My friend died,got hit by a garbage truck and died instantly.I cant stand the fact that he`s gone now.I keep on thinking he`s still here,but he`s not..well his soul is,but not his body and total existance.I cant stop crying about it and i keep on denying that he`s dead but i know he is and i kind of cant face the facts.this has been the first time my friend has died or anyone who i was close with died.
2007-05-25 20:22:26 · 11 answers · asked by Richelle 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am terribly sorry for your loss and the pain you are experiencing. It does sound as though you need to go speak with a Counselor or Therapist and perhaps even a Grief Counselor if you have one in your area so they can help you to better deal with this loss and so you can cope. You need support right now and they will be able to provide that. I do hope things better for you soon~
2007-05-25 20:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hopeful 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing worst than unexpected death. Make sure not to hold back, mourn until you can't mourn anymore. It's okay to be sad... and believe me- no one can make that pain go away, but you- by going into denial... but you shouldn't try to do that either. While reading your details I could feel your pain... and I'm glad that I'm only reading about it- that it's not me who has to endure it, but I've been there. Believe it or not- this kind of pain is temporary in its intensity but it will remain till you breathe your last breath. You will be able to accept it more and more as part of you, ... a special button will develop inside of you that you can turn on and off- which is approximately two to three years from now ... but until then cry as much as you want. Mark my words- eleven years from now, there are moments when you feel like the way you are feeling right now- ...... I call it my as- if- it- happened -only- yesterday moments, but you can choose when you want to succumb to it. In other words.... a death of a loved one makes you so weak that you think it will kill you... but if you don't hold back now... you will have the power to control it better later on.
My condolences to you and the family.
2007-05-25 20:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, it is too much pathetic matter. Who is effected, only (s)he knows what (s)he has lost. And hurt of the heart, burning, tearing etc. are the matter of that person. It is tough to feel the mental side of hitted person.
My suggession to you, you slowly face the fact. You need time to keep easy yourself. In this time, you talk about this matter with your other close friend who honor your lost love and franked with you. You can visit some new area, talk some fully new person; try to enjoy visiting, nature, gossiping. You must engage with some new jobs for change. You can personally take meditation regularly and pray for your friend's soul. It will give energy and fuel to your mind and heart.
2007-05-25 20:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by shibluhoque 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi there....oh weetheart im sorry that you have lost youre friend and it is only natural to miss him and yes counselling can help ,esp,as he died o suddenly ,there was no prewarning that it could happen ie/through illnes ,and even that doesnt make it any easier .....when you loose someone it can take quite a bit of tim to come to terms with it ,but for some strange reason we learn to deal with it and as we learn that we get all those magical memories ,ones that no one else knows about it was just you and him together having a laugh ,and as you remember these it will bring a smile to youre face ,it doesnt mean that it is wrong to laugh it is youre way of being conected with youre friend .....i hope youre heart heal and all youre magical memories move into youre heart and you can smile at them ,,,,,take care X X
2007-05-25 22:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss... there is nothing wrong with talking to someone about it, someone who will listen and not make any judgements. Its hard to know someone is there one day and gone the next without a goodbye. Counseling may be good for you, it helps to get things out in the open. Best of luck to you!
2007-05-25 20:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Caligirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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No need for counseling. Learning to deal with death is one of life's tests. What is best, is to grieve while you can, gather with others who feel as you do, and learn to accept that pain is a part of life, albeit one of the worse parts. If you can get past this without running to a "counselor" you will gain personal strength and be able to face many more challenges that life has for you.
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2007-05-25 20:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by skippy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
intercourse is a healthful activity. remember, the Bible needs husband and spouse to have passionate intercourse, purely examine the track of Songs, by Salomon. in case you maintain the domicile Fires warm, there is not any reason for him to seek for out extra. yet once you think of that your faith mandates a low sexchronic, then you definately are actually not fairly meant to be mutually.
2016-10-08 03:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to talk it out, but don't deny yourself some time to grieve. If you move on too fast, it might hit you later.
2007-05-25 20:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could use some grievance counenseling! If your in school they should have something for you espically in a university.
2007-05-25 20:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by lazerangel99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, counseling will help A LOT. Definitely do it.
2007-05-25 20:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋