I want to thank all for the advice in my last question, now here is another. My son's mother and I have nearly been together for almost 10 years, marriage was an issue at one time, but it was a little more one sided meaning that I would be the one that will mention it and she would accept what things, but she has no other input on when, where or anything else. We have done things to each other that resulted in feelings being hurt, but we forgave but have not forgotten. At some point we have done alot of breaking up and getting back together. Just last year we broke up over another guy which was my friend from high school which it took some doing to tell me that was who she was seeing and she felt that she wanted to give him a chance. I don't know if she gave me another chance due to how bad I was going through the break up but she did and finally told me who it was at that time. Now she has left again and about the same time this year as last year. Her reason are different this time.
2007-05-26 01:29:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although your son should and is your first priority, now that your girlfriend has broken up with you again- take this time to step back from the relationship and find out how you really see and feel about your relationship, instead of seeing it through the eyes of others. You provided a picture of how you that have/had seriously committed yourself to your girlfriend, but it sounds like she is still not ready make such a step. And the breaking up and getting back together has to be taking a toll on all of you- including your son (kids are so much smarter than people give them credit for and may already sense the discord between you and his mother.) Step back and take a breather from your adult relationship and find out what you really need instead of taking cues from her decisions and behavior, but continue to be consistent with your son- because when you and her have these break-ups your son needs to know that nothing will change the love you have for him..
2007-05-26 01:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tamirria Taiki S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why your question is so scattered. You need some stability in your life and it looks like you cannot have it with this lady. Pull yourself together for yourself and your son. Put a stop to your roller-coaster relationship with her. If she takes your son with her, at least he can get some consistency with you. It's wrong for both of you to let your son have this sort of home life. You deserve a better life than you now have.
2007-05-26 01:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if theirs a kid involved you have to think about how it's affects your son if he would be better off if you two weren't together rather then breaking up all the time then you should do whats best for him even if it's a little hard to do
2007-05-26 01:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Aila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go she sounds painful. Also it's very unsettling for your son with her coming and going
2007-05-26 01:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and let it go . keep in your sons life though .
2007-05-26 01:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋