military life.?

Question

I will be going in the air force....would it be best to marry my high school sweet heart before i leave for basic or after or sould i wait till i live on a base? (p.s. my sweet heart will also be joining the air force) will we even see each other? I am kinda worried about it cause i dont want to get married and be so tied up in my work in the air force that i have no time for my husband/boyfriend. and if we are not married but we are both in the air force will we still be able to live together if we wanted to ? thank you for any info you can give!

Answer 1

There are pros and cons...

If you marry, then you will be way more likely to be stationed together (though it's not guaranteed).

If you don't marry, chances are very good you'd be in different geographical areas. If you luck out and get stationed together, AND if you're able to live in town (some are required to live on base) then you can live with whoever you want.

My personal opinion? DON'T GET MARRIED YET! Why?

a) You will both be completely different people after you go through basic. You will grow and mature in ways you can't even imagine, and you might even feel like you don't know each other anymore. If you are still in love, then fabulous. But you might decide otherwise.

b) Marriage takes work. Being a dual military couple is even more difficult. It would be very beneficial to you both to get a taste of military life (and independence) before you jump into married life.

c) The divorce rates decline dramatically as couples ages at marriage increase. You're marriage has a much better chance of lasting if you are in your mid-twenties rather than late teens, early twenties. (Divorce rates are also higher for couples who live together before marriage, so think twice about that, too).

d) You have nothing to lose by waiting... if you're meant to be together, then your love will last through all of the upcoming challenges... even if you are geographically separated. However, you have ALOT to lose by rushing into marriage. Divorce is not a happy ordeal, and military life provides even more stresses than usual.

Answer 2

If you both are married, it would be easier to get assigned together. If you get married before, he should be able to go with you as a dependent to your first duty assignment if the training is long, he's not joining too quickly, and he chooses to. Secondly, there is a program called Joint Spouse, or Join Spouse possibly, that the Air Force will attempt to assign you together if there is somewhere that you both can go. The military needs will always come first but they're pretty good at getting couples together. The work part all depends on what job you're doing and how good you are at managing your time, just like any other job. All these are from the enlisted side though, I'm not for certain how it works on the officer side but officers have more say on where they go anyways.

Answer 3

Entering the military means that what you want is always considered less than the needs of the military. No, the military will not give you government quarters if you are not married, but no matter what, there is always the chance, and a good chance that you will end up in Germany and she will end up in Hawaii. Kinda hard to have a good marriage that way, isn't it? My suggestion? If both of you are joining the Air Force, then wait to marry until you both are out. That's only my opinion.

Answer 4

it is a VERY hard thing to be married to someone in the military. i have friends who are married and both in the military and find it really difficult, especially with all the deployments. while one is home, the other is deployed, and then the opposite. if you are really adament on joining i would look into the different MOSs that the military offers. i would wait until you at least get out of basic, or understand they way military life works before making that commitment. it is hard to be military spouse and i can speak from experience, but there is also a strong feeling of pride and love.
i hope that you are able to find what is right for you.
take care.

Answer 5

I think you should wait.
BUT! The Air Force (good service pick by the way) has alot of opportunity's for you both to be together.
You'll have a dream sheet that you'll fill out in your first week of basic. Discuss this with your girl, that way you'll both have the same location where you'd like to be stationed.
Not to break you both up, but, "there are soo many women in the military, its unbelievable". Alot of men too.

Answer 6

You can get married. But if both of you signed on the line Uncle Sugar will send either of you wherever he needs/wants, you. Both of you. If you took a recruiter's word for anything not written down, that was your first mistake in military life. It is not a game. It is four year contract. When you finish it you will both be very different. After that you can go on.

Answer 7

Don't get Married fresh out of High School..expescially when you bout to joint the Military. You gone be doing a lot of partying and Drinking and you don't won't to be locked down.

Answer 8

i would ask a recruiter, how you would go about getting CO-LOCATION written into your enlistment... CO-LO only works after your married...

the military can be extremely rewarding... as can marriage.. but you want to make sure the life {both military and marriage} is right for you before you start either.. once the life is started, its quite difficult to change it....

Answer 9

if you get married right after high school your not going to experience anything wait a year after your in and see how it goes, many couples in the military end up in divorces because they do this, trust me i see it

Answer 10

if your married they will station you together as long as they can based on jobs if your single no guarantee and you wont live together you will both live in barracks