Am I a Whore...?

Question

for attention? People always seem to like me at first because I am nice and talkative. then I notice some people resenting me and calling me names like a brownnoser and an attention whore..I feel like I am just very social but this has been coming up since Highschool and now that i am a junior in college I want it to stop.

Answer 1

First of all, you are not a whore. I understand that the word could now be used in youth slang as an adjective, but please don't use that word about yourself.

As to your question, it's hard to say. If this is mostly young women saying this, they might be jealous. Some girls and young women in the dating ages can be very mean and very competitive.

The other thing that I can think of is that you may be nicer than the people around you and that they misinterpret your behavior. The grade school that I went to was in a tough area. Anyone that got good grades was ridiculed and called a brownnoser. I had to lie about my grades to escape this.

Also, if you are a little insecure, you may be trying too hard to please and people can interpret this as someone who is trying to get something from them.

I guess the test is, do you have good friends? if you do, then I suspect that the name calling is from jealousy. If you have a hard time making good friends, maybe you are being too nice and need to be a little less friendly.

The other thing that comes to my mind, is maybe it's just the people you associate with. My x-wife is very social, very kind to her friends (but not to me after we got married), very enthusiastic, and very supportive to people she's not married to. She has a lot of friends and her friends think she's wonderful. Maybe you're just around the wrong people.

I hope that something I have said is helpful, I know how frustrating it can be to try to be nice and friendly to people and have that be misinterpreted.

Answer 2

Well a whore has a whole different meaning.

If people are saying you are demanding all the attention , then you need to pay attention if you want to have friends, and be part of a group.

Ask yourself how much do you "listen" to others? If you do all the talking, if you interrupt when others are talking to get the attention back onto yourself, if you show no interest in what others have to say...if you even "act up" so everyone will notice you...then I would say...you need to decide to change.

And you probably have a great need for love and attention....and there are reasons in your past why this is the case. You need to do some things to help this....like maybe get into drama, or music, or something with an audience which is a "right way" to get attention, but when with others, you need to practice keeping quiet and listening to others.

Part of it is being unselfish, and not making "self" the most important thing. You can however find outlets for people to notice what you are doing, and doing well.

Answer 3

you should not have to change yourself for anyone. if there are people that do not like your personality, then you are not socializing with the right people.
and in high school just about everyone is guilty of being an attention whore. and im sure that at some point in life everyone is guilty of this as an adult too.
try socializing, but try not be so talkative, just a moderate conversation, and then if you get to know people and spend more time with them, then be your talkative self...sometimes when just meeting people they can become intimdated when people take control of the conversation.

Answer 4

Some people might just be jealous you are getting all the attention. Some people don't like to be in the background. Make sure you aren't often interupting other people or jumping in front of them for turns. That might be why someone would resent you. Maybe you made them feel their opinions weren't as important by inadvertly ignoring them to say your own opnions.
Try to listen besides always talking.

Answer 5

People are jealous of others who take attention away from them. I should know, because I'm a jealous person in those situations myself. So as long as you're not hurting anyone or breaking any relationships up, I say: Don't change for nobody...screw 'em all. If you would like to chat more, about this or ANYTHING else that is on your mind, my email is [e-mail] and my name is John. Be good.

Answer 6

If you want it to stop, try this. One, try not always being in agreement with others. may a stand one way or the other. Two, just listen some time and hold for a response when asked by the person or others for your views. good luck!!!!!

Answer 7

well if they call you those names then they dont really like you, so i guess you'll be forced not to socialize cause no-one would want to talk to you! thats what a reputation does to you, you should work to get your name out of thid mess befor you come a social outcast! people in college can unfortunatly be very mean.

Answer 8

NO you are not a whore as you put it. these peole that call you this are nothing but nasty asses. and u should tell your teacher or prinicpal about it.. a whore or really known as a prostitute is a woman who has sex for money .i doubt very much your doing this. tell these asswipes to get their facts right and tell them to get a life.cheer up and dont let their pathetic name calling upset you.

Answer 9

Why were you even called a whore? It isn't fair for you. I suggest that you stick with your friends(true ones). They'll help you and guide you(Just be sure that your true friends will be good examples).

Answer 10

Enjoy life and enjoy being social. Don not worry about what others think. You only have to worry about what you think and how you feel about yourself.