Anyone else lose a parent to lung cancer?

Question

I lost my dad in January. He was on home hospice and was on morphine due to pain in his spine (where the tumor metastasized).

Do you feel your parent is watching over you? My dad said he would watch over me. Sometimes I feel like he is, but I'm not sure if it's just wishful thinking.

What was the last thing they said to you?

The last thing my dad said to me was "I'll watch over you" Also, he said earlier "I remember the day you were born". That made me cry.

Answer 1

Yes lost my Dad, almost 15 years ago.
Now if I tell you this, you will think I am insane. About three months after the Funeral, I opened my eyes to see my Dad sat on the bed alongside me, rubbing my forehead and telling me not to worry, all would be fine. Now while that sounds strange, he was dressed in clothes he did not have and never had. I checked with Mom.
Then about six years ago we changed cars. Dad was always into Cars and he had a Volvo. On the Volvo when the fuel tank was nearing empty a red light came on to warn you. Anyway we changed cars and one day I went to another Town on business. On the drive back I noted the red light on the fuel gage, it was flashing? Odd though because the petrol tank was half full? Anyway as the garage where I purchased the car from was on route home, I drove in to a service bay, jumped out and spoke with Danny who is the master mechanic. 'Danny the tank is half full but the red warning light came on for a good three miles then went off, wonder if I have an electrical fault?' Danny looked at me and said 'This car does not have a red warning light, it has a orange petrol pump sign?' Realising something had kinda gone wrong I left the garage feeling a bit silly.On arrival Home Mom said 'Forgot your Fathers anniversary did you?' Yes I had! However, perhaps this was a sign that my Dad was still watching over me. I was so paranoid, I drove the car until the gage went to E and yes Danny was right the orange petrol pump sign came on, no red warning light!
The last thing Dad said to me 'Did you take your VW Beetle into the Garage as I will take the engine out and replace it'. However the last thing he said to Mom, well I left the room, because they knew each other years before I arrived. Not a day goes by where Mom and I do not think, talk, remember Dad and in that way we do keep him alive.
I then got a dog, a Yellow Labrador? I had no choice, asked the local dog pound to get me a dog, so they matched us up. Two years later I found out my Dad had a black Labrador when he was a teenager, I never knew that and Mom did, but did not say anything when I returned home with the yellow Labrador! When I asked Mom why she did not say anything, she said 'Tis your Father again, keeping an eye on you!'

Answer 2

I lost my stepfather three years ago (to lung cancer). my mother and him had been together since I was three so we were very close. yes, I do feel like he watches over me sometimes and if you feel that way too, I don't think it's just wishful thinking.

I am very sorry for your loss. I promise it gets easier. think of the good times, laugh, don't be afraid to talk about him with your mom or other family, and remember that he is in a better place now and no longer has any pain or suffering.

Also, the last thing that my stepfather said to me was that he loved me and was very proud of me. what was the last thing your dad said to you?

Answer 3

No but I worry my mom will end up with it, she's always coughing and smokes like crazy. Im sorry and cant begin to imagine losing one of my parents. I cant even bare the thought. But, I did lose a son, he was just a newborn and Im not religous but I whole heartedly believe he is watching over me and I believe your dad is watching over you. I bet he wraps his arms around you and wishes you could know. All those times when you have that "feeling" or something strange happens, I believe thats him. True or not, its healing to believe so let yourself.
Here you can light a candle for your dad. My son is on this page(Deven Tyler). Things like this really help keep him alive.

http://www.littleremembrances.com/lightacandle.php?initial=D

Answer 4

No ive never lost a parent to lung cancer(knock on wood!!) but ive lost 1 or 2 great aunts to lung cancer. I know its very sad when u lose a loved one.

Answer 5

I lost my grandma to lung cancer in march. And the last thing she said to me was that i will always watch over you, and if you do anything wrong you will know i am there!!!!!

Answer 6

I lost my mother to lung cancer, when I was in the Army. I came home and she was in the hospital. The last thing she said to me was " Guess who came to visit me last night?" i asked "Who?" She replied " Your sister Ann" My sister had died from breast cancer years before. My mother died that night. I still miss her and I am now 67 years old,

Answer 7

My mom died of lung cancer. She started with breast cancer but it spread all over her body and she died from suffocation after that damn disease attacked her lungs. I miss her a lot but life is cruel.

Answer 8

lam so sorry for your loss-lam sure your father IS watching over you, try to think of all your Happy times with your dad- not--- his illness-- be positive and make your dad proud of you. Good luck. jo

Answer 9

i lost a grandmother