I need some advice. I've recently begun taking my son into the ladies room with me. My question is what do I do when I need to go? Do I take him in the stall with me?(I really don't feel comfterable leaving him outside the stall) Is it ok for me to let him watch me go? How do you or how have you handled this situation with your little boys?
2007-05-25 17:50:37 · 26 answers · asked by jear1022 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have 3 girls, and when dad has them and they need to go, they need to go, lol. He takes them into men's room. He says they just go right to the stall. Also we joke about this, when I asked him about general "mens room" stuff, he says "it's not like we walk around with our (you know what's hanging out)" I think it's safe for a man to bring a little girl into the mens room.
Hope this helps.
2007-05-25 20:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have two boys 10 and 4... I take them in the ladies room with me because I do not feel comfortable leaving them outside the bathroom while I go... too much is happening to children these days so I don't risk it and I would not send them into the men's room alone because who knows... some evil perverted man could be in there waiting on them! You can call me over protected of my children and that's ok but I am not going to let anything happen to them so yes, I take them with me. Now, if I have them both with me... I will let them stand outside of the stall while I go but If I only have my 4yr old.. I bring him into the stall with me... I am not going to leave him outside the stall waiting on me... that is just dangerous. The answer is simple... continue to take him into the stall with you and if it will make you feel any better about the situation then make him turn around while you go.
2007-05-25 18:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Candy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old your son is. My son is 6 and he does not go into the stall with me. He gets a little embarassed when he has to go into the ladies restroom with me. It just depends on the age and where your at. If your in a local business that you trust for him to stand outside the stall, then fine. If not, take him in with you and make him go into the stall with you, just make him turn around so he can't see anything. Or maybe take someone with you so you can leave him with that person when you need to go.
2007-05-29 05:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your son is... but here's what I do:
I take my son in the stall with me. He is 2 months from turning 4 years old. There is no weirdness as far as he's concerned. If he were to start asking me those questions that no parent wants to answer... then... he would no longer go into the stall with me! It really depends on the age and the "curiosity" of your son. If you are uncomfortable, tell him to turn around and watch the door to make sure no one comes in! :o) It may make you feel better...
Now it won't be long until mine is too old to do that, I'm sure... But I can't give you an age. Just a state of mind. When he starts acting curious or starts pointing, turn him around or no longer take him in the stall with you.
That's all I know to tell you... Hope it helped. :o)
2007-05-25 18:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm childless - but when I have kids, I think its totally fine to have him stand outside the stall so you can see his feet. If anything happens to him, he will scream! So what really could happen? If kidnap, I'm sure its not easy to get away quickly when you're carrying a young child. If someone put a hand over his mouth so he couldn't scream, then you still might hear something strange, and you would see his feet move (so you couldn't see them outside your stall anymore) - and you'd know to call out to him. And if he didn't respond, then you'd get out of the stall quickly!
But if he's a toddler then having him in the stall too is the best thing, otherwise he might wander off or something.. .
2007-05-25 18:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, take him in with you, remember it's the LADIES room, most people in there either are mothers or will be mothers at one point, they understand.Also many places now have family restrooms just for this type of situation.
If you are concerned about your son being in the stall while you go potty, don't make a big fuss and he won't even care, unless you get naked to use the toilet he won't even see anything, just be discreet when wiping and pulling your pants up and down and you'll be fine. Remember going to the bathroom is natural, from the hobo to the queen, no one escapes it!
2007-05-25 18:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mom and still take my 5 year old into the stall with me. He can go into a separate stall if the bathroom isn't really busy. Places like highway rest areas and airports he goes in the stall with me. Small restaurants and quieter places I let him use his own stall. He's really fine with it either way. I've only let him go into the men's by himself a few times. I'm going to continue until he starts to feel uncomfortable going into women's restrooms. I've just told him its OK for him to go into girls if he's with a grown up girl. (Myself or grandma). He has occasionally asked about why girls sit or something but I think the questions would come up sooner or later anyhow and just answer him in a matter of fact way. I really don't feel like its a big deal for him to be with me. I'm much more concerned that he will start wanting to go into the men's by himself. (As a girl, you just don't know what goes on in there do you?!?) Hope this helps!
2007-05-25 18:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? If he's under 4 I'd say its fine for him to 'watch'. 4 and over can come into the same stall and be told to look away. Try to use the handicapped or "family" stalls that have a lot more room in them.
2007-05-25 17:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consider the age of the child---little boys will not be scarred by going into the ladies room--he will let you know when he is no longer comfortable going in. he doesn't need to actually watch, even young children appreciate privacy and he can keep his back to you if you take him into the stall in a crowded facility. if it is just you and him, he should be ok standing just outside the stall door. let your own piece of mind set the limitations----better safe than sorry.
2007-05-25 17:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have four boys and when they were little I took them in with me. Just treat the whole thing as normal, chat to them about other things if it makes you feel more comfortable. There is no way I would leave them outside of the stall as there are too many risks and I would never forgive myself if something happened to them. In Australia many of our large shopping centres have family toilets, often in the baby change/feed area but sometimes within normal toilet areas. They have a normal toilet and a little child sized one in the same stall. Often you can fit the shopping trolleys in as well - just fantastic!!
2007-05-25 17:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mum of four boys 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have taken my son in the stall with me... he is fixing to be 2... he watches me go at home... not a lot but sometimes... but when we are in the stall he is preoccupied with looking under the door and doesn't pay attention really... if he does look at me I just say... Oh mamas goin tee tee like a big girl... and flush the potty and clap and say yea mommy... eventually he will be potty trained... so he is at sometime or another know whats goin on
2007-05-25 18:02:15 · answer #11 · answered by luvsick143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋