My relationship with my 1st bf is almost 6 years already. Now he is too far from me bcoz of his work. Every month we only meet twice a month. My problem now is there is another guy loves me and want me to be his gf. I also loves him and now he is my bf already. My 1st bf didn't know about this and i will keep this as a secret. I really confused now bcoz i already have 2 bf. My 2nd bf already know that i already have a bf but he say that he ready to sacrifice everything so that he will not lost me and he will understand if i with my 1st bf. He said that he knows his position bcoz he is only my 2nd bf. He also said that it is not his fault to love me eventhough i already have a bf bcoz he cannot force his heart to stop loving me. Please help me.. Am i wrong to do this or what?? For your information i am 20 years old.. Thank you for the answers.. I really appreciated it.. God bless..
2007-05-25 15:03:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are confused because you didn't end it with your first boyfriend. You should really communicate and be honest with him as you are with the second guy. If you were your First boyfriend, would you like it if you were in his shoes? Be honest about it.
You have to communicate and be honest no matter what. If you are already committed to one guy, you should stay away from any other guy. It confuses you and makes hearts break when someone finds out. Why be secretive?
You should stop the relationship with the second one and do something about your first relationship. If you only went with the second guy because you miss the first guy, then you are putting them both in hearts harm way.
Your first boyfriend will find out if you don't tell him. God has ways of telling the truth. You need to come clean with your first boyfriend and break it off with him as it is not fair to your first boyfriend. Always end a relationship before starting another, unless it is strictly friends ONLY.
Do the right thing. You know in your heart what the right thing is. Pray about it and do the right thing.
2007-05-25 15:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the first guy because you barely see him. that's probably the reason that you are able to keep that secret. and there is no telling what secrets he may have. it is possible for him to cheat because, i mean, you did. and guy number two obviously really cares about you if he's willing to still try to get with you regardless of your boyfriend. and you probably get to see him more often. that would build a stronger relationship with each other and there won't be any secrets. because, even though you are hooked up with two guys, you would be devistated to find out your first b/f was hooked up with another. you should break it off with the first. when you explain (and you should because you owe him that much unless he's crazy or something!) just try to not make it seem like you cheated just to be cheating, that you had a valuable reason.
2007-05-25 15:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick one of them. Dont cheat on someone you love.
But if it's any consolation, most people have ended up happier choosing the one they've been with forever. If you choose the other, I doubt it'll work out and you'll have thrown away your amazing relationship with the other guy. Dont let your heart be broken like that, girly.
2007-05-25 15:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your wrong....u need to be honest in your relationships...this sort of thing was bound to happen but show respect for the time you and 1st bf have had and tell him this long distance isn't going to work and that you have interest in another bf. Its the proper thing to do.
2007-05-25 15:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You used the words "God Bless", but if you were a true believer of the Holy Ghost, you would know that CHEATING on your boyfriend is wrong and you wouldn't keep deceiving him, Quit being a skieeza...
2007-05-25 15:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump number one and number two. Number one isn't really love if you ahve been together since 14 it's just familiar. Number two is CREEPY! How can you be ok with your girl having another BF??? I don't know. My advice would be to completely start over.
2007-05-25 15:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness , you are so young . Two hands can only carry one heart . you need to be honest with yourself , and then with whom you choose . Do not cheat or play with anothers ' heart . By the time you are my age (40) . they will both be long gone ...trust me ..God bless and good luck
2007-05-25 15:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by D-Day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump Mr. familiar . Go w/ # 2 you said you love him and he loves you.... Start over fresh w/ # 2 ... Don't ever cheat and grow a true relationship that will be something to be proud of and respected..... most of all you will be w/ the one you love and the one you can share your life w/.....
2007-05-25 15:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋