Been with this guy for 4 months (today! ;I ) I like this guy alot, but for the last couple weeks "signs" of lack of interest in me have been showing...I'm in a bit of denial right now, cuz I dont want to lose him, I dont know how this happend..Im just not feeling the same for him myself since he started acting the was he is now...I want to break up with him, with the intent of making him realize how sorry he will be for not having tried harder to make this work with me..I want a breakup that wont leave him thinking "WHAT A BIOTCH"...Still friends..you know? Advice please?!
2007-05-26 07:12:12 · 14 answers · asked by newsweetness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my advice? give the relationship a second chance.. every relationship has it's bad times... Maybe he is under stress or he has problems or something.. I'm not sure what the circumstances are but my advice is to wait.. you might regret it... I had many times in myh relationship where i just wanted to end it.. now.. i think to myself I would kill myself if I had ended my relationship..
2007-05-26 07:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by The Wise Man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. What's unbearably painful today will be completely forgotten 5 years down the road. On the other hand, the strongest trees are the ones that can bend without breaking. Just be honest about it either way.
2007-05-26 14:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by gitterdone12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh grow up and be realistic - the two of you aren't compatible...you found out before it was too late, it isn't going to be that huge of a loss for either of you...you already feel differently towards him...if you want to still be friends with him,why would you want to try to belittle him in the break up? That makes no sense.
It is great that you have such high esteem for yourself...but don't turn it into an inflated ego.
2007-05-26 14:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to break up is to do it 1) quickly, 2) as soon as possible. There isn't really any way to spare his feelings other than to get it over with. Just say that you don't want to date him anymore or something. About all you can do is try not to insult him.
Reading over your question, you want something impossible. You want him to feel bad about not having you, but you still want to be friends with him. That's really mean! Just break up with him normally and leave it at that. Have a nice day!
2007-05-26 14:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your whole question is sending a mixed message. You say you want to stay friends but you want to make him realize how sorry he is going to be. Do you really want to break up with him at all? Are you trying to get him to come running back and throw himself at your feet begging for forgiveness? You sound like you are just upset over him not giving you his undivided attention.
If you really do want to break it off then just break up and be done with it. Quit worrying about it's impact since he won't be your problem anymore anyway.
2007-05-26 14:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one, if you make him make him feel sorry 4 not trying he is not going to want to be your friend. and for 2 if you don't feel the same 4 him any more then why do you want him to feel sorry in the first place. it sound like you want him to feel sorry so that he starts trying again. why don't you just talk to him about the situation, maybe he is going throu something else in his life and his head is just not on the relationship. if you talk to him and find out what the problem might be you may not have to loos him at all.
2007-05-26 14:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE someone come to the realization that they let something and someone wonderful slip through their hands, they have to discover this themselves. I have wanted and have tried to do the same thing before in my younger days and it never works. It has to come from themselves.
2007-05-26 14:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Useless Knowledge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This action takes the two.. ask your self what is it that you are doing..? he is just playing his cards right not to push up so hard with you. it takes two to work hard at having each other with a good understanding and trust..Sounds like you do not trust him or your self.
2007-05-26 14:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rofl you're such a b-i+cH!
Anyway to answer your question, break up like normal and start talking to anther guy, right in front of him. (bring someone and prep them before you do it, that way he'll ask for ur number or w/e and you'll tell him) your boyfriend will flip out. (then sit down and say, "We can still be friends")
LOL film it and put it on youtube and name it "Iroq_m0nki3 is a genuis"
2007-05-26 14:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by .BAD.m0nki3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's all up to you. Just be kind and talk things out rather than just a quick "it's over". Talk about how you feel, how he feels, etc...
2007-05-26 14:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋