im 28 weeks and 3 days im due aug 16 my unit deploys to iraq in november to do a 15 month tour which means i will be going wth them but id probably be leavin in dec unless they really need me over there they might send me b4, my son will be about 5 months when and if i leave, i really dont wanna leave him he'll basicall still be a newborn ill have the choice of going home or stayin in the army and leavin to iraq i dont know what do if i go when i come back hell be bout a year and a half aleady walkin and talkin and probably callin my mother mom and i missed it all because i wasnt around now im a single mother i have to make sure i make the right decision if i go to iraq i know i wont have to worry about no money no benefits nothing me and my son will be more than good but if i go home ill have to try to find a good job i really wanna stay with my son because im a mother before im a soldier but i just need to know that im makin the right decision
2007-05-26 03:46:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You are making the right decision. Going to Irag would be bad both for your health and the health of the baby. Not only will you be gone for 15 months, but there is no guarantee that you will be back at the end of that 15 months. Your tour could be extended or, heaven forbid, you could be injured or killed by insurgents. You should stay home and raise your son.
2007-05-26 03:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Soccer Tease 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is really a tough call, but I have to say that missing your new baby's first moments( first time crawling, walking, first time he says "mama", etc.) will be something you always regret. Also you mentioned that when you come back, if you come back, he will probably be calling your mom "mom". The first year of your child's life is the most important. Without you there to nurture him that special bond created between a mother and child at this crucial time in his existence won't be there. You will want to make up for lost time with a child that virtually doesn't know you (besides from photos).Please make the right choice and stay home with your baby.
2016-05-18 02:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by gertrude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of sounding like a cliche, I believe you can better serve your country and the country's future by being a mom to your son and not being a soldier. I commend you for your duties and honor you as a veteran, but there's nothing more important or greater in this world and for the future of this world than mothering a child.
If it were me, I'd stay home in a heartbeat.
2007-05-26 03:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by cottagemama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should do what you feel is right, but you also have to look at you and your sons future. My husband is in the Navy, I don't know what you are qualified to do on the outside of the military but I know if my husband were to get out he would have a hard time getting a good job that pays well with the skills and training he has from the military and the job he has, then also we would not have the benefits that the military offers. So I would say if you have a loving person to care for your son while you are gone I would go if it is better in the long run.
2007-05-26 03:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think the best thing you could do for you and your son would be to be with him. there does come a time wen you have to find out what means the most to you. kids grow up soooo fast and the best thing you could give him is love. if you are looking for a job that pays well you should look into caring for people at a nursing home. you don't need to go to college all u have to do is take this short class and buy some scrubs. my sister does it and she makes 12 dollers an hour
2007-05-26 03:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kacie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serving your country is a great thing. Thank you for your service. However.... your child needs his Mommy more than we need you in Iraq!!
Love him, enjoy him, and be at peace with the fact that the time you served has helped to make this world a little better. Now raise your beautiful baby.
2007-05-26 04:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by sunkissed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well thats good that ur loyal to ur country, but girl u have a child on the way. wait for a little wile and then in a couple months after the baby's born make ur decision, DO WANT TO B A MOTHER OR A SOLDIER? thats ur decision not any elses.
2007-05-26 03:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by bay_bear2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or you can go to Iraq and DIE and never see your son again!!! ever think of that? you are seriously pondering going to fight a pointless war for George Bush over spending the MOST important time with your son in the beginning of his life? wow !! not only do you not want to put the burden on your mother of having to raise him should you die but you should not do that to your son he did not ask to be born ya know ! i hope you do the right thing
2007-05-26 04:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay home with your son because there is always that slight chance that you might not be coming home. Then you would miss your whole sons life and he would have never known his real mom. That's just my opinion its really your decision.
2007-05-26 03:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would stay home with your son. your baby will need you more than ever. im sure your mom is a wonderful mom and would take great care of him. but a baby bonds with its mother so early that being away from him may so soon will confuse him. and nothing hurts more than your own son calling someone else mom, because thats who they really think is mom.
2007-05-26 03:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by mommy jaycee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋