I heard this somewhere "when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted" Is that true? theres this guy I like and he likes me, but we can't get into a relationship at the moment..but at the beginning he'd always contact me, but now we ALWAYS talk... do you think if i play a lil hard to get for a few days (it is abnormal for us not to talk on a daily basis) it will make him more interested in me? What do you think?
2007-05-25 18:45:44 · 28 answers · asked by Lena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nothing worse than beating around the bush
2007-05-25 18:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Even if they don't realize they are doing it yes they do take it for granted, women also take it for granted if we have a guy that's always 'available', so no I am not raggin on you guys. Don't play games hun, if you want to be with him tell him and if the situation is where you two really cannot be together right now then spend the time talking getting to know each other better. A good relationship is not built on playing hard to get and being coy, be real and if reality cannot be right now then no harm in just being a friend for the time being.
2007-05-25 18:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by charlene_mueller 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you?
playing hard to get is an old addage and a childs game
it will backfire
if a guy is truly interested in you
he would have allready acted on it
if you play hard to get and he acts
you are merely provoking a wanted reaction
and it might for for a little while
but don't be suprised when over time he loses interest
as the relationship was never meant to be
and some other girl catches his attention
and she doesn't play hard to get
you are not some material object that is hard to get and thus you must use more effort to gain it, and once gain you enjoy your reward ( like a Ferrari for example ), even then cars are sold for the newer model since evetually all the work for the rewards tires a person physcologically and the person may feel like he always is in a insecure relationship and will never settle in a realtionship groove
2007-05-25 18:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont play hard to get. act like you normally would. be yourself and do what you feel like doing. never do anything that you would regeret. the guy likes you as you are, so why play hard to get. if he suddenly lose interest in you just because you cant get into a relationship as of the moment then he's an ***...dont mind losing him. but if he is a great guy who really loves you, he wouldnt mind. it can wait.
but also give each other time for other things and other people so things wont get too boring. find time for yourself(go out with friends once in a while) and let him do the same.
i hope it all works out! ;)
2007-05-25 18:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by wooo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that's ridiculous. The idea of playing hard to get has never made sense to me. If I like someone, I want to talk to them. I don't want to be annoyed, unless there's a legitimate reason (I don't mind when a woman is legitimately busy). The worst would be if he ever found out, or guessed that you were doing this on purpose,. In that situation, I'd be infuriated that my "partner" was playing games with me.
2007-05-25 18:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well, the saying is true. But don't act so he gets frustrated. You can tell him not to call you and give hima reason like "don't call me tomorrow because of have to do such and such" then talk to him again like always. Do this like once or twice every month. I'm sure you'll miss talking to him.
2007-05-25 18:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the first statement is true...men do take those things for granted....because he knows when to get ya....play a lil hard to get...every time he calls...be like I am on the other line..hey call me back later and then don't answer the phone...call him bout 4 or 5 hours later and be like I only got a min to talk..what's up......try for a day or two....gaurantee you will both be a lil more intrigued....good luck
2007-05-25 18:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mama C 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just about all men take ladies for granted...they think we will always be there and ready....thats up to you if you are ready for him when he wants....doesnt sound to promising to me...playing hard to get isnt going to work if the relationship is having problems anyway...whats the deal about cant get into a relationship right now?..that doesnt sound too good.
2007-05-25 18:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by hotmommadru 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
DON'T PLAY HARD TO GET....Just don't beckon to his call everytime. He will take you for granted if you're always available. Don't play with him, but use some discretion.
2007-05-25 18:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Boo Bee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
people who come up with those sayings are 28 types of dumb. It really depends on the guy, if you do, it might turn him on even more...if the guy is like me, it would only frustrate him and probably stunt your relationship for a while.
2007-05-25 18:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by alfred C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah... not interested but more like if u dont talk for a few days.. he'll start to worry.. or wonder where you are.. and then call to look for you.. thats how all guys are.. when theres so much of you, they tend to just take you for granted.. and when one day u disappear ... they suddenly freak out and start to look for you .. and worry..blah blah..
2007-05-25 18:49:41 · answer #11 · answered by cindee_babee 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋