when i spank what do I use hand-belt-flat slipper?

Question

yesterday i saw my girl pushing and slapping her brother i told her to stop she did but she did it again she is 9 .so i told her that momma was gonna her spanking so i told her to stand in the conor of my bedroom so when went up stair and went in my bedroom i went sat on my bed and told her to come her i told her to pull down her sweat pants and your underwear below your but then i put her over my knee a gave the spankingthen i told i loved her

Answer 1

9 year old girls respond well to the traditional method... over the knee, panties down, hand slaps bare bottom until crying uncontrollably.

You have obviously made a decision to use spanking as a form of discipline with your daughter. That is fine. It is pointless for all these people to say that spanking is wrong, when you have already made the decision to use spanking. Your question was how to best give a spanking.

I personally dislike using an instrument to spank. Hand on bare bottom is best. The point is to discipline, not do damage. I have used a paddle over jeans but that caused too much bruising. I also used a leather sandal a few times but that was for extra serious punishment.

Answer 2

First of all I'm not against a swat on the butt when they are younger and its a serious situation like going in the road ,getting burned going by a pool...
You never hit a child in anger and you use only your hand in the proper way...
You do not have them pull down there pants especially at age 9 this is border line abuse
You saw them acting this way so why didn't you sit them down and ask them what was going on..You had the opportunity to explain that hitting each other was wrong.She should have told her brother she was sorry and been sent to her room or had privileges taken away.
And during a spanking is not the time to say "I love you"
as we teach our children its better to use your words and at her age you need to lead by example..
Maybe some parenting classes would help.

Answer 3

Greg get a clue!! This question is absolutely repulsive. I am not sure if you are serious, if you are how sad. Spanking a child is your choice, and for the record I am not against it. But using an object is way out dated and wrong. Not to mention pulling off your daughters clothes, how degrading. If you are serious about this, maybe you should stop asking on Yahoo and start looking up some good parenting classes in your area.

Answer 4

Assuming this isn't a joke-question that someone posts just to get a rouse out of the answerers, I'm going to say that you need to check your state's laws. Some states only allow spanking to be done with the hand, no impliments.

Answer 5

You dont have to make em drop trou. The key to a good spank is the surprise.
You did right telling her to stop. You come back and shes up to it again. This is where you messed up.
Did you ask "why are you hitting you brother?" Maybe he was being a lil jerk when you weren't looking. Once you find out what happened, ( Im sure they were both wrong)
You quickly pop both of them on the leg with your four fingertips and tell them to cut it out in your best momma voice!

Answer 6

You hit you daughter to teach her not to hit other people? Does that really sound like a good idea?

You should never do anything to a child that you would not allow them to do to others. Model your good behavior, don't imitate their misbehavior.

You should not spank, but IF you do, use only your had, and use it only over the clothes.

And 9 is too old to spank anyway.

Answer 7

I disapprove of spanking a 9 year old. It only teachs her violents. You should punish her by taking something away from her like TV.

Answer 8

While I never bared my kids' butt to spank, always used a hand---not anything else.

I never told my kids that I loved them while busting their butt. They don't hear it, they don't want to hear it either. And I know they would think "WTH---she says she loves me while busting my ***??"
Talk about it after they've calmed down, you've calmed down and can talk rationally. Tha'ts when I tell my kids I love them. And that while I love to death I will not tolerate their behavior and there will be punishments for their behavior.

Answer 9

Personally, I think that if you want your kids not to hit how are you teaching them not to if you hit them? I think it sends a confusing message to the children. There are other ways to approach this other than spanking. I know that kids need discipline but it is the type of discipline you show them that will help in correcting their behavior. Like people that scream at their kids instead of talking end up raising screamers.

Answer 10

Isn't it amazing how many of you come on here with a male avatar, have no history with Y/A, and claim to have problems with your children, mention violent responses to said problem, and then don't really ask a question? Find something else to do.