I have expressed to my fiancé that I do not want them to go to a strip club or to hire a stripper. He's fine with that because he thinks that strippers are dirty and doesn't find them attractive. Before anyone says ANYTHING, I trust my fiancé more than anything. However, I do not trust his two groomsmen. Not to say that they aren't trustworthy, but I don't know them that well (I'm in a long distance relationship and I've met them once, but I didn't get to know them that well - my fiancé has moved several hours away from him hometown, where they still live). One of them is the type to deceive him and take him to a club or hire a stripper. I don't understand why it's tradition to have some nasty chick rubbing her junk in your face to celebrate getting married and watching women get naked? There's no reason he should behave like it's the end of the world and needs "freedom" for one last night and to lust after a woman or worse. He shouldn't be getting married if that's how he feels.
2007-05-25 21:45:55 · 22 answers · asked by Kayleigh♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
With all due respect, you need to have some trust in him. If he didn't do anything that was against your wishes, take his word. If he has, don't be all so irrational of why, because you stated you know one of his friends. But you don't need to invite a sneaky dude to his wedding. Or better yet, your home.
But I must say, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Now if you have a bachlorette party. I suggest you don't carry the "10 things for a bride to do list". It wouldn't be fair. But have some trust in him at least. Men will be men. Men do those things because they may not have another chance to enjoy the single life. But from what you've stated above, if he doesn't care for it. He may not go. But men will be men. Chance are, he may not enjoy the moment, because his concious may eat him. And that's a good thing LOL. But give him a chance. Good Luck
2007-05-25 21:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by anarchy0029 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely feel the same way. I have told my fiance how I feel about strippers and he says he feels the same way. I do not feel like just because a man is getting married he needs to spend his last night of "freedom"(whatever that is supposed to mean) with a dirty woman dancing for money. I trust him completely or else I would not be marrying him and he has told his groomsmen that he doesn't want anything to do with strippers but I do not trust them and they all know that I do not want it. Like I feel so strongly about this and I think that my fiance should respect my wishes that I have told him and all his friends that if I find out the next day that their were strippers at his bachelor party then I am not going to marry him. If I find out 5 minutes before I walk down the aisle, then I am not going to marry him. If I find out a year later, then I will divorce him. And I honestly will, because if he can't respect me enough to control his friends for one night then I don't need him. I love him to death but strippers are something that I will not tolerate from him at all. I kow I sound like a ***** and all but I juust have morals. And obviously so do you and I am glad that their are other women out there who feel the same way I do. Good Luck with everything and Congratulations!
2007-05-26 06:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband's brother did the same thing. My husband doesn't even drink and they took him to a bar that had strippers next door. He just left. Obviously the groomsmen just want their own fun which is a shame. It's supposed to be a night for the groom. Maybe he can take it in his own hands and invite the guys for a day of fishing or rock climbing or baseball.
2007-05-26 06:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Julieann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree, don't let anyone tell you you're being too uptight about this. If it's a big deal to you (and it is to a lot of women) and he knows this, AND he feels the same way, then at least you know that even if they do take him to a strip club or hire a stripper that he will refuse to take part in any of it. This exact situation happened to me and my fiance. We both felt the same way you do, but his friends tricked him and took the party to a strip club. He walked out and sat outside until they realized he was gone and that they had ruined their good time. If his friends have respect for him and the fact that it's HIS bachelor party and not theirs, then they won't pull such a stunt. And hey, even if they do, at least you know your man won't do anything regrettable or hurtful to you. Again, I totally agree. It's the stupidest tradition to carouse around with strange, naked women when you're about to get married. Hope this helped a little!
2007-05-25 23:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That isn't how he feels, as he's already told you. If someone hires a stripper, how does that mean he's going to go crazy with lust and do something dumb? It doesn't! He told you how he feels nad whether there is a stripper there or not is meaningless--he told you his opinion of that-just accept it and forget about it! And if one of these strippers is hired by a groomsman, realize it isn't your fiance's fault, and just let the whole thing drop.
I was at a bachelorette party for a friend and the stripper cam and tried to give me a lapdance and I asked him to please get up--I found it repulsive. Not everyone is turned on by that!
2007-05-26 01:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When he is having his bachelor party, tell him u are having your bachelorette party. Then get your group of girls and follow the guys! Fun stuff..... also, if they do go to a strip club, ask the owner if yall can play a surprise on the guys. Get dressed like a stripper and take your man into one of their private rooms. Have a mask on (the ones that go over your eyes) and start dancing for him. Then see how far he will let you go and if he lets you mess with his manly parts, that's when you take off your mask and tell him that you thought you could trust him but obviously not. If he doesn't let you go far, then never reveal yourself and you'll know that he was with you the whole time.
2007-05-26 09:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by jlee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As the fiance in question here, id like to say that I dont want to go to a strip club nor have a stripper in private. If my best friend is dumb enough to take me to a club or schedule a private show, then i simply will leave. im sure it wont happen and my fiance has absolutly nothing to worry about, naked whores dont do anything for me, the only naked woman i want to see is you baby, youre so sexy!!! i hope she realizes that i love her soooooooooooooooo much. MUAH!!!
2007-05-27 17:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by shwubbster 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i might want to be disillusioned for particular yet understand why he is going. This adult men bachelor social gathering will in basic terms take position once and also you adult men will be waiting to spend years of anniversarys mutually contained in the destiny! he takes you out the weekend before so this isn't any longer as even with the reality that he forgot or isn't doing some thing for you in any respect. instruct him that you're cool with it and he will imagine you're the great!!!
2016-11-27 19:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by lewan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better to find out now instead of later.....from what ive heard if anything does happen at a bachelor party usually the bride wont find out and thats not from experience just hear say. but if you trust him 100% then be comfortable with it. If you think the groomsmen are not trustworthy then I would be putting my foot down and say listen here this isnt happening.
2007-05-26 00:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree 100% with you on all that stupid bullshIt guys like to do for a bachelor party. My fiance is a recovering alcoholic, and one of his groomsmen thinks he's going to take him out and get drunk, and I said to him, If he goes out and drinks, I will NOT walk down that aisle. Im not risking my entire marriage, family, Life, business over a stupid bachelor party. (If my fiance were to drink, he'd lose it all on his own... business, Family, his entire life).......... and IM NOT STEPPING down on my decision of NO drinking or Bachelor party. We agreed on an alternative to the party, and we're all going to get togehter 2 nights before the wedding (when everyone is in town) and have a party at a bowling alley, or something else similar so we can all have fun together.
I will not back down on it, and If he doesnt understand, I wont marry him. Because if they think that one night of drinking and strip clubs is more important than a marriage, then it'll just end in divorce.
Im sure there's guys who will disagree with me.... but tough shyt. You're not the ones engaged to me. and my fiance agrees with me completely, and he also doesnt want anyone to take him out drinking.
2007-05-26 03:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by mannasox 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋