my bf has been cheating on me and i have evidence for that. There are about 4 other girls. I've been keeping quiet because firstly i have exams (which finish in a week) and because he kept convincing me that whatever i saw/heard was wrong and that i was the wrong one for thinking such things.
In anger i wrote out an e-mail telling him that it was over, showing the evidence for each girl and saying how he played each one and what he said about them. I have been meaning to send it but keep holding back.. i don't know whether i should also forward a copy to each of these girls warning them too (i don't really care what they think of me out of it)..
he lives a little far from me so we haven't been meeting much, but after this week he was coming down and we would have 2 weeks together. I was really looking forward to that. Shall i just send the e-mail, and if so, to the girls too? or shall i wait and see what happens once exams finish?.. This is really distracting me.
2007-05-26 05:04:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just get rid of him. He's a cheat and a liar!!
2007-05-26 05:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has been cheating on you and those other girls as well. Do you think that he truly loves any of you? You have every right ot be angry, He has betrayed your trust and the trust of those other girls as well. Would you not want someone to tell you if your boyfriend was untrue to you and had evidence as well? Send him and all the other girls a copy of what you have, Then perhaps he will grow up and learn that women are not play toys for his amusement.. Send it before the exams and tell him not to bother coming down. Then focus on your exams. He is not worthy of your affections, You deserve a man that will show you the love, tenderness and respect that you deserve in a relationship. I hope this helped you and Best of luck..
2007-05-26 12:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him the e-mail, but don't send the girls. They probably might not even know that he has a girlfriend. If this is really distracting you, then do it now. It will stop disturbing you since exams is a big thing. In this short life, there's no time to waste. Why should you hold back when he never held back when cheating on you? If you keep holding back your anger, it will slowly turn into depression, hate, guilt, loneliness. Trust me, I've been cheated on.
2007-05-26 12:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, concentrate on your exams only. forget about your boyfriend until exams are over. you should be stress free to concentrate on exams. then send the email. if you are 100% positive that he has been cheating, than send it and send it to the other girls too. if he is doing this to you he doesnt deserve you. if you are sure he has cheated but he keeps trying to convince you its not that way, than maybe you both need to take a break and think things over.
good luck.
2007-05-26 12:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. I applaud you for putting your exams first. Deep down you realize this is a passing relationship and 2 years from now he will be lucky if you remember his last name. Move on and learn. No need to rescue the other girls they probably knew he had a girlfriend anyway. So you owe them nothing and that includes any anger you have for them. Send nothing, Do nothing, Keep you dignity. It might kill you inside but do not let him see you sweat.
2007-05-26 12:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say ditch him and if you want revenge tell the girls, if not then let them find out for themselves but either way....ditch the loser right away you can do much better... i wouldnt even send him the email id just not answer/return his calls and keep yourself busy with things you enjoy to keep your mind off of it. just disappearing from his life will make him realize he screwed up and then when you do finally talk to him tell him you have moved on to better things dont give him the satisfaction of him thinking he hurt you
2007-05-26 12:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending email messages to these girls could form the basis of a lawsuit he could against you for something like defamation of character. Be careful of this one.
2007-05-26 12:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should dump him asap.hold off on the email then when he comes down to see you, tell him its over.if a guy cheats on you, you shouldnt take that.thats horrible.just try as hard as you can to forget about it,and study to get away from him.and yes,you should tell the girls!
2007-05-26 12:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by kkkggggg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM YOU KNOW!!! then tell him that if he dosen't stop, he can go find someone else!!!!!yes, send the e-mail, but, tell him that your heart is breaking every time he cheats!
if all else fails DUMP HIM!!!
and YES,send it to the girls also.
2007-05-26 12:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by cheetoh/ waffles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is distracting you, you need to send the emails and then QUIT COMMUNICATING WITH HIM. Why do you keep punishing yourself. HE ISN'T WORTH IT..........SEND THE EMAIL AND GET IT OVER WITH. then study, study, study.........
2007-05-26 12:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋