I was in an a argument with one of the guest at a wedding reception. I was conversing with someone about someone. The person I was speaking of overheard my conversation. He was offened an a argument started. I was intoxicated and I can't remember how long the argument lasted or what was said. I do know that a friend of mine was told to take me home. Which make me believe everyone thinks I am wrong. If the argument caused that much of a scene means it would have upset the bride and groom. I want to apoligize to them. So should I just say I am sorry or should I get details on what happened and apoligized specifically for the wrongs that I have done.
2007-05-25 23:20:54 · 12 answers · asked by Joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No. Just apologize. Do it in person. No cards, letters or voice mail. We had an actual fight break out at my wedding. My Dad stepped in and offered to kick everyone's a$$ and he could have. You probably aren't going to be invited to a lot of weddings anytime soon.
You were wrong and can't win this one.
2007-05-26 06:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your efforts in trying to do "the right thing." First of all, and most importantly, you need to stop drinking at wedding receptions excessively because your friends will stop inviting you to other weddings and events (and you will be hurt because you did not get an invitation).
You need to find out what happened from at least two or three witnesses so you can piece together what occured and what was said, and you need to do this NOW while it is still fresh in everyone's mind. And then you need to apologize to everyone that you confronted or argued with . . and then you need to apologize to the Bride and Groom . . and then you need to apologize to the Bride and Groom's parents.
Each person should be contacted personally via the telephone followed by a note of sincere apology.
Please keep in mind the following the next time you attend a wedding reception: A wedding is a dignified event. It should not be a three ring circus nor a drunken brawl nor a feature on the TV show "America's Wildest Weddings."
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-05-26 06:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be proper to call and apologize to the couple. If you get a voicemail or answering machine, explain that you have something important you need to talk to them about and to call you back because it would be inappropriate to leave it on the answering machine. Make sure your view of yourself and your actions is clear. You realize that your behavior was inappropriate and you want to take responsibility for it and apologize for it. When you finally get them on the line, don't be in an argumentative mood and don't get into details. Let them know that generally, you realize your behavior was innapropriate, that it could've put a damper on their big day, and that you apologize for it. After you do that, the responsible thing for them to do is realize that you're trying to make right what you did and accept your apology. If they're upset and don't accept it or try to argue, you've done all you can on your part (you can't take back the past). You tried to be the better person and take responsibility for your actions, and that's all you can do at this point. Hope this helps!
2007-05-26 06:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You were drunk. It's going to be difficult to get an accepted apology, especially if you caused trouble. If you call them, they'll want to go over and over all the things you did at the wedding. Call them, apologize, but expect feedback and lots of it. And not just from the bride and groom.
2007-05-26 06:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Suzie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hope you learned several lessons. Never drink too much at a social gathering such as a wedding. Never gossip. It was not a conversation, it was hurtful gossip.
Call whomever you are closest to, the bride or groom. Tell them you are sorry you had too much to drink at their wedding. Express extreme regret. Do not bring up the details, it will only add fuel to the fire.
Follow this up with flowers and a card "with my sincerest apologizes". Next time, take better care of your friendships.
2007-05-26 06:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Next time drink water or don´t go to weddings, in between you can apologize to the bride & groom and try to behave
at the next social event
2007-05-26 11:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Feet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let much time pass. Sit down and write a letter, tell them flat out: I was drunk, I honestly don't remember exactly what I said or did, but I know that I was wrong for fighting at your wedding, and I am so very sorry for putting a bad taste on your special day.
2007-05-26 06:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I just want to say that I dont think its a good idea to send a gift of any sort, it will just be a reminder of your actions that day when the couple look at it. A note of sincere apologies is all that is needed.
2007-05-26 07:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would just send a card with a short note saying you are sorry and how much their friendship means to you. Don't go into details, it will just bring it all back up again and you will end up defending your position. If you were intoxicated you may have been wrong in your assumptions.
2007-05-26 06:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by ridder 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Buy a nice card, write sincere apologies, and maybe add a gift card for a resturant. Give them a week or so to get it, and then maybe follow up with a phone call apologizing again.
2007-05-26 09:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by mamatucker 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋