I'm spirling into depression - please help me!!?

Question

I am an attractive 27 yr old about to go on holiday in 3 wks to Europe so I should be feeling happy but I don't, I just don't feel good anymore and don't have the energy to leave my room and face the world. **** the world!!!! I have just broken up with my ex and feel so alone....
Why do I feel like this? I don't want people to see me like this... I'm supposed to be catching up with friends but I just have no enthusiasm...

Please help me, I'm serious- I don't want to feel this way........ :-(

Answer 1

Hello. I have been there...I suffered with Clinical Depression (CD) for five years...there was nothing my psychiatrist could do because I was already on medication for other conditions, such as Anxiety Disorder, (AD), and he could not prescribe anything else. Essentially, what happens in CD is that the good brain chemicals that make you feel good and happy and alive, such as dopamine, shut down. The brain stops making them. The only thing you feel are the stress hormones, the stress chemicals, but not much of anything good. It does terrible things to your sexual appetite...your libido falls away to nothing, really.
I can say from experience that: the opposite of depression is....drum roll please...STIMULATION! That's right, you need lot's of stimulation! If there is anything that stimulates you, do lots of it and buy lots of it. You can't get enough of it; for example, coffee, chocolate, and Genoa salami are stimulants. I don't want to sound like a bogeyman but if you like any particular type of porn, stock up on it. Porn is one of the most stimulating things going.
The other element is that you should run...every morning, if that is possible, or at night, after work...whenever you can squeeze it in. Running pumps blood and oxygen into the brain and stimulates the brain chemicals.
Another exercise that is good for the brain is incline situps, you know, on a slant board. When you are on the slant board with your head pointed to the floor, the blood goes to your head and helps to nourish your brain.
Lastly, seek out emotional connections: people with whom you can be honest and candid, share yourself without fear of rejection or judgment. I would suggest you find a good Massage Therapist...someone who can soothe your mind while soothing your body at the same time. Write your thoughts and feelings into a daily journal and write your own autobiographical sketches.
That's it my friend....my best to you as you pull out of this mess.

Answer 2

You have a few more issues than a break up. Although a break up can be harsh depression is an illness. Not a mental illness but a physical illness. It happens when chemicals in the brain go out of whack. This could be something that you have been dealing with and not even know it. For those who have depression it take something to pull the big trigger for the person to realize they have depression. Friends may notice slight mood changes or you may feel like you are sick and find out there is nothing wrong. Depression works that way. It causes the body to feel like crap and feel pain that is not really there however you feel it anyway. All this being said you are very normal many people have it and you are great for wanting help. The first thing you need to do is get to the doctor. They will give you a simple blood test and find out what chemicals your brain needs. The doctor will then give you the medication you need. Keep in mind you might have to try more than one but don't get discouraged. The next thing you need to do is go back to that hobby and give it another go. The more you keep busy the better off you will be. This will help you more than you know. Get all of this done before you go on holiday. If you can you should go on your holiday, the last thing you should give up is a chance for memories that will last you a life time.
Best of luck and keep talking to people.

Answer 3

Breaking up is always so hard to do. I understand how you feel. My best advise would be to go on your vacation. I'm sure you don't want to face the world with your sadness- but isolating yourself away from others will make you more depressed and you'll end up thinking about things too much. It's always best to keep yourself busy when you're going through a break up- and what better place than somewhere exciting and beautiful like Europe! I don't know how close you are to your friends, but perhaps they're company will lift your spirits up and make you feel better. It's gonna be hard in the beginning but time will heal your heart. Just remember that you're still young and attractive. Enjoy yourself as much as you possibly can- things happen for a reason sometimes. Before you know it time will have passed and things will just keep getting better and you'll see things in a different light. A change of scenery might be the best thing for you right now.

Answer 4

You might be feeling like the world is against you and the timing of this breakup sucks. The truth is this is a perfect time for a holiday where you can catch up with friends and share new experiences with them. Instant remedy--first night out put yourself in safe situation( i.e. familiar surroundings, a safe way home or to a hotel etc..) and get totally trashed. Get drunk, stoned, whatever you are comfortable with. After the next day's hangover...you get a clean slate. Introduce yourself to a complete stranger, do something you've always wanted to try, but have felt too inhibited to do so. You have plenty of time to return to your "comfort zone" when your holiday is over. When you do get back home, close the book on your ex. Have a ceremony where you burn the things he/she ever gave you. Purge your emotions with some writing...I hope some of this helps...good luck.

Answer 5

1. Make a doctor's appt, if you can get one before the three weeks is here.
2. Cancel the holiday, or ask for an extension, and use it at a later date, once you feel better and up to it.
3. Convert your holiday into a group tour holiday, or cruise, something where you aren't alone and brooding.
Get meds before you go. You do have a regular doctor, and most will treat depression, so you shouldn't have to wait to see a specialist. Print this out and take it to him. It can be easier than explaining things if you are easily stifled. Doctors like to treat these things nowadays.

Answer 6

come on kid theres no point in me saying theres plenty of fish in the sea cos i know that wont matter right now . but you are grieving and you can only go with it . you have lost something and you will be in grief. the only thing is time its a pain but you will feel better in time promise and i know when you feel like that its hard to be enthusiastic about anything but just take each day as it comes. one day you will wake up and you will think what was it all about. make the most of your holiday you may be suprised. and it will help take abit of the focus off ex. just have faith in the future

Answer 7

You should talk to someone qualified if you feel helpless. You don't have to do it alone. One thing is for sure, break ups can be depressing. You may want to not only see someone but give yourself time to heal from the heartache. Good luck. I'm sending you positive vibes.

Answer 8

1.) get up!
2.) move on
3.) spend time with your friends and family.
4.) do things that you have been thinking of doing before.
5.) pamper yourself, go get a massage or something.
6.) Be happy! just remember that there are a lot more people around the world who has bigger problems than you are experiencing right now... im sure you'll get through it. =)

Answer 9

Aw poor guy. He just needs to get out there and find some one. he NEEDS a friend! tell him to go get a friend and if he is to shy practice on random people. remember if he go to a store or something and just talk to people there is a good chance of him never seeing them again. Also you could help him out. show him some people he could bond with. also this guy could going clubs, get a job, go to a party... anything where he can meet other people

Answer 10

Hmm, counseling and paxil should help. Don't self medicate or it could spiral out of control.
Get moving and get out of the house. How do you get better, by doing and not obsessing.