I like to get out of the house. Since I am working on a dissertation, I like to have a "plan" for doing something fun, even if it is taking a walk or cooking something or going to a movie or a specific event, but I like to plan and schedule my fun since I have to work on my studies so much the rest of the time. He says he likes to "live day to to day" and not make plans, but when we do this, we usually end up watching tv or eating a simple meal or just doing chores. Since I am also recently divorced (about five months ago), this just doesn't suit me. I want to get out of the house and have fun or at least make plans to do *something*. Am I being unreasonable? I told him he made plans when we started dating. It's only been three months since we've been dating. I am 33.
2007-05-25 17:45:27 · 15 answers · asked by Tinkerbell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-05-25 17:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you...
He'll at least pretend to like going out sometimes, and make plans to have fun with you when you enact those plans, and then actually end up having a good time, despite his natural tendency to the contrary...
He might just be the kind of guy that interest follows action...
Sometimes I might mentally balk at going out when I want to stay home and relax...
But when I get up the gumption to rise above that slight negativity, I always end up having a great time, anyway...
'Cause what would be the point of NOT having a good time once the decision is made and carried out?
And I don't believe that taking you out every now and then (1 to 3 times a week, or more, depending on budget, and age) is a huge sacrifice for him to make in order to win your heart, and prove he loves you...
2007-05-25 17:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, You've just been divorced 5 months ago, and you've been dating this person for 3 months..and he's already showing that he doesn't want the same out of life that you do and that you deserve to have. Things like Living day to day having fun, meeting ppl, doing new things that yo've always wanted to do but couldn't..like you said you're 33 yrs old...and in the last 3 months, you stay home, study, do chores, watch tv and probably sports what he* wants to watch..once in awhile a movie and once ina while go out for a quick simple meal. I would seriously evaluate what you want out of life while you're still young enough to do things...travel, explore, etc.....do you want this boring, ya maybe we'll plan something but nah, feel like chillin today and watchn tv, kinda life?or do you want to Live life to the fullest and enjoy it while you're doing that as well as working hard studying to better yourself. HE doesn't seem like he wants to do anything...my suggestion......tis time to move on and spread your wings* :) Keep on Smiln*
2007-05-25 17:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants more sex? Some guys just stay at home to try to get sex. If that's not the case, try talking to him about it and start making plans yourself and see how he reacts. Next week make a plan to go see a movie or something, and tell him about it ahead of time and see what he thinks. Then maybe he'll start getting in the mood to do more stuff outside of the house.
2007-05-25 17:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 33 and had been going out with a guy for 2 months now. And I feel you 100% and dealt with the same type of stuff. I hate this and I am too grown for this and so are you. Ask yourself if this what you really really want and see what your answer is.My answer after asking was "I must be out of my mind"I want some one who is mature enough to take the lead and be the man. Take me out treat me like a lady, like I am special to him. He will do this until he grows some more. I want more and you should too. Don't settle girl please don't.
2007-05-25 17:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by Maze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want something new, that you should try to do something other then tv. So come up with your own plan on a day that you know he is available and surprise him. After it turns out great he will realize how fun it is with your system.
2007-05-25 17:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 37 year old woman and have been divroced for about 2 years. If you like making plans. Make plans.
Just do it w/ others. Maybe he will get sick of being left out and either start making plans of his own so he can be w/ you, or ...........well maybe it's time for a new beau.
Sounds boring. Sorry.
2007-06-02 17:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by blazing_fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are not that much older then me and i like to get out too and just have fun but about making plans some times plans can change after you make them but find a middle ground and work together and see where that leads but if any thing just make your own choice and run with it
2007-06-02 07:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a technique or the different i think of you're a troll, yet while your no longer then i'm sorry for asserting that. SO, its sparkling that while you're in a dating that intercourse is going to be in touch and you the two ought to have made up some floor regulations before you have gotten into it. even if, he shouldn't stress you to do something which you do no longer choose to do, so for sure he does not love you techniques you may desire to be enjoyed. sell off him.
2016-10-06 01:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by making a "Date Night".
First and only rule of Date Night: You go out on a DATE!
Start with the one night and build to weekend getaways...
Good luck
2007-05-25 17:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Already he's taking you for granted. But he can only get away with it if you allow him to do so. Set the criteria for what you want, tell him, and don't settle for less. You don't hear him complaining do you? That's because he's getting what he wants. So should you.
2007-05-25 17:51:09 · answer #11 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋