I want to send a sympathy card to the family of this girl: http://www.makeachildsmile.org/2007/prev_2007_apr1.shtml . She was five years old and was ill for quite some time with a kidney disease. She had kidney transplant surgery, but died from complications of the surgery. Since I never personally knew the family or the child, I'm not sure what to say. Any suggestions?
2007-05-26 08:06:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Her story also hits WAY close to home, since my cousin has had two kidney transplants, and I was born with a bladder malformation and kidney reflux that was corrected by surgery. (I'm totally, 100%, fine now). Should I mention this?
2007-05-26 08:08:28 · update #1
Even though you didnt know her I know her parents would be touched by your sending a condlence card. And I think that if you included your situation that it would be fine. Kind of an extra offer of support maybe because youve had some of the same problems. I think what you want to do is a very nice thing.
2007-05-26 08:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by thumpergirl_1979 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's your call, of course, but - no! i wouldn't mention this as it is personal & you really don't know the family of the deceased child (or so you said). i had a similar situation a while back. a fellow collegue of mine lost a child to a horrific fire. the child was in daycare. the fire started & the child got scared, got lost trying to escape, crawled into a closet to 'escape'. well, the rest is (a sad) history. now, i'd like to acknowledge this child's passing, show compassion toward's his mother (my co-worker) but what do i say? i wracked my brains trying to come up with the 'right' thing & then i dawned on me. all children are angels - some more than others, but angels nonethe less. i bought a simple but sweet sympathy card and wrote the following: " in trying times like these words of sympathy & compassion help heal the aching heart but rest assured that god needed good angels & he thought of your son." it is a most difficult thing to write or say what's considered appropriate since appropriate is subjective. even more difficult when it is for a child. by the way, that's very thoughtful of you to send a sympathy card to a family you don't know. i sure wish the rest of the world shared your concern for others.
2007-05-26 15:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by blackjack432001 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You seem like a person filled with compassion and wish to express it with a message of condolences to the family of that child because it touched you in a special way. I would suggest to let your generous heart speak in a personnal message rather than one of those cards we can find on the internet. It would make it more personnal and I'm certain the family would appreciate it even if you never personnally met the child or her family. Compassion combined with unconditionnal love always touch the heart of human beings. Thank you for being who you are and God bless you for it!
2007-05-26 15:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by montralia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe this is appropriate since you can relate to the situation. A card would be a very nice gesture on your part. Including your story may the family cope a little better at this time.
2007-05-26 15:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just say something like 'Although we have never met, I was very touched by what your family has been through. I myself experienced similiar problems as a child, and was moved to write and offer my sincere sympathy and condolences, etc...'
2007-05-26 15:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by peekabugaboo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she is gorgeouss.i would just say so sorry wouldnt go into your family history as they will be too upset about their own loss right now
2007-05-26 15:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋