It's been 4 months since my ex took a break from the relationship to work on personal problems of his own. I let him know repeatedly that I am here for him if he needs anything. Well it's been about a month now since I've had any contact with him at all because I am trying to give him his space. He recently posted a blog stating (cryptically) that he has been thinking about me a lot lately, and that I have been the inspiration for a lot of songs that hes been writing for his band. If he is thinking about me that much, I figure there has got to be something there. He was burned VERY badly by his ex, I don't know if he just got a little freaked out because he started developing feelings for me and it started getting serious? But I just don't know if I should try to contact him, or continue to wait for him to come back to me? I know I should probably wait until he's ready to come back to me, but I don't want him to think that I dont care...
2007-05-25 13:59:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just got back from California and emailed him a little about my trip and asked how he was doing. He said he is okay, not the best but he is managing to get by. He said things are still uneasy, but their working their way out. I told him again that if he needed anyone to talk to that I'm here for him. I emailed him last night and sincerely apologized for jumping to conclusions about him, cuz I had gotten a little frustrated with him a while back, and just asked if things were cool between us but haven't heard back. Should I not have done that?? I just don't know if I should just wait for him to come back to me, or try to contact him once in a while
2007-05-25 13:59:22 · update #1
Giving someone space means allowing them some time alone to deal with whatever is going on in their life. It's great that you offered him support while he's going through the storm, but you can't really expect too much from him in terms of emotional connection at this time. The best thing that you can do now is to back off and live your life. When he is ready he will come back to you.
If you're the inspiration for most of his music, it's safe to assume that you're always in his thoughts. Musicians are deep, soulful thinkers with very sensitive hearts. It's going to take him a while to get back on solid ground. So, just be patient and wait, he'll come back.
2007-05-25 14:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to deal with his problems for a long time, then give him his space as you are doing and it may work out. If you think that maybe his fear might be a problem, then get out now. Guys like this tend to be REAL hand-fulls in the future.
2007-05-25 14:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by Deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him exactly how I feel about the whole thing, and ask him where he is coming from. Why put your life on hold when you may be waiting for nothing.
2007-05-25 14:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun i am sorry to say this i think he might of gotten a new gf to make you jealous
2007-05-25 14:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by cathryn r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋