It's been 4 months since my ex took a break from the relationship to work on personal problems of his own. I let him know repeatedly that I am here for him if he needs anything. Well it's been about a month now since I've had any contact with him at all because I am trying to give him his space. He recently posted a blog stating (cryptically) that he has been thinking about me a lot lately, and that I have been the inspiration for a lot of songs that hes been writing for his band. If he is thinking about me that much, I figure there has got to be something there. He was burned VERY badly by his ex, I don't know if he just got a little freaked out because he started developing feelings for me and it started getting serious? But I just don't know if I should try to contact him, or continue to wait for him to come back to me? I know I should probably wait until he's ready to come back to me, but I don't want him to think that I dont care...
2007-05-26 04:08:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just got back from California and emailed him a little about my trip and asked how he was doing. He said he is okay, not the best but he is managing to get by. He said things are still uneasy, but their working their way out. I told him again that if he needed anyone to talk to that I'm here for him. I emailed him last night and sincerely apologized for jumping to conclusions about him, cuz I had gotten a little frustrated with him a while back, and just asked if things were cool between us but haven't heard back. Should I not have done that?? I just don't know if I should just wait for him to come back to me, or try to contact him once in a while
2007-05-26 04:09:16 · update #1
His ex is WAY out of the picture believe me. He hates her with a passion for what she did to him. I had even asked him if he was back with his ex a while back and he said not a chance in hell, which I deff believe because he is very honest. Thanks for all the advice guys
2007-05-26 04:47:06 · update #2
move on, he sounds like a sissy la la whiner baby
get yourself a real man
a manly man
2007-05-26 04:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that the whole blog deal was kinda a way to let you know he still cares but he probly doesnt want to make the first move back into the relationship i think that it was a hint, if you will, so i think you should call him and say what you want to say but dont be to blunt about it and ask him how he is doing and how or if he wants to get back together maybe ask him to go with you out for coffee of somewhere where u guys can talk in person without too many distractions tell him how u feel and be urself it seems like u havent seen eachother for a while so be prepared and i hope it all works out *** ask him to hear one of his songs lol hope this helps
2007-05-26 11:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by miniweasel21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done a lot already. You have done enough also. He said that he needs space to work out a problem...give it to him. He'll come back to you when he is back on track. You have already told him that you are there for him...he knows this. Be patient. Good luck to you
2007-05-26 11:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will to give him his space, because really that's all you can do if he wants it. Continue to contact him on occasion, but never in a pushy matter. Let him know that you care for him and you want him to be ok, he will appreciate it and come back if and when he is ready.
2007-05-26 11:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Spark of Insanity 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. Communicating is relating.
Instead of an email, try a letter. I means more to people when they see your writing and you took the time. Get some nice stationery.
2007-05-26 11:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well dont die wondering - just contact him - he may be the type that is - looking for a way in - but wont make it himself - in which case thats the way it is and thats the way it is always be - but after two weeks he aint going to do it - so you contact him and say it like it is and then at least you know or dont - coz else you'll be wondering for ever
2007-05-26 11:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by ccsnsw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like he prefers everything to be complicated and has a lot of baggage. Do yourself a big favor and don't get sucked into his constant problems. I would find someone more stable and less needy.
2007-05-26 11:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by hottiecj *~♥~*~♥~* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
our problems sound so much a like. in my case i am giving him space. when he needs you he'll come back. that is what i am doing and i have figured out that he needs me some days and not others. last night "i put my foot down" don't let them take advantage of you! wait.
2007-05-26 11:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said that he mentioned you in his blog...CRYPTICALLY.... maybe he was speaking of the ex that burned him.. and not about you....
just leave him alone... people don't take months to work out their issues... it is time for you to get the hint that it is over.. there is no you and him anymore... move on and find another man... this one is obviously lost to you.. his heart is with his EX
2007-05-26 11:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
here u, its better u contact him once in a while just to ask "are things going fine? "" which will make him feel ur there for him,,,,,,,,, and he will feel to reach u if he is madly in need for any help , so keep in touch with him once in a while,,,,,,,,, all the best there
2007-05-26 11:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait for him to contact you. If you rush in then he might feel too crowded and might want want out of this relationship
2007-05-26 11:13:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋