it up, it is a very good choice

Answer 2

I don't think the right man would laugh in your face. You need to look for someone with the same values. The world is full of guys. You can definitely find someone with the same belief system as you. However physical compatibility doesn't just happen between any two people and is much more important than (forgive me) a virgin can be expected to understand. I suggest you find a way to explore this to the limit of whatever your value system allows.

Answer 3

It's good for you if this is what you decide to do but the chances are in this day and age that whoever you end up marrying will have been in a sexual relationship before they meet you. There are not many people who think the way that you do. There's no accounting for who or when you fall in love. If they are your ideal partner, then surely by definition whatever their past, it is immaterial to you. How would they have known to save themselves just in case you came along? I think you should take everything as it comes (if you pardon the pun!). You won't know until you meet Mr/Miss Right what their past is and how you will feel but it is always best in any case when starting a new relationship to draw a line in the sand where your previous relationships ended and then continue on anew in your own relationship otherwise you become bogged down and obssessed, comparing yourself to their previous partner(s), which is a very self-destructive way to live.

Answer 4

honey, i am 23, single and still a virgin. I understand completely what you say coz i've been there. Please do not be ashamed because u r still a virgin!!!!! it is not the best feeling to have about yourself!! though i have to admit, i had the same feeling until i recently met a guy and curiously (or maybe not) he realized i am still a virgin. Do you know what he said?? 'WOW!!!!!!!! i am very impressed!! i admire you!!' Also, this was the reaction of many people.
So, most men will be surprised in a positive way, but also be prepared because most of them will also try to persuade you into doing it! (for them it's like another trophy that they win). But it is your choice after all!! i can just wish you luck!! (and by the way, there are still guys that are waiting to have sex until they get married - i know quite a few)

Answer 5

You're my hero! I'm 17 and I really want to wait til marriage like you. I always tell myself that if a guy really likes me, he'll wait for me, but then I'm always scared to bring up my beliefs because I think he'll think about dumping me on the spot. You're right--we don't live in that ideal society and I think all guys can be pretty much the same sometimes. I haven't fallen in love either, of course, I think I'm pretty young, but I only want to have sex when I do. Believing this, if the man you fall in love with falls falls in love with YOU too, then I do believe he will understand. He should. And if he doesn't, yeah, that would depress me so much--it's what I'm always worried about bringing up with a boyfriend--but then it means that maybe your understanding and care for him isn't the same as he has for you.

Good luck! And really though, I think it's cool how you're sticking to your principles :)

Answer 6

I believe in abstaining from sex before marriage. My boyfriend is 20 and is still a virgin. I am falling in love with him, but I still wish to keep away from sex. If your future love doesn't agree with your beliefs, then in my opinion he's not worth bothering with!

Answer 7

I think what you are doing is really the right thing for everybody to do. I am a very curious person. I would have problems with this because of all the issues that might come up later. I am rebellious in nature so I would not want to marry a man who was different than me. He would have to be a virgin too, if I were one.

Answer 8

I would support that choice. Personally, I made the decision not long after I first started considering that I will have romantic relationships (early teens, maybe as young as 12) that I did not desire to have intercourse with a woman I could not see myself marrying or was not married to. Twenty, in college, I've questioned that stance but don't feel I am ready for that deep of a relationship and the idea of a "one night stands" or "f*** buddies" doesn't appeal to me.
If that is a strong desire of yours there are men out there that respect this choice. Some will laugh at you but from your stance I believe those who you would be seriously interested in will respect you.

Answer 9

Remain a virgin until you are married and you will never regret it. Look for a husband who is a virgin and each of you can give the other a very rare and priceless gift.

The passion and "fireworks" of your first night of love will be one you'll cherish forever. It will not be like the old "hump and bump" of those who have already worn themselves out having sex before marriage.

Answer 10

let me tell you the view from somone who has had sex at an early age...trust me your doing the right thing...

Even though i was in love with the guy and sure of it things did not turn out i dont regret anything but i wish i was that untouched gift that you have! its so much mor specialer not a word but it should be....

Do not ever doubt that you have saved yourself it is worth it the only down fall is someone who is experienced might get frusterated or compare you to other woman they have slept with if that makes sense. The best thing to do is make sure that your guy is the one and trust me you will know when you find him and save that gift so you can tell him you saved yourself and waited for him and it will be wonderful

best of luck and i admire that you have saved urself