ok... i have ben with my girl for 6 years now. About a month ago her father and mother decided to sit me down and tell me that the felt i wasnt good enough for their daughter....(they never had a problem at all with me before this...).
They proceded to tell me they didnt think i was going to amount to anything and im a bad person.
im a 21 year old in college and plan to become a doctor if it all works out...
any way my girl is trying to force me to be a "big part of her family" and i dont want anything to do with them after all this.
Should i just give up and be around her family all the time? (it totally goes against my personality.
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ps... i have talked to her and explained my feelings to her several time, yet the problem still persists.
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2007-05-25 18:51:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds to me like your g/f needs to be speakin up for her man. Dude, your going to college with a future plan. You haven't said that lately, out of no where you car jacked some one. Have you joined a gang recently? NO, so why do you let her parents get to ya. That's what they're doin, plus trying to run you off. Unless your g/f says differently, be at their house 24/7 just to prove you have nothing to be ashamed of ... & by you being there ... it'll peeve'em off. You REALLY need to talk to you woman & straighten out this B.S.
2007-05-25 19:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same talk with my In-laws. I treat my wife like royalty. I have a good, steady job and college education but it is never enough. I try to avoid the family events but do not deny my wife involvement with her family so sometimes I have to suck it up and smile. I have never been the type to let people talk down to me and usually I am quit a jerk myself.
I also tell myself that someday I will be picking out their retirement home and spending our inheritance. Then we will see who get the last word.
2007-05-26 02:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by jgreenkc@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't your girlfriend understand what her parents told you? They character assassinated you and she wants you to be big part of her family?
What her parents did was wrong. There is a better way to talk to her boyfriend about his plans for the future and his intentions regarding their daughter.
I would leave because no self-respecting man should have to endure what you did. It was uncalled for and cruel. If your girlfriend doesn't get it, then it is not your loss.
2007-05-26 02:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being upset. If it is important for you to prove to her family, have your parents to talk to them. What would I do is concentrate your relationship with your girl friend. You are marrying her, not her family. Just as long they respect you. I wish you luck in school and I am sure you will be a fine doctor. Just don't put faith in people, love your girl!
God Bless
2007-05-26 02:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all if the parents had problem with you dating there
daughter then why would they wait for 6 years to tell you
this. it sound like they may see someting that may she'
does not see, that you and her might not be the happy couple
down the road. you are 21 and you are entering a new
chapter in your life so may be they are trying to space her
and your self the pain. and if you have made it clear to her
how this make you feell them may be it time for both of
you take some time apart.
2007-05-26 02:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This could seriously come between you two. It depends on how big of a compromise you are willing to make. You shouldn't have to be uncomfortable with her family. But, you could always prove them wrong and rub it in their faces. :) Good Luck.
2007-05-26 01:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should spend a minimal amount of time with her family. She sounds like she is more interested in trying to please them than in trying to please you. Why is it necessary to spend all of your time with her family? Don't you go on dates?
But if she is young and living at home then you need to tough it out and be around her family when necessary. Don't go overboard trying to be friendly or trying to impress her family.
P.S. Her parents may be reacting to something she is telling them.
2007-05-26 01:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
her parents cant pick and chose who she wants to be with or who she dates...who she loves as a matetr of fact....how can they say you will not mount to anything unless you have proevn what they say is true some how....sounds like you need to reconsider your sources unless you both are truely in love with each other then her parents need to back off a little...it will all work out if its really meant to be....promise you that...goodluck to the both of you
2007-05-26 01:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by hotmommadru 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DUMP HER!
You are 21 and in college, find another girl!
You will probably end up cheating on your current girl friend anyway, so DUMP HER NOW before you hurt her.
2007-05-26 01:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
to start, it's not true that you're not going to amount to anything and you're a bad person. so, it appears that you're just being accused for something that you're not. and you don't deserve that. if you ask me, don't give up. ask her parents what they want you to do to prove yourself to them.
2007-05-26 01:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋