i been in a relationship with a older man that is 13 yrs older than me and i am bored to death but i love him i recently met a younger man 6 yrs younger than me and i feel like stella who got her groove back... now i am torned between two men should i choose stability or fun help!!!!!
2007-05-25 12:51:50 · 4 answers · asked by hollywoodwblk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is this new guy just "fun" as you call him? If so, that's just your hormones talking. Or are you truly in love with him? You say you "love" the older gentleman. If you truly love him, why would you betray him? Where is your loyalty and love and devotion? Of course, you haven't exactly taken the vows either, have you? "In sickness as well as health, for richer or poorer,..." Is the older guy not as much "fun" now that both of you have aged 13 years? Are his looks going? His health and vitality? Good thing you are not someone who sees only the outside package! Yeah, right.
2007-05-25 13:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well about six years ago I would have said go with the love of your life and your feelings. But the truth is you have to use your brain instead of your feelings leading you. Fun feels good for a while. If the older gentleman has been good to you, you deserve to also be good to him. A good man is truly hard to come by. You're in the beginning of a relationship with the younger one...who's to say it will last? Over time you may find out that's not the man for you. Now that I'm older and wiser I choose stability. Yeah stability is where it's at. If you're bored then change up your schedule and do something fun, new, and different. Go on a vacation with your man...take up a hobby together...there's plenty to do. The time of your life won't pay the bills.
2007-05-25 12:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lifeizgood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truely aren't happy, you should break-up with your boyfriend. It sounds like you met someone who sparked something inside of you, and i don't know about you but that feeling is very hard to find in a person. If you found someone that excits you and makes you happy than i say go for it.
I know a woman who married a man she didn't love for 20yrs.
That's not what you want to do, life's too short you need to be happy.
2007-05-25 13:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, You have to make that choice ! But remember the young guy will slow down someday. But he will probobly live longer so what does your heart say ? Try praying about it !
2007-05-25 13:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋