The administration at the school I work for calls me a name I dont want to be called.?

Question

The principle get highly upset and assistant principle gets irritated b/c I want to be called Ms.Lisa instead of Ms.Davis. I didnt think it should be a big deal on what name I want to be called as long as it is in respect towards me.Apparently, it was disrespectful to them,but respectful to me to be called Ms. Lisa.So, the principle and assistant warns teachers to call me Ms.Davis & have the children call me Ms. Davis.When the children thought Ms. Lisa was my last name. Now, they have some of the children disrespecting my wishes. B/c now some of the kids knows my first and last name. I was so distraught I called the school board to see if it was against the policy, but it was not. I found out it was a personal issue they have against me.My be they are jealous b/c I m really popular and well known throughout the school from the pre-k- 5th grade. So, I started to explain to the children what is really going on and to continue to call me Ms.Lisa out of respect to me and that Im tolerating

to get to what I want in life. You will learn that as you get older. The children actually respect me even more so after explaining to them what happening. What is your take on this issue?

Answer 1

I am appalled at this! In every school I attended this was not the case. The students were allowed to call teacher's by their first name, as long as the Ms. Mrs. or Mr. was in front. The only exception was if a teacher perferred the last name. I feel their term of "Ms. Davis" is being used impersonal. They possibly have an issue about closeness and authority. This issue should have never been brought up. Hopefully you will have a chance to talk to the superintendent or tell your side of the story. If this is not the case, I would tell him/her "I desired to be called Ms. Lisa". In my opinion, "Ms. Lisa" sounds more like an eager, cheerful and caring team leader. "Ms. Davis" could sound to some as impersonal, distant, and at times unavailable. Children should feel we are ready and available to help them. I'm not an expert on name calling, but I feel you should be able to use your first name and get the same respect. What difference does it make? What if you had two last names? Example: Ms. Lisa Joy. Joy for instance could be a last name or a first.
Because you are working for this school. I would most assuredly let the School Board know, also the Department Of Labor. This is very close to harassment; due to the fact that some of the children are already calling you the other name. "Even though Ms. Davis is also your name, this is not what you asked to be called. With the principle's consent they are disrespecting you by calling you by another name". Does this cause you to feel uncomfortable on your job now? "After all this time"? At job interview's employers will ask, "what do you want to be called"?
This often goes on the application. It is usually proper to call someone by their first name as long as the person invites this. Why are they making this an issue? "Ms. Lisa" is an appropriate name. There is nothing wrong with your name. You asked to be called this. Children should NOT be taught to undermine adults. Most are smarter than we realize and are fully aware of what's going on. I personally don't like what this school is teaching. You should be respected and this sounds like a dog and pony show! I admire you for standing up for your rights. I feel that you should Not have discussed this with the children. This should be discussed with the School Board.

Answer 2

You need to folllow what the administrators say. Ms, Mrs, or Mr and then the LAST name is the standard form of address for a teacher. If you are instructing kids in the pre-k - 5th grade, it is just going to confuse them to use your first name with "Ms.".

You can already see the confusion you have caused with some of the students calling you Lisa Davis now and things like that. It all could have been avoided if you just went by Ms. Davis.

It isn't about what you like, it is about the standard form of address for a teacher at an elementary school.

I can't believe you have gotten your students involved with a conflict you are having with the faculty. You aren't showing a lot of maturity.

Judging by the grammar and spelling errors in your question, it is a wonder (and a bit worrisome) that you even have a job there.

Get over yourself.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You didn't mention if anyone else is called by their first name, or if it's all last names for everyone. In my child's school, it's Mr. or Miss. Last Name; period. The reasoning is that it has to do with the familiarity the children are allowed to have with adults. In college, I never call a professor or secretary by their first name. I never call the custodial staff that I've been introduced to by their first name. In professional settings, it's gnerally a last name basis until heirarchy has been determined. Unless, of course, that profession is fast food. Children do not have this social rules ingrained in them yet. It's your responsibility to make sure they learn the skills they need to be successful in life.

Whether you invite them to or not, the administration may be concerned that you're teaching children that it's okay to call adults they aren't related to and their parents aren't familiar with by their first names. It's not okay in our society. So yes, there is "disrespect" there because children referring to an adult by the first name is disrespecting the social norms. Mr. Rogers is Mr. Rogers, not Mr. Fred. Notice? In most children's shows, adults are Mr. or Ms., children or child-like critters are by their first name. It's social order. As a person working in the education environment, you're just as responsible for teaching social norms as you are for doing any other job.

In any case. If you don't like your employer's policy, it's time to find a different job where the policies are more suited to you. The choice on how the childrend refer to you isn't yours to make and you've checked all your options already.

If you chalking this up to a popularity contest and jealousy, I think you, perhaps it may help to take a mental step back and take a look at the situation without feeling angry or insulted.

Answer 5

sorry but calling anyone older (that you don't know extremely really well and even then it must have a mrs. in front of it which you have) than you by their first names is a sign of disrespect to them and if it is a teacher it is a disrespect to the school as well. I still call my friends parents mrs. (insert last name here). It raises them up a class instead of making them you equals. Although you may perfer mrs. Lisa because that is what you remember as you name, it is informal and is teaching the kids that you are not to be respected. I doubt their jealous because you "popular" most teachers thrive on the fact that they are scarred of (at least my mom does and shes a teacher), in the adult world most people aren't that petty.

Answer 6

So, your name is Lisa Davis, right? Do you not think the parents and students have a right to know your name?

The only good thing I see here is that thank goodness you're not a teacher.

For you, it's also a good thing you're not in my district.

Edit: And you ought to be old enough to know that "Ms." is an abbreviation for "manuscript". Your title is most likely Miss, so you should be called "Miss Davis" by students, if not also by [other] adults at school.

Answer 7

What is the reason behind the Mrs. Lisa vrs Mrs Davis? It probably just confuses everyone.

Answer 8

i would think a teacher could pick whatever name they want to be called within certain perameters. i've heard of teachers using first names. as far as what you can do about this...i don't know if there is anything. if they harass you in various ways, you might be able to build a legal case, if you want to go that route. other than that, i guess find another district.

Answer 9

Yes, but then again...

Did your actions teach the children to disrespect the established authority? Kinda like demanding your bosses alter their actions just to suit your personal feelings? Who's in charge?

Answer 10

does it really matter i've been called a lot more than just my name just live with it x