Are all married people like this?

Question

There was a man, engaged to a woman, ready to marry in 2 weeks. Another woman cam across and won him over, so he dumped the first one and married the Second woman.
The second woman proved to be a wonderful find: though he was well to do, she dismissed all the maids, started cleaning and cooking herself, never complained about anything, all smiles. He cheated on her and set 2 regular mistresses, to attend on Tuesday and Friday - when he supposedly had "Bible classes". What a bastard, thought I, to treat that woman like this!
But three days ago I found out that before she married him, she had a lot of men, had sex for money, and conned a lot of money off men. She slept with them just before the marriage, and even after her marriage she kept in touch. Yet she looked so nice, and innocent!
Now I feel awfully BAD. They seem to be a perfect couple. I do not know hot to explain what I feel, it is like: if these two were like this, how can something be nice on this earth?

I feel like I never do anything in my life, because, if just to marry one must do all these bad things... They seemed so real, and nice, and sweet!

Answer 1

just because things look good on the outside does not mean a thing it is whats on the inside that counts and it sounds like to me those 2 are rotten apples

Answer 2

Many people hide who they are very well. It can take some time to really get to know someone. I know some people will disagree with me for religious reasons, but I think you should always live together for several years, before getting married. Living together is the only real way to see the real person, before making a legal/religious commitment.

Also, even in good marriages, people change. The two have to be willing to change and grow together, or they grow apart. I really think marriage should be put on the back burner, if there are any doubts in your mind at all. Sometimes our gut tries to warn us, but we want a life partner so bad, we ignore our gut. If you have a bad feeling about something being not right early in a relationship, it will not get any better, the longer the relationship goes. So, you have to ask yourself... are you willing to live with it? And remember... nobody is perfect.

Answer 3

Well, let me tell you a story, my friend:
This man and woman met 29 years ago, and it was instant love. She moved in with him, and everything was perfect. She was afraid that something had to go wrong. Then she realized that she was pregnant. She got scared and called a friend who was very hyper. Told her that she didn't know what to do, she was scared to tell him. The friend convinced her to leave.
She was packing things into the car, and was about to tell the friend to put it back, this was not what she wanted, but she looked next door at his mom's house, and she was watching all of this out the window. She didn't know the mom, so this scared her even more.
She had nowhere to go, so she went back to the man that she had left for the right guy. The right guy told her that he wished she'd never left, and wished that she'd come back. Someone overheard and told the guy she'd gone to what he said. He threatened the right guy's life if he came near her again. She believed that he was crazy enough to do it, so she didn't try to go back to her beloved.
Eventually this guy walked out on her for another, (he didn't want her, but he didn't want the right guy to have her either). Others were telling the right guy stories about things that the woman had supposedly done, and none of them were true, but he didn't know what to believe. They never ended up back together, but 24 years later, he told her that he'd always loved her. She came back to him, and we've been together for 5 years, and as happy as we would have been 29 years ago.

So you see, for every messed up story, there is a happy ending to a sad one.

Answer 4

I feel grateful that two people who are equally so bad found each other...at least they did not each marry a good person, and screw them over. I am glad to see when bad people get married to other bad people. Less bad people for us good folks to get tangled up with! Be glad!

Answer 5

not all marriages are like that some people really believe in until death do we part forsaking all others and all that good stuff, but the real question here is what does it really matter to you, not being mean about it, but unless you are one of the 2 its really not up to you to judge either of them

Answer 6

The world, I'm afraid is not all rosy. Get used to these bad things because sometimes it seems there's more bad than good.

Answer 7

there are alot of different people in the world, i cannot explain all of them, made for eachother i suppose...

Answer 8

not all people.