Lately, my boyfriend's been wanting to get in my pants..What should I do?

Question

A few weeks back, my boyfriend asked me to marry him. We're both 18 years old, and seniors at high school..I told him I wanted to wait till after college and all that. He was fine with it, but seemed a little disappointed..The good thing is that one of his ex girlfriends, who claimed to be pregnant with his child went for test and found out it wasn't his, so the whole awkward situation was gone. Then for the past few days, he keeps unbuttoning my shirt when we're making out. I mean, he knows I want my first time to be after marriage, so why does he keep trying??
I don't know how to handle this situation, cuz he's my first boyfriend and I've never had it happen to me before..So any advice??

Answer 1

He's a guy, he's going to keep trying. Just stick to your guns and tell him he has to wait. As soon as he pushes it too far, back off immediately.

But don't judge him too harshly because he still tries. That part is normal. However if he gets aggressive or hostile about it. Or starts to make demands and ultimatums then it's time to re-evaluate your relationship. If he can't take no for an answer now, it's not going to improve most likely in the future.

I have to wonder about this guy though since he already had a pregnancy scare with another girl. And while that was still being dealt with he's proposing marriage to you. That's really fast. Within a maximum of 9 months he's broken up with some girl that he obviously slept with and is asking you to marry him. You're 18, that's pretty young for that much drama. Like I said, stick to your guns and make him wait. If he's true, he'll be willing to wait.

Answer 2

DON'T DO IT I Repeat DON'T DO IT If your ready it's your thing but if you want to wait until your married then so be it.You've held out for this long and that makes you a Gem. Remind him before you two start making out again, that you want to wait till you get married.Be serious about it to if you don't put your foot down he won't believe you and he'll try going further and further little by little until he gets what he wants. Will you then be in the position that his Previous Girlfriend was in? I'm sure you have somewhat an idea of how you want it to be on your wedding night.Everytime he pressures you THINK about that, and if he and the situation does not meet all the requirements ie.(A ring because your married to him!,Your on your honeymoon etc things like that) then you are just Short-selling yourself,and you deserve way better than that. If he keeps trying tell him it's not going to work out between you two since you both want different things. That will set him straight whether it be to you or away from you.

Answer 3

You can do a lot without losing your virginity, even oral. If he wants to marry you, you are in a difficult position. I think that you should talk to your folks about his proposal. I would talk to your father first. Women of a certain age tend to be feminists and do not like the thought of grandchildren making them old. Does this guy stack up? I mean if he has a lot of money, you love him and he is a top student, the answer probably should be "Yes", although it is risky. If you really do not want to go anywhere with this, perhaps he is not right to be your boyfriend. It is not good that his previous girlfriend might be pregnant and he was not with her.
You may lose him putting him off, but then that would tend to show he does not really want you, but just wants to sleep with you.
You are 100% right to want to keep your virginity until marriage, as it allows you to bond deeply and sustain that marriage. At the extreme, prostitutes cannot bond.
Good luck!

Answer 4

you said his ex is pregnant and he thought it possibly was his? If he was recently still screwing her, maybe he still is so why get the disease she probably gave him? Tell him to keep boning the ex and keep your virginity. He is obviously not careful about protection and he surely is horny enough that he will go elsewhere to get some even if you DO give it up. He's a guy on a mission to get as much as he can. Find a boy that respects you and keep respecting yourself like you are doing now. Of course you are curious but it won't be special with him if you are the old fashioned type that wants to wait so tell him to jack off to some porn and keep it in his pants around you or I will lend you my scissors!

Answer 5

yes, smack him every time he tries to disrespect you like that, even if you love him. I'm happy to hear that there are still woman waiting till marriage to have sex. I think you should wait for mr. perfect, instead of going through all the guys, like 97% of todays High School girls do. Me Personally got myself strangled with someone of those 97% and being regretting ever since she came out pregnant. 2005. No a happy or healthy relationship when the past comes to hunt you.(my wifes Ex's on my head)

My respects and luck goez to ya.

Answer 6

First boy friend huh ? The reason why this guy is trying to get into your pants is because all but a very few guys let their glands do their thinking for them ,,,, The proof of this in his case is that there was a question of him possibly being the father of that other girls baby ,,,, He must have tapped her or she wouldn't consider him as a potential father,,,,

The glands start taking over at or around puberty and it goes on like that till up into their 30's or 40's and even beyond that ,,,, Some guys have this problem their whole lives and can never settle down with just one woman ,,,,

You are going to meet allot of low life's and losers ,,,, They far out number the good guys ,,,, Obviously from what you've said you are a virgin ,,,, You have something he wants and he's ready willing and able to do say or promise you anything to get what he's after ,,,, With guys like that it's always "I DO" until they don't want to anymore ,,,, They will gladly score with you a few times or for a while but eventually and inevitably he will realize he was just in lust instead of love and start looking for someone that excites him more than you do ,,,, The next thing you know he starts cheating on you or just plain leaves ,,,, And there you are left high and dry and used and abused and he could care less who gets hurt in the process ,,,, Probably the only reason why he's still with you or hold his interest is because you offer a chase or a challenge ,,,, All male animals love a challenge or the chase whether they are human or not ,,,,

He's trying to compromise your resolve and trying to see just how far he can get with you ,,,, It's for sure that if his head was on straight and his mind was in the proper place and if he respected you the way he should he wouldn't be doing anything like this at all ,,,, He wouldn't be trying anything that up sets you ,,,,

You'd be smart while you are still young if you tried to get as wide a ranges of acquaintances as you can ,,,, Don't be in such a hurry ,,,, Find out who and what's out there first before you get serious about anyone ,,,, This would help you to make a wiser decision about who you want to settle down with when you are ready for a more involved relationship later on ,,,, He is by far not the only fish in the pond so to speak ,,,, You never know tying yourself down to one person too early just might cause you to miss meeting that MR Right guy ,,,, Don't be in such a rush ,,,, You have your whole life ahead of you ,,,, You've got the right idea to at least wait until you are out of college ,,,,

If you haven't already then establish a standard for yourself and rules ,,,, Rules concerning what you with do and what you won't do ,,,,, Rules concerning what you will allow and what you won't allow ,,,, This guy is treating you like an easy mark or a slutt ,,,, He has no respect for you or he wouldn't be trying this crap ,,,, You'd be better off with a broken leg than you are with him ,,,, It's obvious he has only one thing on his mind,,,,

You need to go fishing in that pond ,,,, Find different guys that are fun and exciting to be with ,,,, Some of them even come trouble and problem free and won't treat you like a toy or play thing to satisfy their lust ,,,,

Once you have these standards and rules figured out then stick to them ,,,, Not only now or until you are out of college but for the rest of your life ,,,, You'll never regret it and once it's generally known by your friends acquaintances and peers that you have these rules you'll be respected allot more ,,,,

Never let any guy compromise your resolve ,,,, Never let any guy use you as just a toy or a plaything ,,,, Never let any guy make a fool of you ,,,, Stick to your gun and stay the course ,,,, Never make a move or decision until you've looked at is from all sides and angles ,,,, Don't let this guy put you in the same position his X is in right now ,,,,

Stay alert and wise ,,,, Use your head and as I said stick to your guns ,,,,

You have presented an interesting situation here ,,,, You get a star for it from me because it involves a topic that all young people have to confront at one time or another ,,,, Like I said there are allot more losers and low life's out there than good guys ,,,, Drop this guy like he was a hot rock and go fishing ,,,, You are headed for nothing but trouble that you don't need with him ,,,,

Yoda told you this ,,,,

Answer 7

Being this is your first ever relationship u may doesnt know what guys what from their relationship. u said that ur boy friend had girl friends before your relationship and u r worried coz of the pregnancy test for the x-girl friend. And marry me, u r the love of my life, i wanna spend the rest of my life with you, i cant live without you, u r the best i ever had in my life these are the words u can hear from these guys. And try sayin to your boy friend come on lets marry he may probably run for his life... so Beware of your boy friend watch his every action.
Hav fun don don let yourself loose...

Answer 8

Make it clear to him that you are not comfortable with it right now and if he tries to do it in the future just tell him to get a hold of himself and leave.....according to me 18 is too small a age to even make out!! I had my first kiss at the age of 21 with my now husband (i was dating him for 7 years)

Answer 9

if he has had sex before he wants sex now with you or maybe even without you. thats how men are, i doubt he will wait until you are ready to marry. i dont see much of a solution because either you will give in and regret it or he will cheat. if hes already had a girl who had a pregnancy scare then i think move on.

Answer 10

keep ur skirt bottoned save ur self for after marriage, i think his dying to have sex with u, idont have the right to say this but i think his proposal is a very mien move to deflour ur virginity so watch out he seems to have a profound experience with that, even if his honost i think marriage at this age will lead ur relationship into a disaster cause its so stuiped to start ur life with such a burden take ur time save ur self till after marriage belive me this will give ur life the boost it needs to be successfull & surrounded by trust.