Really is ther anyone who got their heartbrooken but has forgiven the person and the relationship is going good now? Evn wen the person cheated on you they really wanted to and just did it for sex but now they are sorry! has anyone with this experience or similar did this! I need answers please!
2007-05-25 18:23:43 · 18 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you take him back, he should be willing to let you know where he is and with who at all times until you rebuild your trust. It is not the sex that is the problem, it is the broken trust. He will have to work to give that back to you. If he is unwilling to do so then it will never last. When he is late you will become suspicious. When he gets in a "mood" you will wonder if it might be because of another woman. When you make love you will wonder if he thinks of "her".
If you take him back, please do not ask for details. The less you know the easier it will be on you.
Personally, I don't think a zebra can change it's stripes.
2007-05-25 18:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater, but you cannot learn from another usually. It is something that certain people must learn on their own. Some girls never learn, it is a fault they cannot help, a counselor could help you figure all that out and it is a good idea to seek that type of help rather than suffer a lifetime of misery and heartbreak. The question might be: Do you believe you deserve this? Do you believe he is the ONLY one that will love you?
If your answers are yes to those two questions then you could benefit from the help of a professional. Ten meetings with a pro could change your life if you put your heart and mind to it.
Good luck!!
2007-05-26 01:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Valerie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the kind of girl whose not an expert with relationships. To be honest, I only have had two boyfriends from the past. The recent has cheated on me before. I was so heartbroken. The nerve of him. But a year has passed and he finally realized that I'm the one for him and that I can make him happy. At first, it was hard for me to accept him since he has hurt me many times before. But its been a year and now he's changed. For a fact I know since I'm with him at all times. His friends are happy because I've changed him "FINALLY", they said. :) You don't need sex and premarital sex for that matter to have a successful relationship. Just as long as you two respect each other you can make anything happen. I hope this helps.
2007-05-26 01:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me, from experience, I know that giving someone a second chance is just a way to prolong the pain. I had a boyfriend that I knew cheated on me, but denied it straight face, he'll probably take it to the grave with him. But my point is.......if this is the kind of person he is......you don't want him. Start dating other people. It will make you realize other qualities people have and you will find yourself being happier without having to be compared to other girls or judged by your boyfriend.
2007-05-26 01:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously don't know anyone who has had a cheating situation work out for them. I had my ex cheat on me and i forgave him but i still broke off the relationship because there's no trust. When someone cheats on you it's so hard to trust them again. If I had stuck it out with my ex, I would always find myself thinking about if he was being faithful or not and that's not worth my time and suffering.
"If you love someone you gotta give them the key to everything that's yours...otherwise what's the point?"
~Casino
2007-05-26 01:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by adios! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, as bad as it is to admit, I took him back after cheating.....once. I really loved the man and always felt that since love is unconditional, forgiveness was the right thing to do. However, after the second time, I devided that my forgiving him only allowed him to think that I would automatically do it again.
2007-05-26 02:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by lilbeamlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgave and took back my ex-wife when she cheated...
When I did that apparently she took that to be her permission slip to go out and do it again.
Saying sorry only goes so far...believe the old saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater"
I've found out from her family that she has been cheating on her new husband - one of the guys she cheated on me with.
2007-05-26 01:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tried to make it work with my ex after she cheated on me.It didnt last.A month after I took her back she tried to cheat on me again.I walked in and she and the other guy hadnt done anything but they were both naked.The next day I packed and left for good.Taking a cheater back no matter what they tell you is a bad idea.
2007-05-26 01:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by john s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you take him back and "forgive" him things are never going to feel the same between the two of you, trust me, there is always going to be doubt in the back of your mind.... you won't be able to completely trust him again, plus it will probably happen again down the road.
2007-05-26 01:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by honey buckets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cheaters are only sorry when they get caught. If taken back, they probably will be good...for awhile...then once they get comfortable again in the relationship, they go back to their old ways.
I wouldn't take that chance.
2007-05-26 01:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋