Me and my boyfriend had an argument this morning, he accused me of sleeping with other lads (which i can honestly say i'm not, and wouldn't since i love my bf so much!) So anyway, we had this argument and when he took me home i just got out of the car and went (no goodbye, i love you, no kiss or anything!)
It's been hours and he's not contacted me yet!
I don't want us to break up, but i don't want to forgive him just like that because it hurt when he accused me and i want to show him i'm not going to just stand and take it when he accuses me!
So where do i take this? What would you do now if this happened to you?
2007-05-26 05:38:16 · 16 answers · asked by Rachel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, i should say, he's your boyfriend and he should be able to trust you with things like these. i suggest giving him some space until he forgives. but if doesnt forgive, [if i were you] i'd talk to him about it and tell him that he needs to trust me. because if he really did love you, he would understand. but if he doesnt, then girl ! (: there are other guys out there just waiting for you.
2007-05-26 05:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, what would cause him to make that type of accusation? is he insecure, did he hear a "rumor," etc. if you say that you didn't cheat, then you need to do these 4 things;
1.) find out why he thinks you cheated.
2.) reassure him that you would never do such an act. he may just be insecure. if so, then you need to reiterate how much you love and care for him. and, that you would never do anything to hurt him.
3.) you need to remind him that the one that points the finger is usually the one that's doing the cheating. with that being said, you need to ask him if there is something that he is feeling guilty about. now, this isn't always true. it's more so a "theory."
4.) if he is just trying to start a fight w/ you because he is unhappy w/ your relationship.
hope that helps. and, good luck!
2007-05-26 12:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by loves21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has some trust issues. Did you do anything that may lead him to believe that you have cheated on him?? If that is the case, then just clear up these misinterpretations. You really do sound like you love him a lot - and it would be a shame for you guys to break up over something that is really nothing.
However, I understand why he hasn't tried to contact you ... you gave him the impression that you didn't want to talk when you just left him, so he may be waiting for you to call first.
The best suggestion I can give is to try and work things out. Suck it up and call him. Tell him that you haven't cheated on him, you love him, and you want him to trust you.
Best of luck!!
2007-05-26 12:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by jaytotheackie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me and someone accused me of what he accused you of doing I would make a stand. Hold out until he calls you to apologize for his accusations and how he treated you. When he does apologize, I would ask him why he thinks you would do something like that and why he doesn't trust you. Relationships are based on trust - Trust until trust is broken. Does he have valid reasons to believe you broke it?
2007-05-26 12:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a little bit of a Drama queen! I think you need to cut him loose, i have a feeling he's going to accuse you alot! If you don't want to let him go ask him what would lead him to believe that you slept with others.
2007-05-26 12:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll call eventually so be patient.
If he has no real grounds to accuse you for cheating he will realise that sooner or later...
if he doesnt and still accuses u of such things, then is he worth your love?? probably not.
I would wait... by you calling he might still be very arrogant about his views...
2007-05-26 12:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that if he really loves you he'd believe you. If he doesn't dump him and move on. You have every right to be with someone who trusts you. Not with someone who doesn't. If things don't work out between you two than just know that you'll find a person who will cherish you as you cherish them.
2007-05-26 12:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by 123456 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someway to prove to him that you are not a bad person!
ALSO think about if he's really worth it. If he keeps on thinking that you are not loyal, maybe you shoud rethink dating him. Maybe HE'S trying to hide somethin.
Or if hes really panicing about it, you should talk to him and reassure him you are not doing anything. Maybe he'll CHILL if you do that. But don't let him control your life or anything.
2007-05-26 12:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by xandra.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will contact you dont be afraid of nothing!!!!!!!!! You can tell him if you dont believe me then we should break up. If he really loves you he wont let you go. You should know who you are! without trust your relationship cannot go far
2007-05-26 12:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by vic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait up until tomoro.. if he hasnt contacted you till then, write a message saying; it really hurt when you sayed i would sleep with others, although you know exactly that i love you.... tell him how you feel..but think about it.. if he wouldnt care for you, or wouldnt love you as much as you love him, he wouldnt care if you'd sleep with others... and wouldnt ask you.-. or be upset about it.. as guys arent as emotional as girls...
so he must really love you
wish you all the best
xxx
2007-05-26 12:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋