Suicide.......?

Question

A friend of mine killed herself a few months ago, The days/weeks before she did it, she was acting very happy,/. She was gorgeous too & boys loved her, no one ever in a million years thought she would do that. A few days after the funeral a friend of ours confessed that he knew she was thinking about it & they had conversations where she would pour her heart out & tell him how miserable she was & how she lost the drive to just be alive anymore, he obviously told her what a horrible idea that is & got mad she would even think about doing that, but as soon as the conversation ended with him she would pretend like it never happened & would go back to being the funny awesome girl she was, so he never was too concerened, because he felt like if she was that close to doing it she you'd be able to tell... Is it common for people to act good & happy before they kill themselves?

Answer 1

"When the lights have gone down and the circus has closed. The clown cries."

Suicide is for the selfish. If you care that little about the people around you to leave them wondering what they could have done to save you for the rest of their lives, you aren't worth mourning. If you would cause that much strife to that many people just to end your own pain, then you are weak.

Mourn for yourself because it is theraputic. Do not mourn for her, she would not do it for you. If she cared that much about you or anyone else, she'd still be here.

Sorry if its harsh, but thats life. If life were all rainbows and smiley faces your friend would still be here. Remove your emotions from the equation and be objective and you know this to be the truth.

Answer 2

yes and no. I had a friend who acted the same exact way. Was always happy and outgoing till the day of, but he never really talked to anyone about it. He would joke just like most everybody does at some point in their life, but nobody ever suspected he was serious. He did do some odd things the day before he did it. Like he kept telling everyone that he loved them and he spent a lot of money taking all his friends to lunch and stuff. Most suicide websites will tell you the opposite, that they start acting sad and have lack of interest in everything. So, from what I have experienced, that's wrong. I don't know if this helps at all, but I know how your feeling.

Answer 3

in some cases yes, they do act happy because they feel like they've found a way out....
I'm very sorry that you and your friends have had to go through something like this. My little sister recently had that happen where one of her friends hung herself and she just couldn't understand it.
When someone confides in you that they are really considering suicide it is up to you to ensure that it doesn't happen, you need to tell someone else, parents, a friend, councellor or someone. I mean you can't totally prevent it but by telling someone there's a chance that they can be hospitalized where they can get real help with how they are feeling.
Been there, done that and was saved - I was lucky but not everyone is. I knew what I had done afterwards because at that very moment I was so blinded by my own emotions and pain that it wasn't possible for me to even begin to understand what I was doing. I spent two weeks in the hospital where I was treated for my bout of depression and was set up with councelling. That's what people need when they are so stuck that they see suicide as the only option, they need to talk and they need medical attention immediately.

Answer 4

There is really no "common" way for people to act prior to doing such a selfish act. I know that sounds harsh but the reality of the situation is that she has taken a temporary problem and "fixed it" with a permanent solution.

No matter what people act like or say if they truly want to kill themselves they are going to do it no matter what. Those that do it for attention are the ones that call 911 or call a friend and say that they are going to do it or have taken something.

Working in the ER it is the sober ones that just happend to be found by someone that was not expected home that scare me the most as they truly wanted nothing more than to just die.

Answer 5

Unfortunatly the people who are dead serious (pardon the pun) on killing themselves hides it very well while they are planning it out and doing last minute things. Looks like she did try to reach out but was overlooked which is a shame but you cant think of the what if's and hope your friend that overlooked it, cause there was no signs, isnt being hard on himself. It wasnt his fault.
My thoughts are with you and her family during this time. I know it is difficult cause a guy I went to school with and grew up around the corner from killed himself as well.

Answer 6

Considering there are a lot of people you would never think were depressed who suddenly up and admit they are depressed, it's not totally implausible. If someone says they want to kill themself, it's a cry for help that should not be ignored. Hopefully you learn a lesson from the friend that did nothing about it.

Answer 7

im sorry for the loss of your friend allison,,people sometimes react in different ways to a situation that seems without an exit,and mind states vary,some alone & withdrawn,some bright & cheery,(seemingly),,can't prove this,i think the creator reserves a place for a young person who make a dumb,sad cruel act(a far as the survivors go),she probably realizes the mistake,knows you were a good friend to her,,,,and a lotta years from now .you'll see her again,,,,,but you have to ride through shock,denial,grief,,& then acceptance,,,,maybe jumbled ,jumping from one to the other,,,,,,who knows which person you hook up with in her family that otherwise you wouldn't have met.meanwhile,a church.hospital,or her family might be getting grief counseling,,,maybe they'd letcha tag along

Answer 8

The only thing you can be sure of is that you can be sure of nothing. Their thought process is no longer working in a normal fashion that we can measure by our yardstick that pertains to human behavior. I have noticed that people who turn into the "good & happy" mode do so after they have made the decision and since nothing worries them thereafter they simply eat, drink and make merry.

Answer 9

wow, im sorry to hear that, but the answer is yes. same thing happened 2 my uncle so im right in your shoes. but he acted happy. he did it just to make people think nothing was wrong. so, she probably did it 4 her 2 be depressed, and not for anyone else 2 b in the same boat with her. God Bless, and she will need our prayers.

Answer 10

yes, it is. they have decided to do this, and it finally brings them a sense of relief that a "resolution" to their problems is near. everyone gets depressed, but people who kill themselves are genuinely sick, many times too sick to seek help