On one hand, I have a lot of compassion for you [though it may come out totally wrong] and I care about you, definitely want to support you and all that. I like when you are around and I think you are very sweet. I want you in my life, I want to be friends and I want to have the option of more than friends. I feel butterflies when you kiss me and when I read your letters [the nice ones at least]. I love that you want to communicate, how open and honest you are. I love your art and you have great taste in music, politics, everything really. I really do like you and your amazing qualities. You are most definitely a great catch.
On the other hand, I'm scared to look you in the eye [this is so rare for me], a lot of things I say to you come out wrong or twisted and I have a hard time thinking when you are around. My view on us is distorted because of an imbalance in our relationship. I feel like I was given too much power in needing to decide what 'we' would be.. when i just wanted to be with you without constraints. I don't know why we have to be all or nothing, it's so black and white - i cant commit to only you because it would be unfair to you [since i dont want to be monogamous] i cant handle not having you at all, I want to be friends, I want you in my life. I wish you would come around to this and realize that neither of us are going to get what we want, we need to find some common ground - a place where we meet in the middle. Our differences aren't huge enough to keep us apart, there are many more positive than there are negative [at least in my eyes]. While we can't have a monogamous relationship, I still want to continue to care about you and to receive your respect. I still want to hang out with you and sleep next to you. I still want to talk to you and know how you are doing.
BUT... it seems that you don't want to come to meet me half-way... maybe you are considering this, or maybe you want to drop me completely from your life. I think this may be true, but I hope not.
I know you have yet again ignored me and you want to 'move on', but if you find yourself willing to let down your wall please let me know - because I am more than willing to work something out.
2007-05-25 19:20:36 · 8 answers · asked by HeckofaDude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what she wrote me btw..so much pain so far
2007-05-25 19:21:29 · update #1
I am 23 y/o... she wants a poly relationship..which I told her I don't want ..still she wants something from me but gives me nothing in return. We are both Gemini's.
2007-05-25 19:33:30 · update #2
This woman is a player and wants to have fun with other men
but you no that already.If I were you I would forget about her
for now until she is ready to be with you and only you,if she is capable of that I'm not sure she is.Is she really pretty and does she have a lot of male friends that you no of ?She is willing to let you go rather then give up her other male friends
That alone should tell you just what kind of person she is.Move on dude before she brakes your heart any worse then it is all ready.This comes from a female that knows where your female friend is coming from.If this woman really loves you,she will come around to your side when she starts to miss you but what ever you do don't give in to her because if you do she will never really take you serious.
2007-05-25 19:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day is a Thunderdome enjoy for me. I have a million boy and three ladies!! I left my sweetie on my own with the children Monday night time and I am now typing this on a brown Sharpie'd keyboard, watching by way of a brown Sharpie'd reveal! Good success, Billy!
2016-09-05 12:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by girman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hook up with someone who doesn't have the same ideals you have, it will never work. You will always be suffering in this relationship. She wants her cake and eat it too. What a spoiled b****!
You really need to find someone who cares for you and only you, someone who shares that special something with you and NOT WITH EVERYBODY ELSE!
There's words for women like that, find yourself a better one with some morals, and quit being her doormat!
BTW her letter is a bunch of crap! She knows how to wrap someone around her little finger doesn't she!
2007-05-25 19:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pleassssse, don't take dating so seriously. Thats why your confused your not ready for the hard stuff. When it comes its not a fluster of emotions, its an easy breeze that feels good. And guess what, that day is a long way off, concentrate on fun now like you want to. Young girls live for the drama, ignore it, tell them to chill out.
2007-05-25 19:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her, but get in a better place with her that may take work on both of your parts.
Enjoy the love!
2007-05-25 19:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by lilpatrona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you?
DTB ( go to tom leykas website to see what that means.. )
sounds like she want freinds with benefits
and that's fine if that's what you want..
but if you want more
you are with the wrong girl
and you have to admit that BOTH of you are replaceable in a relationship
just as she can find someone else
so can you, and to think otherwise is to limit yourself and be selfish in thinking you deserve less
2007-05-25 19:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think, don't analyze. Heres a trick for all of you, don't think and say what you want.
BD
2007-05-25 19:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Black Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep her
2007-05-25 19:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Robin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋