How do you respond to people who ask rude questions that are none of their business?

Question

Examples: Why aren't you married? How come you don't gain/lose weight? Why do you date him/her? Why do you date people who are black/white/asian etc.....

Answer 1

I usually say, "Did you really just ask me that?????" and they almost always back off after that. If they keep it up, I will give them a total BS answer that frustrates their nosiness.
example:
Nosy person: "How much do you weigh?"
Me: "Did you really just ask me that?????"
NP: "Yes. Yes I did."
Me: "Oh, close to the coordinates of Biagualar..."
NP: "Huh?"
Me: "Yes."

Answer 2

I would simply tell them that you feel that the question they have asked is rude and none of their business. or about the marriage thing just say i would rather be single than settle for a bottom feeder like SOME people did. as you look at them directly in the eye. they might get the point and stop asking those questions.

Answer 3

Great question! I have a personal story related to this topic!

At my best friend's wedding, I was tipsy from the wine, and my aunt (who sticks her nose in everyone's business in my family), piped up with, "Why don't you get your cousin to introduce you to his single friends"? Keep in mind that I'm not close to my cousins. I just looked at her and said "No." So she shot back with "What's the matter? Don't you want to date guys?" And without even thinking I said "Nope".

I told my best friend what had happened, and we laughed ourselves silly. She suggested I bring a girl to her wedding (since my aunt probably thought I was a lesbian). I was not trying to give anyone a heart attack though.

But I just tell people to buzz off most of the time.

Answer 4

it's really fun to blow these kind of people out of the water by saying something like "oh anah" or completely changing the subject. like if they ask you how come you don't go on a diet respond by talking about
ginny pigs or somethings so off the wall, they will unless they are completely stupid get the hint and drop it.

if they are just flat noisy and won't let it go...............it's always great to flip the mirror and respond with another question to them, one that is more offensive then the one they asked you.
have fun, don't take them personally. people are board and look to others lives to fulfill their own lives.

Answer 5

i get that all the time.. for the marriage i tell them i am not ready for that yet.. just got divorce and don't want to make the same mistake.. for the weight well i lost weight and then they said i was to little i gain it back and now i am fat so i say what does it matter i cant please all of you.. as for the dating i say he or she is not my type as for the different race dating.. i say if i found someone i really like i would consider it.. and i did and we have been together for 3 yrs.. still not considering marriage..lol

Answer 6

The best way to approach this, I think, is to tell them you don't discuss your personal life with people you don't: A. feel comfortable with. B. Don't know very well. or C. people you are not more than mere acquaintances with. For me the latter is most of the people I work with. Just because I work with you does not make us friends. Does not mean I don't want to be friends It is just not automatic.

Answer 7

Well, there are some good options:

1. laugh
say "that's a funny one"
2. say "when i figure it out i'll tell you"
3. say "don't you wish i would tell you that"
4. say "a girl doesn't like to reveal her secrets"
5. say "i sometimes wonder that myself"
6. say "there's no reason, i'm just like that"
7. say "ain't broke, don't fix it"
8. say "why do you want/need to know that?"

the key is that you are nice but basically refusing to answer the question. and my experince is that they will get the hint and not pursue the question.
try not to interpret the question or person as rude.
they just want to know something you don't want to reveal.

Answer 8

I ask them a question . . . like ... "Why do you ask?" "Do you always ask such personal questions of people you hardly know?" "Are you aware that your question is insensitive?"
and just keep asking questions the answers to which will point out to most people eventually that you will not answer their rude question. (though there are some really rude and dense people in the world who will never get it).

Answer 9

Since the question is rude, it is fine to answer, It's none of your business. You are giving them back their own bluntness. I have been offended by one of those questions, which someone asked about me behind my back.

Answer 10

With rude questions your free to answer anyway you choose including being rude in return.