we both work fulltime and split the bills 50/50.I work 8 hours a day 5 days a week.she works 10 hours a day and 4 days a week.she always has friday off(3 day weekend).I think since shes off she should do the cleaning and grocery shopping on friday.she feels we should do it together on the weekend.i just think she should do it since she has the day off.
2007-05-25 17:44:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The answer you get would depend on if you were a man or a woman but you are not going to win this battle.Help her do it on the weekend or your life will have no peace.The way it is done in my house is I clean and mow the outside(cars included)and she does the inside.Except the clothes and cooking that is split between both of us.
2007-05-25 17:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think you should both do the cleaning. She needs those 3 days to recuperate from working 10 hour shifts. It is a lot more exhausting than you think. You do everything else 50/50, so why do you think it's her job to do all of the cleaning and grocery shopping? I'm sure you wouldn't feel that way if the tables were turned. By not pulling your weight in this area, she is going to grow to resent you.
2007-05-26 16:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so your ok with everything else 50/50, why not the cleaning too? What if she wanted you to do the cleaning while you were at home while she's doing a 10 hour shift? She works hard 4 days, while you lazy about and do the same work and spread it out to five. Get over it, your both working f/t, split it equally.
2007-05-25 18:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jenni P 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well given that you both are working 40 hours and splitting the bills you should do as much of the housework and such as she does.
Think about it. :) If the situations were reversed would you really want to do all the housework on your day off just because your girlfriend works a five day week? I'd be pretty upset with that arrangment, myself.
Another solution might be to make a list of chores that each of you are to do, and you can go further and even list the days they are to be done if you have a pretty regular schedule. (That is what my husband and I do since we both work full-time.) Then as you do the chore mark it off your list. So that way all the chores get done and you both can do them on the schedule that works best for both of you, given your different work schedules.
2007-05-25 17:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's all about being fair.
Sounds like you could clean the two hours you have 5 days a week.
Then she could do what needed to be done on her day off.
If both of you would clean up after yourself daily, there wouldn't be that much left to do.
It's just my husband and I and I keep my mess cleaned up and so does he.
I don't care who it is, if you spend 20 minutes to 1/2 hour cleaning every day, you will have your weekend free.
She isn't your slave.
She is your equal and you should treat her that way.
Hope you can work this out. A little work never killed anybody.
2007-05-25 18:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had this issue with my ex (whos still my room mate, odd situation I know). He felt that since I was always at home, I should clean. I take night classes and work on-call when Im not in school. He works 2nd shift. I think there needs to be an agreement between the both of you. One needs to run the errands and shop while the other cleans, or do everything together. My ex and I go grocery shopping after midnight at walmart, and the employees hate us. We toss the frozen pizzas like frisbees and play football with the paper towels. We do everything together. It makes it easier and definitely more fun.
2007-05-25 18:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by for me to know, you to not... 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My fiance and I share those duties except for the grocery shopping. If he did it all we would have would be ramen noodles and hamburger helper. But you said it...you both work full-time! No one person should have to do all the cleaning! If you both do it on Saturday morning then it will be done in half the time! It sounds like you both work just as hard as the other one and you share the bills 50/50, so why not share the household chores?
2007-05-25 17:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by justcatch13 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
be creative. you clean after work on the 4 days she works two hours longer than you, and on the next week, let her clean on her day off. the next day, you both go for a walk in the park together, or maybe another activity you can do together. I'm sure you can think of something !
2007-05-25 17:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Smart 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i agree with your girlfriend... remember that both of you live and the house and splits the bill 50/50.. if you ask her to clean the house..that's unfair....even if she works only 4 days but works 10 hrs. 40 hrs a week like you... its her right to have the 5th day off for her because she spent extra 2 hrs in her work days...just so everything is fair just dio it..it would be a great bonding time for you.. and it will seem that your sweet... to sacrifice part of your day off helping her clean the house...
2007-05-25 17:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by KATIE 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She's right. She works as many hours as you do, just divided differently. If you split the bills 50/50, why should she do 100% of the housework? If you really want her to do it all, you should pay extra bills, like 75/25.
2007-05-25 17:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by n2mama 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋