me and my boss are married but really like each other
2007-05-26 07:31:32 · 26 answers · asked by texazgirl_85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i am married and i know its wrong to even think like that but my husband has already cheated on me 3 times already once with my sis then cousin and then a friend from his job that i know of. and my boss is not happy in his marriage either he has no kidds and i have 3 already. we know its not right. and all we do is talk we have not cheated on our spouses. but we are really attracted to each other.
2007-05-29 07:07:35 · update #1
You could but you shouldn't. One or both you at minimum will likely lose your job and the havoc in your personal life will be much more intense.
2007-05-26 07:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can -- but you shouldn't allow yourself to. Remember that in the work setting, you are all dressed and awake and away from the 'home' stuff that can make life a little tedious at times. At work, you can just concentrate on your work and the people you work with. But it's kind of an unrealistic setting in a way. Frankly, with people spending so much time at work nowadays, it has become social in a lot of ways. A boss can look particularly desirable because he (presumably) has some power and money, and could be a pretty nice person too. But remember you are seeing that person in a different light than his spouse, just as he is seeing you in a different context. That's why it's particularly dangerous to even allow yourself to think in terms of falling in love with a boss. No good could come of it at all - it is ill-fated and wrong. If you are unhappy in your marriage, you need to either get help for your marriage or get out of it. You do not, however, have the right to fall in love with someone else first! That is cowardly and hurtful and you will certainly not have any luck in love if you pursue a relationship with a married person while you are married. Stop it right at the question here. If you are thinking in these terms, you need to take action immediately to stop and think about this. What if your spouse was questioning his feelings the same way? The fact that you are thinking this way means you need to get help.
2007-05-26 07:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by felixthecat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are confusing love with attraction/lust. Love is not that fuzzy feeling you get when someone walks into the room. Love is a conscious decision based on intellectual connection, personal interest, compatable ideas and values, and a bit of lust mixed in. You will "love" the person you spend the most time thinking positively focused thoughts about. If you have any desire to stay married, spend lots and lots of time thinking about your husband. Put pictures of him everywhere. Remember all the good times, the fun times, the exciting times. It's never too late to rekindle desire for your husband if nothing has happened with someone else.
If you continue thinking and fantasizing about your boss, you will lose your husband for sure! Your boss may mess up his marriage and even if it worked out for you two, you would be in a similar situation some years down the road. You may be bored and disinterested, looking for some new excitement and find someone else. Odds are also greatly increased that your boss will as well. Statistically speaking, there is better than 70% chance that if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you with someone else and 90% of relationships begun in infidelity, fail. You can fight the feelings, but you can't fight the odds.
2007-05-26 08:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Meanie Pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can fall in love with someone while you are married. You should not, however, act on the feelings that you have. If you are in love with someone other then your husband then there is something wrong with your marriage. You should talk to your husband and see what you could do to make the problems you are having go away. Because if you are lonely enough to take the time to find love with another person then there is something that needs to be done.
2007-05-26 07:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is always a BIG MISTAKE!!!!! Think of all the people you'd be hurting!! Your husband, His wife ,And any children that either of you have. All these people will be effected by it
Is it worth all that? You will never be trusted by your husband again. Nor your boss by his wife.. What you are doing will cause a great deal of pain if you don't stop it!! Don't you love your husband? Doesn't he deserve ALL of your love? If you didn't love him, Then why did you marry him? Did you not Vow for better or worse, In sickness and in health And to forsake all others? You are coming close to crossing the line.
Will you be able to look at yourself in the mirror and still like what you see if you do? Think about it girl!! You don't have very much to gain , And EVERYTHING to LOSE!!
Is it worth it? You have some soul searching to do.
I wish you well...
2007-05-26 07:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married then why are you two even looking at each other that way? It's possible to fall in love with someone else while you are married but it's stupid to act on it. These are the times people are talking about when they say marriage takes work. You have to realize that the boss probably won't leave his wife for you.
2007-05-26 07:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can fall in love with anybody, anytime, anywhere but should you resist the temptation?
Count the cost to your family. Is it worth it?
Love is basically an emotional adventure, not based on logic. You need to use your logic before you commit yourself to something that will ruin many other people.
Have you thought about how you can make your marriage stronger? Why look to someone else for that emotional high you think you will get with another man?
Jim DeSantis
2007-05-26 07:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control who you have feelings for but you can control how you act upon your feelings. You need to put as much distance as you possibly can between you and your boss. If you can, ask to be transferred. There is no need in ruining your family and ruining his for a lustful adventure. You are probably not the first nor the last woman he has "liked" on his job.
2007-05-26 07:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low life really does exist as this question of your show us. Why would a young girl want to so quickly join the ranks of the depraved? Honey your going to be attracted to men all your sweet life------it means your not dead. Thats all. With the price of marriage these days no one with a brain wants to back track on their fiances cause that hurts---suppose you can roll him in the hay---you sinner----waste your time and talent. Your Mama not doubt was like you.
2007-05-26 07:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you can't fall in love at least not in the real world. Affairs always look so much better but when you start paying bills together and live with each other it fades away. That's what's so attracting no responsibilities.
2007-05-26 10:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM A BOSS
A female boss and to me it is very wrong what he is doing,,, and question your self HOW MANY HAS HE DOEN IT WITH?????
as a boss that is SO NOT COOL
I hire on guys who think they are so cool and get flirty and in no uncertain terms I tell em NO and I will not put up with it .
your both in the wrong
and I want you to think if your that easy to pry away from your husband.... how easy would he be to pry away from you.... what goes around comes around
2007-05-26 13:11:55 · answer #11 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋