yesterday I went to the movies and as I was going up the electric stairs there was this young girls in her twenties that had very big breast and almost nothing to cover them! I mean, it caught my attention and as we got close I said "very nice" she got offended at my comments and I was really surprice at her reaction. my question is why women that dress with very little clothes exposing a lot of skin get offended when men notice them? I"m sure If Brad pitt would have made my comments she would have been like "oh thanks".
what's your take on this issue?
2007-05-26 02:46:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
after I said "very nice' , she responded if I didn't know how to respect women? and I told her. respect is earn not given and if you get offended then dress like a lady! then she got even more upset with me!
2007-05-26 03:09:57 · update #1
you should have told her you are offended with looking at her udders lol.i would be pleased if someone complimented me even if it was my DD's lol
2007-05-26 07:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,I think you asked a great question. I hope I can answer it for you and every other man who may need to know why women do what they do.
Women dress the way they do for one purpose only....to get everyone's attention. It is almost like how a man buys a cool car to get women's attention. The only difference is a woman does not necessarily want the man to physically pursue her, she simply wants him to lust after her.
As far as the woman at the movies goes, she wanted someone to see her breasts, which is why she wore the low cut shirt. But the operative word is "see" not discuss or comment on.
The best thing and probably the safest thing you can do whenever you see a woman flaunting her assets in front of you is, notice them from afar. If she is worth more than her body parts, then she will let that be known if and when she speaks to you.
I hope that helped.
2007-05-26 10:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ugogirl 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if I was the woman, I probably would have just blushed and smiled if someone said something like to me, as long as it wasn't nasty or anything. But that girl may have been dressed like that and not wanting total strangers to comment. Moral of the story is - people are weird. Even if her girls were out there, on a platter,you did not know her, you take a chance at whatever reaction she might give. Don't be surprised. My advice for the future would be this - look and enjoy, but just don't say anything.
2007-05-26 11:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mollyruby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am on the fence with this question. I believe a woman should dress how she wants, but she has to be prepared for such remarks. She can't have her cake and eat it too. If you have your breasts hanging out of a shirt, people are going to look and some may even comment. Doesn't make it right, but it is a reality.
On the other hand, it is not in good taste to comment on them. If you had been in a conversation with her and you were hitting it off and flirting with one another, then a comment like 'you look beautiful in that outfit' may have been proper. Whether or not you feel she is 'asking for a reaction', you can choose to be a gentleman always.
2007-05-26 10:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Um, well you're not Brad Pitt, so you don't have the same luxuries that he does, sorry...
I'm not tryna seem mean when I write this, but this is my legit answer. Maybe you weren't her type and she got offended that you even thought you had a chance with her. I know I get mad when dudes that I don't like do that (not sayin I dress like she did though) But you bein a guy, you didn't do anything wrong. She was puttin her stuff out there, and you were just given a natural reaction. It's her problem.
2007-05-26 09:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
women should be able to dress however they want and not get a sleezy comment in return. just bc you noticed her breast doesn't mean you should comment on them. if you saw someone who was rather large wearing something not so flattering on them and passed them would you have said " ewww"? no you wouldn't have or at least i hope you wouldn't have. and why is that? bc hopefully you were brought up with manners, and were taught that just bc something pops into your head doesn't mean you should say it. Think about it this way, if your sister or mom or someone close to you came home and told you the story i'm sure you would of said "that guy was a jerk to make that comment"
2007-05-26 13:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Journee P 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She probably was not expecting a comment from a total stranger. She was probably caught by surprise. I don't think that women want to get comments from others. They probably just want to attract attention.
In the future, just comment to yourself and not the women who is scantily dressed. You can save yourself and her from further interaction.
2007-05-26 10:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that women dress for other people to comment on (unless it is their interest of the moment). So, unless the lady makes eye contact with you, in the future just think it and say nothing.
2007-05-26 09:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you just answered your own question. She probably didn't like getting that comment from you. But if she got it from someone she liked or found attractive, she'd have a different reaction.
2007-05-26 09:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by beetee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. Women who dress like sluts, be prepared to get treated like sluts. If you dress like a lady, you will get treated like a lady. When women dress with everything showing, it lets men know that they do not value themselves and will give it up easily. If she wanted to be treated with respect, she she should respect herself and put some clothes on.
2007-05-26 11:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, "sk_ _ k, sluty, dress like a lady"??
No one here knows her well enough to pass such harsh judgement.
So she likes to wear revealing clothes, so what. You can look and admire (as you did) but saying anything to her about her appearance is out of line.
Then you tell her to dress like a lady and respect is earned - by what - how she dresses? You don't know anything about her or her life.
Get real.
What a double standard!
2007-05-26 11:26:48 · answer #11 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋