13 yr old w/ Overprotective Parents???

Question

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Okay, if you're reading this right now, then THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!


but ... okkay... i really need to calm myself down, don't I??? but here's my problem: My parents have TOTALLY CROSSED THE LINE with their overprotectiveness M"ANY TIMES!!!!! i HATE them, i tell u: HATE THEM???? Any girls my age with the same problem who have a good solution for me??? or maybe something that you tried to do to rebel that DID or DID NOT work????? I NEEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDDDDDDDDDD HELP HERE!!!!! PLEASE HELP MEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

BOOOOY ARE YOU MAD? We can feel your anger through the computer. Let me say that I understand where you're coming from and as a mom of a teenager I would like to offer you some friendly advice (please don't hate me).

Your parents love you and have an obligation to protect you from the tragedies of life. While I know that you would like to just go out and do whatever you want, you have to understand and respect that your parents know what's best for you.

There is a level of emotional maturity along with the ability to act responsibly in the world that gives a parent the confidence to allow their children some of the freedoms of life. I'm not saying that you aren't mature or responsible, but you have to show your parents by your words and your actions that you can be trusted.

I can tell you that rebellion is the quickest way to be locked down until you're 95, so don't do that. If you ever want to win your paren'ts trust and respect, you have to be mature enough to sit down and talk with them and tell them honestly about how you feel.

We aren't ogres, I'm sure that they recognize that you are growing up and that eventually you will be on your own. Sometimes you have prove to us that you are worthy. And the lines that you say they have crossed were created by them, so that wouldn't be possible.

The best solution that you will ever hear and it will never come from a teenage girl is to talk to them. That's the only way that you can be heard and understood. Good luck! And remember, NO REBELLION!!!

Answer 2

Ok, just be open minded, i am going to answer this to help you, not agree with your parents. First of all, they love you very much and want the best for you. I am probably old enough to have a 13 year old, but i don't. I am going to tell you when I was 13 I hated my parents because they were overprotective and I felt constricted all the time. I couldn't go to my friends house, have a boyfriend, or stay up late. Now I am an adult and understand why they were so strict. I have 2children 2 and 3 and an 18 year old stepson, who has gotten himself in trouble with drugs when he was around your age and still uses!!!! I have to say as much as i consider myself a "cool" stepmom and mom, I have to set strict rules for the 18 year old. Have you ever tried to talk to them with out yelling. They will probably be shocked that you are trying to communicate. If you can't do that write a letter to them and leave it on the kitchen table or on there bed. If they still don't budge ask them to remember what 13 was like. Was there ever an instance where they lost your trust? Good Luck, i promise it won't be like this forever.

Answer 3

I feel sorry for you, but you have to realize, 13 year olds don't have many options. You might be able to go live with a grandparent or an uncle or aunt. Are there any other adults you can confide in? Have you tried finding someone in a similar situation online through one of the many Yahoo groups? Do you belong to a church? If so get more involved in it. Your parents can hardly object to that. Join a singing group, just to get out of the house. Do after school activities - there must be something interesting you can do that will keep you away from home a little more. Good luck!

Answer 4

You would have to give examples of their over protectiveness.
Parents are supposed to protect their kids from things they think are harmful for them. Sometimes it seems unfair, but when you grow up you will do the same thing to your kids. They discipline you because they love you, not because they are trying to make you miserable, even though it seems like that's their life mission sometimes.
I was a very rebellious 13 year old snuck out of the house, stole cars (my friend's moms car), smoked, drank a lot of beer, and hung out with older guys. I look back now and thank God I grew up at all, let alone normal. i had friends die of drug over doses, friends that were getting abortions, friends that turned into alcoholics, and all the guys I hung around with were losers. I learned my lessons the hard way, and that is what your parents are trying to help you avoid. You will be grown up soon enough, enjoy your childhood while you have it. Believe me, the next 5 years are going to fly. Then comes college, or a job, and all the bills that come with them.

Answer 5

I have the same problem, my mom would happily hold my hand in the grocery store if she could, I'm almost 16.
You have to remember they only do this because they love you, and I'm sure that's what everyone tells you, but it's true.
Ask them to give you a little more freedom, don't rebel because that will make them temporarly hate you in return. (Parent Hate, it's different!)
Think of ways that you can compromise with them, and tell them that if you protect me too much, I will never learn on my own.
Once you enter college no one will be there to hold your hand (unless you live with them for the rest of your life.) this will have some negative effects on you, if the overprotection gets out of hand.

Good Luck!
Remember this when you have your own children.

Answer 6

You are 13 years old, you don't know and you don't realize how bad and scary the world is out there. Your parents know this, and because they love you, they are protecting you from that. There are evil, evil people out there who would take advantage of you, would rape you, would even kill you. Your parents, in other words, are doing their job. You can hate them until you're blue in the face, but you're not going to change their minds.

I tell my kids that if they hate me, I must be doing something right. I'm not here for them to like me, I'm here to keep them safe, to raise them up to be responsible adults. I'll be willing to bet your folks are doing the same with you. You can either fight them like you have been doing--and make yourself miserable in the mean time--or you can just suck it up, live by their rules, and tell yourself you've probably got it pretty good. You have a warm bed to sleep in at night, right? You eat 3 meals a day? You have clothes to wear? Heck, it looks like you even have internet access, right? You're better off than about 95% of the 13 year olds in this world. Be grateful for what you have.

Answer 7

When most of us were 13, 14 yr old, we all said at one time or another that we hated our parents because we couldn't do this, couldn't do that and it seemed like they were stopping us from having fun with our friends. Being told who we can hang around with, who we couldn't hang around with...given curfews...alot of do's and don'ts. I used to think my parents were plain mean....I thought I was old enough to do what I wanted to do and thought I knew everything there was to know....All your parents are doing is watching out for your safety and well-being...you take it as making your life miserable, right? The truth is, whether you like it or not, there are alot of bad things going on out in the world and your parents know this......Being 13 is NOT easy...but, as you get older and mature, you will be allowed to do more and although you won't believe it now, you will probably be the same way with your own children! Really curious as to what they actually have done as far as "over-protectiveness" .??

Answer 8

If the mothers and fathers don't understand. No, it won't in any respect paintings. What approximately once you adult men prefer to have a 'date'? Your mothers and fathers will ask, and discover out. he's purely on the criminal age, and you in basic terms grew to grow to be an adolescent. I heavily do not think of he's incredibly that into then you definately. If my daughter grow to be caught, it might count on what she did. i might provide her a communique, not something strict, in the event that they did something equivalent to or much less then an elementary kiss. slightly extra so, if some tongues have been shoved down throats. yet then a bedamned lecture and scarcity of privileges if outfits began getting stripped.

Answer 9

I'm a parent that tries to not be overprotective.

Can you give us some examples of what they have done, especially those things that you say have totally crossed the line?

We can't help if we don't know the situation better.

Answer 10

Hmmm.I do recall a 14 yr old on here last week who was living with a very harsh over protective aunt.She wouldnt let her date her b/f,can you believe that.The girl outsmarted her though and showed her.She snuck out with the guy, he took her to a friends house where there was a party and they drugged and raped her.Now, thank GOD you have parents who care and are over protective instead of letting you run wild.