how can you try to have relashionships with girls when you have low self esteem and bpd?

Question

i get clingy and needy and i always get rejected and im angry about it! no girl wants me..
im 29 im gonna grow old, lonely and bitter and no girls gonna want me..
ill probally end up doing myself in, i cant stand the loneliness, dont have any friends, never had either or never been in a steady relashionship....
no ones interested in me or my problems

in a rage right now, im clenching my teeth, feel like battering something, again and again and again and again and again
my jaw hurts from clenching my teet im so angry..everybody else has a life and gets their needs met except me...i live in a state of loneliness with low self esteem consumed with anger biterness and hate

Answer 1

First let me say I completely understand what you mean. I'm a 20 year old female who has never been in any sort of relationship, ever. In fact, as much as I like to hide this fact, I've never even kissed a guy before and I think it's because I have a very low self esteem. I have a number of guy friends who, when I've gone to them and tried to talk to them about becoming more than friends, they don't want anything to do with me. It hurts, but I think the main thing is to start having more faith in yourself. Find a girl that will appreciate your good qualities. I'm trying to become more trusting of myself and I think I'm doing pretty well.

Let me know how it goes, or if you want to chat more.

Answer 2

i recommend that you become a meditator. improving yourself is the only reasonable path here. your question assumes you cannot change. but YOU CAN CHANGE. you cannot get over bpd maybe but i recommend aikido, judo. start going 5 times a week. change yourself so you can love yourself. that is your project. if you don't take actions to change you're right. you will be alone and unhappy the rest of your life. there are many paths to improving yourself, but physical activity is an essential key.

Answer 3

start volunteering some where like at a no kill animal shelter that stress free or some where you like -- you will meet a lot of girls that way and some cool guys to hang out with also

thats what i do and i meet cool people all the time

Answer 4

So you get clingy and needy then get rejected. Put another way, this reads "I can't get exactly what I want when I want it so I have a tantrum" - and then you ask questions like this. I wonder why ! ):!