With the right girl, of course. I am curious to finally get the honest answer, because an impression I get is from guys is as if there is nothing worse than that.
2007-05-25 13:38:55 · 8 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must be seeing the wrong ones, or maybe I'm an uncommon specimen in that regard (I doubt it). I want to get married and have children, preferably by the time I'm 30. I know that already, and I'm only 22. But I'm single right now and I think I'm going to seek a PhD so I might not be able to start dating extensively until I'm 28. Then again, I might meet someone on campus . . . . Anyway, I think women have the problem that they're attracted to guys who don't want to get married. I think it's the challenge that those guys pose that draws women in. Good night!
2007-05-25 13:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with the right women, and maybe ..
and that's the key
not all guys want the responsibility
not all guys want their life as they know it uprooted with diapers and what not
and it's unfair to criticize those who don't want to go that route
but society and family and religion put on the pressure
but have no solution for the 50% divorce rate and the ensuing mess with
child support, visitations
is why marriage is now in decline and being single or living together is on the rise for the 1st time in history
those with kids can look back and those without and somewhat envy their life
as the freedom to travel, to explore life sans any hang ups is elusive to them
also economic security is a thing of the past once married with children
so the appeal becomes less and less
the birthrate in some countries ( France is a good example ) is in decline as some external factors ( wide availability of RU486, high unemployment, increase in recreational sex ) despite government nudging to have more children to keep replacing the decline in birthrates per child. Only the influx of immigrants cause major population shifts where for the most part the men will eventually marry inside their ethic race and have children, but outside of the ethnic background, the decline is marriage and children is primarily a Caucasian event
2007-05-25 18:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can admit it I have seen what happens to guys that don't build a family they die a lone in hospitals old, broken and lonely. The problem is with the transition from happy go lucky to major responsibility. Also the many disappointments wrapped up in relationships with other people makes it difficult for anyone to see the benefits in the shorter term.
2007-05-25 13:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rational Humanist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest and tell your bf how you feel. maybe not in the first couple of months but soon after if the both of you are sure of each other. I don't think that's the worst thing at all. I'm looking forward to marriage and kids!
2007-05-25 13:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by nobiz504 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See...
How do I put it. There are some that are so immature that dont even look toward the future. There are others like me that look toward the future and eventually want kids. I would like 2-5. Women mature faster then men.
2007-05-25 13:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got to be the guys that are wrong for you. There are guys out there , that really want the trust anf commitment of marrage, and serious relationships. And I know alot of guys , who long to be fathers , or already are and love it!
2007-05-28 15:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by jessica29154 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah, I told my ex that I want to marry her and have kids together, If you really want kids find someone who wants to have them with you, don't try to convince anyone and don't take the attitude that OK I will have kids, he has to want to as well.
2007-05-25 13:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by feanvilo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then honey your talking to the wrong men. If your looking for that, then change the guys your talking to.
2007-05-25 13:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by JLM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋