My friend has a question about kissing her kids on the lips. Her family has done it for generations, her son is 10 and there is a custody issue involved and his therapist is saying that she shouldn't kiss him on the lips and neither should his sister who is 13. Does anyone out there think it is ok or wrong to do this and why?
2007-05-26 03:26:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't see anything wrong with kissing your kids...I am 38 years old and still kiss my Mom on the lips...this is not a sexual issue...our society anymore wants to make everything dirty and wrong....we need to preserve some of our innocence...
2007-05-26 03:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by unoriginalsoul 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I stop kissing my kids on the lips at around age 6 or 7. I still kiss my 4 y/o on the lips but not my 8 or 13 y/o. I think they are little too old for that. The therapist may be right !
2007-05-26 03:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kissed my dad on the lips until the day he died (I was 26 by then) and my husband and I kiss our kids on the lips, however if there was ever a time that my children weren't comfortable with it, I wouldn't force them to. I would settle for a hug. I think as long as it's not forced it's fine.
I remember when I was 4-5 and my parents wanted me to kiss my grandpa and I didn't want to, but they made me anyway, I didn't like that.
Since the son is 10 maybe he doesn't want to do it anymore.
I will say that my son and daughter don't kiss each other, to me that's not natural. It just doesn't seem right to have siblings kiss on the lips, but I couldn't give you a reason. I never kissed my sister on the lips either.
2007-05-26 04:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter kisses me on the lips. My son used to, he is 17 now and obviously hasn't in years. I would not think anything of a child giving their parents a kiss on the lips. I think it is more about what the child is comfortable with. This is within certain boundaries though. There would obviously be a line of appropriateness to this. Generally speaking though, I don't think just because a mom kisses her son on the lips it means there is something sexual about it. Some kids and parents do and some don't.
If there has been some accusations of innapropriate behavior being made though, it might be best to avoid this just to avoid problems. Parents having problems get very vengeful and will sometimes do their best to get a child to admit to something that may not even be true.
2007-05-26 03:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by linehancomputerservices 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how they are kissing on the lips. If it's just a quick peck then I don't see the issue with it. My mom always kissed us on the lips, I kiss my children on the lips and plenty of other people I know do the same thing. If the mother or sister are doing more than just a quick peck....like kissing how they would a spouse without turning it into a french kiss, then they would be in the wrong.
Or maybe the therapist thinks her son has issues with boundries and so it's more about him then his mother and sister.
2007-05-26 04:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the child feels about this! My brother, 9 and mom still kiss on the lips every once and a while. I kiss my mom on the cheek, and I am 11. It is up to the child when it wants this greeting to stop. The mother should respect the child's desiscion.
2007-05-26 04:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with kissing children on the lips after 1. It's mainly cause I don't want them used to that and kiss other ppl on the lips. A nice mushy kiss on the cheek works for me.
2007-05-26 04:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by jcampwick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like her therapist studies freud. i don't think there is anything wrong with it, especially if it's how the mom was brought up in her family. if the kid doesn't want to, then it's time to stop but, if that's what they do then it should be left alone until yhr kid says different. unfortunatly,in today's world, people have been forced to believe the worst. that may be the reason for the therapist asking them to stop. sad really,that a parent can't show affection the way they want.
2007-05-26 03:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I am wondering what kind of therapist would taint and twist such an innocent mother/child action!! My daughter is 13 and when I kiss her goodbye for school or goodnight we peck on the lips...Taking something pure and beautiful and having to dissect it and analyze it is ever so wrong to me....I would seriously consider changing therapists if I were her...
My best wishes to your friend....
2007-05-26 03:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by Blueper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that is how the family has done it then what is wrong. To change because others do not like it? If one of the kids tell her it is a problem then she might change for that one child. But this is how she was brought up.
2007-05-26 03:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋