I am a christian. But my girlfriend and I were always caught up in romantic situation. I always refuse to make love with her. Before I truly commited to the church, I did it several times with my xgfs, about 20 times (more or less) wih 3 different girls, but now I realize how bad the sin is, and I've been in sexual abstainance for about 2 years. After finishing my graduate study (MS degree) I'm planning to get married to get rid that sins.
I several times touch and grab my gf's breast (sorry) and kiss them (her t1t5). I know this is wrong, but have I done adultery? Is kissing a sin too.
Thanks, o plz to write Ur source / verses to support your answer
2007-05-26 02:14:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Don't structure your love life around 2000 year old myths. Sin is an outdated concept. Those rules were created because people considered a non-virgin to be used property.
You have a brain. You should use it. I'm sure you know the benefits and risks of having sex. On the plus side, it is a natural function. You should not be ashamed of sexual feelings. And it feels good for both people to get close. Touching a breast and kissing is not a bad thing. The breast is just another body part.
On the down side, you have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. You also have complications in your relationship when you get intimate. You really have to pay attention to your lover and consider her feelings. You have to develop a level of trust because you are making yourselves vulnerable to each other. Whether you can accept that level of responsibility depends on your own maturity.
Sex is not evil, though it is not something to take lightly. Use your head and you'll be fine. Life is too short for stupid taboos.
2007-05-26 02:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
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2016-09-05 12:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common thinking of people is that adultery is only the sin of the flesh. But, there is also called spiritual adultery.
In your case, you are committing fornication not adultery. The boundary between fornication and adultery is the mind. God says 'that the mind of man is enmity against him' therefore all man's though is nothing but covetousness, adultery and fornication.
To get rid of tht sin, confess it to the Lord.
2007-05-26 03:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by NIGHT_WATCH 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Biblically Addressing the Concerns of a Sexually Addicted Reader
May 23rd, 2007 by Bro. Eli
Why did God make “having sex” so sacred? why are we limited to only one
partner at a time? Why did He make it a sin to have sex with a third
party when ur already married or have a lover? why do we feel so jealous, angry, mad if our partner had sex with a third party? why sex is so sacred? I am addicted to sex, and this is my serious problem, and I need a striking answer from the bible…Thanks!
Stan
sclarke4356@gmail.com
Dear Stan,
From your heart and your mouth came out your feeling that you are so mad and jealous when your partner have sex with another party. That is one of the most important reasons why God limits our sexual relationship. God understands our being; our emotions; our weaknesses, and infirmities.
(PSALMS 103:14) “For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.”
Jealousy brought about by an experience of having somebody to share the love an attention of your lover grows into hatred towards the third party.
(Proverbs 6:34) “For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.”
This may result into a serious crime!
All over the world there are cases of murder and homicide because of jealousy. Jealousy will not be felt by anybody without any interfering party that comes between the sexual relationships of a couple, or lovers.
The Bible tells Christians to have only one sexual partner. It is physically fits our being. Your sexual organs can not please to partners at a time.
(Matthew 19:5-6) “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
The verse says: “two or twain shall be one flesh” — not three or four! So, it is prohibited, especially to preachers and ministers, to have more than one wife!
(1 Timothy 3:2) “A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach…”
This is contrary to what the polygamous leaders of the Mormons say in their book, “Doctrines and Covenants”(see reference below).
The preceding declaration in the book of Mormons is blatantly a contradiction with the Holy Bible. Would you believe in it? GOD FORBIDS!
Whether any Mormon member admit it or not, if you are married to a Mormon man and you are sharing the same man with another three women, it is inevitable that you will feel jealous, one time or another, which may develop later into hatred — which is strictly prohibited among Christians.
(1 John 3:15) “Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.”
Sexual relationship is both exciting and sacred. I appreciate your frankness in telling me that you are addicted to sex because it excites the senses; and as defined in the dictionary, it is the “highest level of pleasure and feelings”(orgasm); but you must also remember that sexual relationship is sacred and entails many responsibilities towards each other. Why? Because it is God’s way for the continuing process of procreation. It is God’s way of bringing into earth His children and His ‘seeds’ of righteousness through matrimony. This is the reason why the Bible teaches us of strict measures regarding courtship, marriage, and sexual relationships.
(Hebrews 13:4) “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for God will judge the immoral and adulterous.” (Revised Standard Version)
It is the very reason why God, during the time of the Israelites, forbids them to marry and have sexual relationships with the Canaanites and other pagan nations that surrounds the people of Israel.
(Deuteronomy 7:1-4) “When the LORD thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou; And when the LORD thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor show mercy unto them: Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.”
Aside from the possibility that marrying them or having sexual relationships with them may cause the Israelites to turn away from the true God, recent archaeological findings have proven that the land of Canaan, where these people lived, was infested with various sexually transmitted diseases!(http://www.cultureofiran.com/ancient_medicine.php)
The Bible teaches a Christian lover to love his sexual partner like the love he has for his own self and body.
(Ephesians 5:28) “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”
Stan, if you love your sexual partner, would you take the risk of infecting her with the deadly AIDS virus that you might acquire from other sexual partners. It is for your good conscience and God fearing heart to decide. To protect yourself and your partner from the evil and perils of infidelity, I want you to read these verses very carefully:
(Proverbs 5:16-18) “Should thy springs be dispersed abroad, And streams of water in the streets? Let them be for thyself alone, And not for strangers with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed; And rejoice in the wife of thy youth.”(American Standard Version)
And again:
(Proverbs 5:10-11) “Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labors be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed…”
Remember, syphilis is a debilitating disease!
Thanks for writing, and please do not hesitate to write again regarding anymore doubts you have in the Bible.
God Bless.
2007-05-26 02:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by magic eye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is....
2007-05-26 02:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋