I am his official punching bag, everytime I see him he hits me in the shoulder. What do I do? He always makes fun of me in general? I used to bully him when we were small but starting at age 13 the tables were turned and he gets me now for fun. I have understood now how horrible it is to be bullied but I think we are even now and I have told him this. He is stronger than me now by the way.
2007-05-26 06:20:06 · 23 answers · asked by 568129 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you cant stop it ..... but you could be really nice to him and kill him with kindness
2007-05-26 06:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bullied him, it is likely that his actions are a form of payback. You could try the approach of reason, to embarrass him into stopping. For example, try
John, I've asked you to stop and you continue. So the obvious conclusion is you don't respect me much. So I can protect myself, how low does this disrespect go. If I ask you to help will you? If I ask you not to spit on me, will you? Is it a little lack of respect, or a lot?
You can make the examples of low respect as hurtful or deep as you need to. The goal is to focus him on drawing a line respect you this much but not that much. Once he draws the line, you can either a) ask where you can draw a comparable line so that the two of you are on a level playing field (you in essence are searching for something of value to withhold) or b) ask why the line exist there, and what it takes to move it up. If the conversation is done in front of the right peers or influences, you will get a behavior change, or you will come away better able to protect yourself.
2007-05-26 06:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat with my little sister, I had control and was a bully when we were young, now we're adults and she's the evil one. It's not an easy thing to stop, I try telling myself that it's her insecurity that causes her to act that way but it doesn't help esp. when kindness only plays one part in how far you go in life apparently....I would just try to move out because physical violence is way out of line. If it makes you feel any better I have been totally publically humiliated by boys who weren't even related to me, it's almost worse than the physical beating.
2007-06-02 23:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by SugarFrog46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? I have an older sister, and from experience, they generally are mean to you until one of you moves out of the house. That's just the way it is. When they want something from you, they are your best friend, but every other time, watch your back. The good thing is though, when you move out you will probably miss each other subconciously and become even closer than when you actually lived together. That's what happened to my sister and I. Hope that helps.
2007-05-26 06:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by sdgirljen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you think you're even now, maybe he doesn't. Have you apologized for bullying him when you were younger? That may be all he's waiting for. After you do that tell him that he's stronger than you now and even though he's joking it's beginning to hurt and you would like him to stop. Good luck!
2007-06-02 17:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually none of what you suggested will probably work. Its not because of what he did before, you reap you sow my a**, I just like hitting him. He can take a punch very well, each time I hit him is like me complimenting him. Plus he cant play mind games with me because I'm better at them then he is. There are an infinite number of evil things I can do to him, and I would enjoy doing most of them. So sorry bro your pretty much screwed!
2007-05-26 10:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by His Brother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not so fun when the tables are turned! try talking to him with both of your parents are there to back you up. If this is not an option. start taking martial arts classes and use what you learn. you don't have to be stronger or bigger to be the victor!
2007-05-30 11:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him that you're sorry for what you did when you were kids. It sounds to me you two are a bit old to still be physically fighting. Tell him the truth, if he continues, tell some type of authority figure.
2007-05-26 06:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good swift kick in the nuts will do the trick. No matter how strong he is, this will stop him. Let him know you're not going to take his crap anymore.
2007-05-26 06:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by crknapp79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not show that you are weaker then he is or you could start working out and get stronger then he is.when he hits you hit him back 2 times as hard show he that you are willing to fight
2007-06-02 21:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got my brother psychologically scarred before he became bigger than me. He is 5 inches taller, and 50 lbs heavier but i still beat him up because he is afraid.
out wit your brother, hide his toothbrush, and one day jump on his back and start choking him. Make him afraid of you.
2007-05-26 06:23:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋