He cares (yes, cares, not loves) about me too. I know nothing will ever come of it, I just need some advice on how to stop my feelings. I'm not the kind of girl to get involved with a married man. Please tell me how to get over this.
2007-05-26 01:54:37 · 26 answers · asked by missm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'D REALLY LIKE TO STRESS THAT NOTHING AT ALL HAS HAPPENED BETWEEN US.
2007-05-26 02:30:43 · update #1
Go find a job somewhere else...the sooner the better.
This is not high school. Don't waste your time with this, move on, nothing GOOD EVER comes from these situations.
While looking for that new job, go find some other guy to devote your energy and TLC towards, and vice versa (towards you).
Good luck to you.
2007-05-26 01:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sportsguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moved away yet you are still having an affair. He's already said he won't leave his wife. Yes, take the promotion and move on with your life. He's dead weight and holding you back, only keeping you around for a piece of a$ $. If you haven't figured that out by now, you are in major major denial. It's sad. Why would you want a secret life? Get some counselling to find out why you have no self-respect and why you think you don't deserve more than crumbs from a predator adulterous man who cheats on his wife with his subordinates. It's sick.
2016-05-18 01:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only it were that simple. It is normal for ppl to develop work place crushes. The thing is, you need to keep it in perspective. He is your boss and what that means is that he is not an option. Also he is married...he won't leave his wife...and you will end up out of a job. Use your head and behave responsibly towards yourself. Don't you deserve better than being "the other woman". You should look else where and become involved with other people. Expand your horizons. Maybe you are spending too much time at work.
2007-05-26 01:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, what are the consequences that will happen when I do get involved with a married man?
You sleep with him, you start to have a relationship, and all of a sudden, you're suddenly becoming a cause of your Boss's problem.
He gets into fights with his wife, they either get separated or divorced.
Since your feelings will betray you, Stop Listening To Your Feelings. So what if you like this guy? He's not your life, he's not your world either.
Be happy with yourself.
Really want a good advice, Ask God why you can't stop sinning about your Boss?
2007-05-26 02:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Edwardo L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feelings can't just be turned off like a tap but you can take steps towards getting over it. You could use some antipathy techniques - associate feelings of him with something you hate so that when you think of him you automatically conjure the image of the things you don't like. Or, tell yourself he is the worst kind of guy - he is married after all! and direct your energies to other tasks and people so you avoid constantly thinking of him. If he has made any advances telling him off may also be a step to getting over him.
I don't think leaving your job is a wise idea, you may be job hunting forever!! Liking people and falling in love will always happen!
2007-05-26 02:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jacqui Waze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you have to figure out if this job is what you want. If the only reason why you are at your current job is because of your married boss, the best thing you can do is find a new job and get yourself out of this uncomfortable situation. If you decide to stay at your current job, it's time for you to try to find romance outside the office. Go on line, do community service, anything else you can do, just make sure that life outside of the office is worth living!
Good luck
2007-05-26 02:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's your boss. Avoid the relationship. Nothing good can come of a relationship with a married man, and a co-worker is worse. Why? Because when the relationship goes sour (and it will), he's still your boss and you still have to work with him every single day.
Second, he's married. Avoid the relationship. You might think he's nice and attractive and all that jazz, but the fact is that someone else thought that way first and beat you to the punch. Accept it.
2007-05-26 01:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by Chris B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feelings cannot be stopped, can they? You can't help how you feel. However, you can have the self-control not to act on them.
Maybe you should try and meet some new people. Go out and participate in some social activities. Perhaps you'll meet someone who you feel even more strongly about.
Edit: Getting a new job, as others have suggested, would be the easiest solution.
2007-05-26 01:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to picture his wife/children in your head when you think of him. He promised to love them forever, and now he's wanting to cheat ["I care about you" is the first step towards cheating, so that makes him a dishonorable man]. Don't let this go any further or you will become the kind of girl who does get involved with married men.
2007-05-26 01:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job. Feelings don`t stop on command. Each time he will deny you something you will think it`s because of your passed relationship, each time he will grant you something you`ll think its favouritism cause of your passed relationship. You will not be able to see him as a boss only and will not be able to keep a professional front with him. He will replace you with another one and you`ll end up feeling jealous and miserable. There is no getting over...there is only moving on!
2007-05-26 02:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋