This is a good questions for christians. Besides me, how many of you have unforgivness in your heart?

Question

and hatred? Now I need honest anwers.How many of you take **** out on other people? Be honest. I have been know to, and sometimes still do. I do ask God to forgive me, but how come I keep going back to paying people back to those that piss me of. ow come God is not helping me with this? I have asked God to help me with this, and yet I have not stoped it. Chrisitans I need advise, and your answers.

Answer 1

Before you can Forgive others, you need to Forgive yourself. (not meant to be a fortune cookie answer)

Look around you at anything living (a tree, squirrel, your cat.. whatever)
Find the beauty and innocence in that object or animal and put it in yourself.

If that doesn't work, you Dont have to believe in Jesus, but you can NOT disagree that if everyone could act more like him we ALL would be better off. Forgive and Give Love

Answer 2

i sometimes struggle with forgiveness. Here's a question, what if God forgave you in the same matter you forgave others who wrong you. It might give us a momment to pause. Forgiveness, in my opinion, is the first step towards reconsiliation with the offender person. Otherwise, the heart will become hardened and it will make it more difficult to forgive in the future. i feel anger in my hesrt with people i work with backstabbing me all the time. i try to remember that they are made in God's image, and that because of y transgressioons against god, he forgave me. Praying to God and asking for that person's heart to change helps. I'm just glad that God loves me enough to forgive me so, by example, we should forgive others. see 1 john 3:20 "if you say you love god but hate your brother, then you are a lyer and god is not in you". God may or not help you in this situation, but in the meantime, you have an obligation to pray for them, pray your petitions to God. The bible teaches that when we're persecuted, we still try to persevere and not retaliate back, but rather forgive them. this does not give the green light to allow them to abuse us, though. Possibly the reason God isn't answering you is because, as he says in the bible "if you have something against your brother go to him first and confront the sin. If e listens, you've won him over, if not, you still pray for your enemies. Maybe you need to "lay your gift" at the alter and "get right" with the person offending you because Gosd will act for you. Either way, the saying is true: it isn't the time prayer is answered, but rather the timing. My advise, stop taking **** out on other people. That's the problem. Read 1 Jn 3:20.

Answer 3

I am a Christian and I have had a very hard time in the past regarding my daughter's father. I also pray for help with forgivness but I believe sometimes I probably don't really want help with it. I believe that you have to really want to forgive that person before you can actually do it. I read a book that really helped me. It was by Charles Stanley and I think the title was The Gift of Forgiveness. Forgiving someone who has hurt you is an ongoing process. It doesn't happen overnight.

Answer 4

Do you ask God to help you change this about yourself then just go about your daily routine hoping it has happened, or do you actually make a serious effort to change?

I'm not sure where it says it(if it says it) but I was told some where in the bible it say the Lord helps those that help them selves. I think this means ask but be willing to put forth the effort.

And in answer to your question: Yes I find myself in these same problems, I sometimes react without thinking and the wrong people have their feelings hurt, all I can do is ask forgiveness of them and God.

Answer 5

I admit openly I have hatred and unforgiveness in my heart. Hell, every day for that matter. It just doesn't last nearly as long as it used to. Now it might last for a minute or two. If you're having a problem with this and you hold on to it for a long time, it must be serving some purpose for you that you are blind to. You know what they say---can't see the forest for the trees. Find out what purpose being like that serves, and you'll discover the means to get rid of it permanently. Christian or not, habitually taking sh!t out on other people is usually a sign of some insecurity or self-awareness of being inadequate in some important area of your life that is very important to you, and you feel like you're losing control. It may be control issues. Do you feel like it's all falling apart and you're powerless to stop it? Good rationalization for treating others like sh!t.

Answer 6

Well have you really tried praying about it. I mean asking God for help and seeking his help are two different things. You may ask God for help but that doesn't mean you are surrendering to him. If you want to change this behavior lay it all down in his hands and let it go. Next time you have these thoughts of hatred think of a favorite bible verse or so on, something that will draw your attention back to God and maybe pray about it at that time. You can beat this because we can do all things through Christ who strenghens us. Says so in Phillippians 4:13. Good luck and remember we all have something we struggle with on a daily basis and overcoming these things is a proccess not a quick it fix it.

Answer 7

Perhaps you need to examine your relationship with Him. God forgives us when we accept Him and the old shall pass away. However we can't expect Him to keep us from sinning. We are human and as Christians we are to live as examples. Sometimes counseling helps but I recommend a Christian counselor that is very important. The rule of psychology still apply. Perhaps you have something repressed inside that is truing to come out and perhaps you have a war going on inside. Spiritual warfare is real and devastating. Only God can fight those battles try praying for God to give you strength and to fight the battle for you.

Answer 8

You are blaming God for not helping you to stop? I think I see your problem. You blame others too easily, even God. You have to take responsibility for your own behavior. Remember that another persons sin is just a speck in their eye. Your own sins are a log in your eye. Jesus taught us to have that out look because then we would always look to ourselves and realize that we can be our own worst enemy. But the good news is that by following his example and forgiving others, we free ourselves from the bondage of sin. The need for retaliation, as you suggested, leads to much sin which ultimately will come back to us.
Remember that we have been forgiven much by Jesus. He asks us to do the same for the others that he also died for. The next time you get angry, realize that no matter what you are being put through, it is not as bad as being crucified. Jesus faced that, and still forgave.

Answer 9

Leanne M ......I think from the amount of awful things you have said and done without making amends or stopping the behaviour......Your god might just be sick of forgiving you only to be kicked in the teeth when you do it again five minutes later!
Or More To The Point
We Pagans are right and you are praying to the wrong deity!
You and you alone are responsible for your life!
Look at it ....you had two accounts deleted last night because you cheated and lied! Its all karma and the rule of three in effect!
Take responsibility for your own actions!

Answer 10

Someone once said to forgive someone you must forgive them more than once. For me, it's always been my step-parents. Although we get along now, it's just a thin line that would be easily broken. Anyways, I forgive and when something comes up that brings those feelings I forgive again. Mostly when I get stubborn and can't find forgiveness I think of all that God forgave me of and even all that my friends and family have forgiven me of. That's what does it for me. I can't hold a grudge when I realize how much I've been forgiven of.