Does holding a grudge mean that there is no forgiveness?

Question

Is it wrong to just forget but not forgive?
What exactly is forgiveness? You know no longer harbor anger? Or you allow your inflictor to befriend you? Are there different degrees of forgiveness?

Answer 1

Yes, that's just what it means. I make it a point not to offer forgiveness unless a person asks for it, apologizes for the hurt they created. But you do eventually forget. I guess I would not be a friend with such a person in that case, however, which means I was holding a grudge. But sometimes I just get tired of the negative energy, and decide to simply walk away from it all, including the hurt and the grudge and the need for an apology.

Answer 2

If someone's holding a grudge than they haven't forgiven the person who wronged them. Forgiveness is done mainly for the person wronged, so that you can move on and not be consumed by feelings of anger. Holding a grudge negates that.

Forgiveness also helps the person who committed the transgression to move on without humiliation, or fear of anger and reproach. If a grudge is held against them, they don't get the opportunity to move on, and it can be worse for them than the original wrong committed.

Forgiveness should be 100%.

I've never waited for a person to ask forgiveness, I've offered it almost immediately after the incident. I wouldn't ask a person to humble themselves to me that way. I appreciate an apology as much as the next person, but I try to put myself in their shoes to understand their actions. By doing that it's very easy to forgive.

Answer 3

yes......yes, for you haven't done anything with the grudge but to shove it in a "closet" waiting to be let out.....forgiveness is to clear the slate of any wrong doing.....once forgiven, if you have anger yet, you did not forgive.....love the sinner, hate the sin;many people become friends with someone they have forgiven, lol, usually it's a member of family, or even yourself that needs forgiveness...degrees of forgiveness? never heard of any, forgiveness is forgiveness, however, in some cases, it is best to not associate with the person afterward if there are other factors which the person refuses to let go of that will hurt you or your loved ones.

If we do not forgive, then our salvation is at a standstill, the forgiveness is neccessarry so that we can be blessed, as well as the person whom you need to forgive....

God be with you, Take care! :)

Answer 4

Well.. if you want to be forgiven you have to forgive others. Colossians 3:13 " Being gentle to one another and having forgiveness for one another, if anyone has done wrong to his brother, even as the Lord had forgiveness for you"
Matthew 6:14-15 "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."

Ultimately not forgiving others is HARDER on you than it it whoever you are NOT forgiving because negativity takes a toll on our physical bodies... makes you old!! The person who your harbouring anger towards is probably carrying on with their life.. not even thinking of the issue....why shouldn't you?
About 3 years ago, I wrote down every single thing I felt someone had done wrong to me... stuff I was holding on to, and angry about. After I prayed about and forgave the person, who had offended me, and do you know how much of a weight was lifted off my shoulders? I felt like I just started to breath again! It was amazing.
If God forgives us, we are in turn to forgive those who hurt us. In doing so, it doesn't mean you have to put yourself in harms way or set yourself up to get hurt again, by being around them, it just means RELEASE yourself, from the bondage on anger.
Best wishes!! Hope this helps:)

Answer 5

In a word, yes.
I like what others have said about forgiveness lifting a burden off the shoulders of the one who forgives.
God has forgiven us for more sins than we can count. We should do the same.

Answer 6

I believe you are to forgive and forget

Turn the other cheek

So a grudge to me is not fully forgiveness

Answer 7

forgiving is a COMMANDMENT. sin of this, bring on sickness.poverty, diseases, ect. forgiving them HEALS YOU..first..letting GO..again..heals YOU..holding a grudge will NOT BIND them of enjoying life..it bind YOU..of enjoying LIFE..see how smart GOD is? IF JESUS can forgive the romans government of killing him..as well the jewish religous leaders..so much we..forgive..for our OWN LIBERTY.
against..SIN bring DEATH..unforgiveness BIND US..not them.
LOVE covers their SINS against us..is the example CHRIST did..on the cross..if ye love me..obey my commandment..and LOVE is number ONE commandment over tithing.over..praying..over studying..daily..ect..LOVE is a SPIRIT..and abide in LOVE..is US..abiding with GOD spirit..who is..LOVE. apart from LOVE..we walk in darkness with satan.