2007-05-25 11:37:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes, especially if the differences in the faiths cause conflicts between the couple.
I have "lost" a couple of relationships in my life because of differences in our faiths that just cannot be changed... i.e. the desire for having children (in this case, it was a faith-based desire), and the belief in Jesus as Savior.
If there is general agreement of the two faiths, then the couple does have a chance of working things out... but the answer to your question is ... yes it is HARD to.
2007-05-25 12:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It says in scripture that we are not to be "unequally yoked". If you are saying you are considering dating a non-believer, don't. They will likely do a better job of dragging you down than you will do of redeeming them.
If you consider the idea of a yoke, it is solid, with collars for two animals. Now suppose it was a yoke for oxen - so you hook up an ox and a donkey. This is unequal yoking - the ox will get warn down dragging the little donkey who can't keep up. It doesn't do the donkey any good either.
Personally, I don't recommend dating, as we know it in the world. If you are interested in someone, consider just spending time with them at their house (parents at home) or yours, or in group activities. It sounds corny, but it keeps you and your interest safe and accountable. Besides, if someone is not interested seeing you in such circumstances, they aren't really interested in you.
Anyway, dating someone you have nothing spiritually in common with is not good, at all. Eventually, it will become frustrating, or someone will be compromising their faith in some way.
2007-05-25 18:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For many years, I've dated someone who doesn't share my faith. Generally, it doesn't bother either of us. We're very respectful of each other's opinions, and supportive of one another's endeavors. But once in a great while, I find myself secretly wishing that she shared my beliefs. I see other couples at church going up to take Communion together, and I know that will never happen for us. She just doesn't believe the same things that I do, and never has. I see couples kneeling together and praying in church, and it saddens me that I'll never know what it's like to pray with the woman I love. However, I adore her with all my heart, and refuse to turn my back on our relationship simply because she holds different beliefs.
2007-05-25 18:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by solarius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a bad idea to date someone with a different faith. How will you raise your children if you cannot agree on this basic thing?
2007-05-25 18:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by crm451 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,I think it's probably pretty easy to do....as long as you never bring up your faith to them. Kinda hard to do if you are serious about what you believe.
Those kind of relationships always bring sorrow, better stick with the word that tells you not to be unequally yoked together.
2007-05-25 18:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Eartha Q 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It takes a measure of tolerance to look past your own views and listen to what your partner has to say about his/her own faith. It also takes the compassion to let her believe what she wants to believe and not condemn her for having different views. If you really can't get past it but you have an otherwise good relationship, just don't discuss religion.
2007-05-25 18:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by lupinesidhe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize you are not going to have everything in common. That would be totally boring. However, faith is a totally different issue. I think you should be close is beliefs. You might not believe in every little detail of your denomination, but close is what I recommend.
2007-05-25 18:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by ScottBirchfield 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard having friendships with people that don't share the same faith, beliefs, feelings, thoughts. It doesn't mean that I wouldn't try to be friends with them. But, if you have to fight with people to get your point across, it's not worth it.
2007-05-25 18:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by SDC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't date anyone who doesn't share my faith
2007-05-25 18:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by wanda3s48 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends. It depends on how adamant you both are about your respective faiths. I personally don't mind what the other person believes as long as they aren't full of themselves as a result of it. Religion is a private thing. Like the color of the underwear you wear. I don't like people who broadcast that sort of thing, shouting from the rooftops "I WEAR BLUE AND ANYONE WHO DOESN'T IS STUPID." As long as they are happy about their belief and they aren't hating the world because of it, I'm happy :)
2007-05-25 18:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋