If a guy and a girl are dating, and the couple is sexually active. Is the relationship likely to last? Or are couples that are sexually active are the least likely to last?
2007-05-25 23:13:14 · 14 answers · asked by Puffgurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most committed relationships involve sex. Having sex too early in the relationship can doom it. But once it is a relationship, sex usually becomes part of it.
2007-05-25 23:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The longer you can hold off the sex, the longer you extend the chase and the more he values the prize. There have to be some rewards on the way or the guy loses interest, but basically you want to give it up when you have large rock on your finger or you are married.
If there is sex on the first date, there is nowhere else to go and grow, so there is not the extended opportunity to appreciate the girl for more than her looks.
Sexually active relationships do not last, unless they mature into something like a marriage, which means that the sex must come slowly. In the USA, you want a marriage, in France, they may be ideologically atheist so that they do not get married, (like Segolene Royal), but the story is still the same, sex after a long time proving with commitment and where there is not marriage - early children.
2007-05-25 23:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Sex isn't the only factor that determines whether or not a relationship is likely to last. Trust, fidelity, and communication fall equally or perhaps more than sexuality into play. If we're looking at sex solely, though, there are a couple of ways you can take it. If a person withholds his or herself sexually until one (or few) specific relationship(/s), then that person will be more likely to be attached to that person, seeing as though sex would probably be regarded to them as more of an exclusive and deeply intimate act. This might lead to that person striving to hold on to that (/those) relationships longer. On the other hand, if a person is far more frequently and less exclusively sexually active, the fact that they have sex with a person in a relationship might not mean as much to them emotionally or sentimentally. The fact that they're sexually active with eachother wouldn't come into play as much when determining the longevity of the relationship, as it might not be as much of a deeply emotional thing anymore.
In the first instance, I personally have witnessed that the relationships do tend to last far longer than those that replicate the latter.
Hope this helps!
2007-05-25 23:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex as a result of a relationship will bring you far more than the other way around. You see, all that you do outside the bedroom is a prelude to making love so as much as the sexual aspect, it is equally important to nurture the other side of it or as a woman, you can easily lose interest when you can't see any form of relationship.. beyond than having sex. Alright, intimacy is important but doing so will be more meaningful after a relationship has been established.
2007-05-26 01:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is used as part of connecting to a loved one, an act of discovering each other and done with love and respect, then I believe it can help with the relationship. It definitely should not be shallow, but meaningful instead. And to make it last longer , the partners should learn new things, do scenarios, maybe do role playing, make it fun, make it naughty . The long-term goal is for both to remain crazy with each other.
2007-05-25 23:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ella C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on who is in the relationship. If there are two very mature people in the relationship and will love each other no matter what, then probably yes. But thats not a guarentee that it will always happen that way. If you have one mature person and the other isn't and just want to get in your pants, then probably not. If theres two immature people in a relationship, the it's probably 99.9% that it wont end up making it all the way.
2007-05-25 23:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by CrazyEye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of experience,a lasting relationship depends on whether both pertners want it to last.I was sexually active with my ex,it didnt last because it became more physical than emotional.It would last if i was commited to it,but it wouldnt be because of sex,believe me.
2007-05-25 23:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by melrosejade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes more than just sex to have a good relationship, there's other things that affect it. So I don't sex alone is enough to predict how long a relationship will last
2007-05-25 23:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be something else than sex
share interests, learn stuff together, have fun, support each other and love each other, talk about your goals in life and what you expect from the person you love
if all this sounds boring....then your relationship is based on sex...it can still last, but it wont be meaningful
2007-05-25 23:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by diannatena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The smart thing is to get married first.........If you care enough to have sex with a person, then marry them first. That way, you will have God's blessings on your relationship, not a curse. When you are indifferent and disobedient toward the guidelines in the Bible, then you bring a curse on yourself. Who needs that?
2007-05-25 23:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋