My girlfriend is pregnant. Her boobs hurt every morning. I am 25 and she's 24. We've been together for 5 years already. She's the one for me. I know I will marry her. we love each other so much. I'm very much head over heels over her. She is 16 weeks pregnant. I'm not ready to have a baby yet. What do I do? She wants to keep the baby and we are not married yet.
2007-05-26 03:43:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You and your girlfriend should speak to a Planned Parenthood counselor. They have professionals that can give you options and advice on what to do with an unwanted child.
They could suggest having an abortion, or if you are ethically opposed to abortion, you could give the baby up for adoption. They will also give you education on proper forms of contraception, such as condoms, birth control pills, etc.
If she is the one for you, maybe you might wind up keeping the baby and starting a wonderful family. It's all up to the both of you. But seek a professional family counselor first.
Good luck to you
2007-05-26 03:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by saintsantiago 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it's not "serious girlfriend problems..." It's serious "baby problems" you're having... but not to worry!
If you love her and she loves you (which 5 years together sounds like there's a lot of love) then bringing a child into this world is only natural. You may not feel ready yet, but very few people ever are... even when they think they are and get pregnant on purpose! First of all you need to calm down and be strong for your g/f... she's going to need the support of a strong man behind her these next several months. When that baby gets here, you'll be surprised at how natural parenting comes. You'll hold that precious little bundle in your arms and feel so much love for it, that the idea of raising this new little being will be a joy. I was 19 and my husband had just turned 21 when I got pregnant... it was not planned at all. We were totally freaked out at first, but we were there for each other and my husband was so confident in us being good parents (not just me nor him, but both of us) that after a week I had gained complete confidence in the whole idea and was excitedly telling all of our friends, family, and coworkers.
Your best bet now is to start planning for the baby's arrival early. If you're at the store, take a swing through the baby department and pick up some clothes you see on clearance... or if you find diapers on sale, stock up! Buy a little bit at a time every month so you'll have it all ready to go by the time the baby is due, and you won't have to make one huge trip and spend all that money at once, but instead, spread it out. Oh, don't forget the crib! :-)
Congrats and God bless! You'll be a great father!
2007-05-26 04:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this a "serious problem?" You should have used birth control if you didn't want kids yet... At 25 you should have known that. You need to grow up and take responsibility for what you helped create. Buy her a ring, get married, and do the right thing for your child. PS - What do hurting boobs have to do with anything? You have no idea what a woman goes through physically carrying and giving birth to a child. It is the ultimate gift to be pregnant and to have a child. Support her and that child and be there for her.
2007-05-26 04:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love her and want to marry her...No one is ready for children, well I am not. But my husband and I were trying, I knew how much it means to him. We have been together for 13 years (married for 9). I am only slightly more ready, since I am due in two days.
We are prepared, we have the nursery done, all of the baby's stuff is bought and our bag is packed. Mentally however I am not ready. I am sure I will be once I had have the baby in my arms I will feel differently and I am sure you will too.
I know how you feel but you two created something out of love and that is a beautiful thing.
Today it doesn't matter if you are married or not, my brother and his girlfriend have two kids and they are not married.
Good luck to you both
2007-05-26 04:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Aimee B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call this a serious girlfriend problem...
You love her, you want to marry her, she loves you and she wants the baby. Sounds like the answer's right there to me. Get married and enjoy family life!
Babies really are wonderful (and a lot of hard work) and are such joys. I urge you to attend her 20 week ultrasound with her. Then you can see your baby and find out the gender if you want to. It's really amazing.
If you're afraid of your responsibilities as father, you can always ask her doctor or the local hospital or health clinic about fatherhood classes or book or video suggestions.
You're going to have to step up to the plate and become a man a little sooner than you may have planned. But it is SO worth it. You'll be just fine! :)
2007-05-26 03:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by cottagemama 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
marry her.
your 25, your old enough to take responsibility for your life and actions. if your old enough to have sex outside of marriage, you are old enough to take care of the child. she wants the baby, so she is going to have it, and you are going to have to support her in that, and learn to accept it and eventually you will get exited about it anyway.
your saying serious girlfriend problems? i think you mean serious personal problems. She is doing the right thing, choosing to have this child. it is you who needs to stop, clear your head, and take action.
your saying she is the one? you KNOW you will marry her? whats stopping you? if you cant afford it, at least get engaged, give her that sense of security, respect her enough to show her that all because a baby is on its way, does not mean you are thinking of leaving her.
16 weeks preggers is too late for an abortion... i mean murder, anyways. so thats out of the question.
Marry her. Start reading up on how to be a good daddy. support her. 5 years is long enough to decide wether or not your meant to be together.... so show her some maturity and committment already and get a ring on her finger and start preparing yourself to be a daddy. you may not feel ready, but theres not much you can do about that. work full time if your not already, read up, you have nine months to prepare yourself.
and sore boobs comes with pregnancy, dont worry about it. just make sure she is going for very regular doctor checkups as is neccessary.
2007-05-26 03:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are so much in love then get married and have the baby... or have the baby and get married either way, but if the two of you don't keep the baby it most likely will not end up working out because she will blame you for making her give up your child.
2007-05-26 04:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whats right. you should have thought about this before you did what you did. Now she needs you more than anything and you dont want the kid. If you love her, propose to her as soon as she pops the baby out on the table and marry her, be there for her, tell her you love her, and be the best damn father you can be. If it doesnt work out then thats the way it goes, at least give it a shot.
2007-05-26 03:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen you young and i know you might seem like this is the perfect one and you in love but sometimes you got to understand girls go through things and not all the time having a boyfriend around is what she needs. I been there and done that. Maybe you should give her a little space and see how that goes. I know you use to doing every and anything for her and i know you would be hurt by backing off a little but try it. Even if it kills you to do it still try. Im not taking up for her and im not saying what she did is right but she is wrong in her ways to cause if she in a relationship with you flirting and being up in another guy face should be out of the question. Maybe she just need a little space or maybe she is trying to tell you in her own little way that she don't want to be with you. Who Knows. You just have to sit and let things play out and try not to let things bother you so much cause in life you will get hurt you got to toughing up and be ready to accept and deal with those kinds of things. You a teenager bout to be an adult soon there are things in life you need to prepare yourself for. What i use to do when i was in middle school was when my boyfriend started acting like that i use to let them be and eventually they will come around. That always work even today but i tell you what when you think you know someone after being with them for so long take it from me you never will know that person. If you call her and she still act like you don't exist let her be don't hound her. That's not gentlemen behavior. Good Luck and i hope everything works out if not im sorry.
2016-05-18 02:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by gertrude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Marry her then. Make enough money to support the three of you. Marry her. Keep the baby. You made the baby it is YOUR responsibility now to stay with her and support her. :) If the two of you can't handle a baby then put it up for an adoption, alot of people want babies. Don't abort it.
2007-05-26 03:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by hawaianprincess15 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋