He is in my grade, I am a senior in high school, about to graduate in a week and a half, and the time is ticking for me.. the wierd thing is that i've never really noticed him until now. he has been in some of my classes through out the years and ive never really spoken to him, i feel as though we are totally different and may have nothing in common at all, i talked to him a couple times this year, but they are were really meager conversations. haha. but i got a glimpse of his personality. he seems like a cool guy,Hes the loud one in class.(Im the opposite) even though he hangs with the 'preps'/popular kids and i with the 'misfits'/"losers" i have always been really quiet and reserved, its hard for me to be out there and let people know the real me? any suggestions on how i can build myself up im afraid to take the risk and be rejected. i feel like i dont want to disgrace him with my presence. i just wanna know more about him. any help would be GREATLY appreciated!
2007-05-25 11:30:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should never believe that you are below anyone else. You should have better confidence in yourself. You and he put on pants the same way.
I used to be quiet and shy and just smiled a lot. You can start talking to him and invite him over to a summer cook out. If he rejects you, you know that you tried and if it wasn't meant to be, you will have one under your belt to try again. It may not be him in the future, but it could be another guy.
If he comes to a BBQ, then as you get to know him you can tell him you would like to be friends and do things once in a while with him while you get to know him. Or you can tell him that now.
It is scary to put yourself out there like that, but you are worth something and you will not die by asking him. You may be dissapointed if he turns you down, but you have the experience that you will have those rejections. He may just accept the invitation too.
Never never never put yourself down and think you are below someone just because they are more popular. God made you and you are just right. The worst that can happen, is that he says no. You will never know unless you try.
Get to know him as friends as you said you wanted to just get to know him better. Smile as you go up to him and look him in the eye. That is genuine and be friendly. You can invite others to a cookout too. That way he will not be intimidated by those he doesn't know.
Have fun and always remember it is not the end of the world if you are rejected. We are all rejected in our lives at times and it does not feel good, but we pick ourselves up and move on. You will never know until you try.
2007-05-25 11:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just forget it you guys are both going away in a few weeks or months
i know it sucks i regret a lot of things abotu high school. im very shy social anxiety self hating person and i know how you feel about worrying about disgracing people, people who like me even but i can't always see it.
i think what you need to do is move on and work on yourself and next year with new people, thats what i'm trying to do with me i really regret not making friends, because if i had just had a little more confidence it would have worked and i would have been accepted.
im sorry. but try not to get too attached, its good that youre not too attached probably at this point, because theres probably just not enough time. im sorry.
2007-05-25 11:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by leena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, just try to keep creating conversations with him, guys can tell when girls are flirting with them, they look for it all the time, i can tell you from experience, that if a girl comes up to me and just starts talking to me and is trying to get to know me, that she likes me, just try to create little conversations, and keep those going and build them up to giving him your phone number, and if all else fails write him a letter and put ur number in it and then give it to him on the last day, this will help you maybe the best because u are shy, and you really dont have to worry about rejection as much.
2007-05-25 11:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyy,
all yous gotta do is work up enough nerve, and wait for the right moment when no ones around and ask him. Be sure to look for signs that he likes you too though, cause then you might be a little embarrassed when he says no. So just do what i said and i think you'll be fine!! ♥♥ Best of Luck
2007-05-25 11:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think? Go up to him and talk to him if you dont someone else will. Talk about the weather, or sports you have to push yourself for the rewards in life.
2007-05-25 11:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by PushSucharaX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You walk right up to him and say, "Hi. I'm really very shy and I have a crush on you. Do you have any suggestions on how I can let you know...?"
If that doesn't do it he doesn't have a pulse.
Get moving. You can do it!
2007-05-25 11:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all you have to do is go up to him and ask him out i know it might be hard but thats the only way hes gonna know you like him try to give up the shyness ok
2016-04-01 08:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear a white bottom down shirt, tied off at the waist...splash water on your ta-tas....and then ask him for a napkin or a towel...that'll break the ice...ps...soak yourself good....
2007-05-25 11:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by john 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are watching too many movies........
2007-05-25 11:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋