Long story short- friends, I liked him, told him, it couldn't work out, we stayed friends. But NOW, he's always doing these little things like say we're gonna get married and make me feel special and stuff, but then he goes on about a girl he likes. I'm almost certain he does it to make me jealous, because of the way he says it and I try and counterattack it by saying stuff about hot guys I like. He'll then say he dreams about me and says he likes this love song and he tells me to listen to it. I get the feeling he likes me, but then I don't again?
As you can see, I'm confused. Do guys play mind games purposely or is it sometimes accidental? Or are they sometimes confused about how they feel? Also, if anyone wants to answer this- what should I do about this guy? <3
2007-05-25 09:54:48 · 26 answers · asked by Hitomi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-05-25 09:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally honey, I don't think blokes are smart enough to play mind games. They are ruled by the hormones that run through their *****, and somehow find the way to their brains that influence what comes out of their mouths.
It comes down to basic instinct. The female wants what she perceives to be the genes for her offspring. The male just wants to pass his genes on. As such he will say whatever he thinks will work to achieve that goal.
I think he is probably like most blokes. He just wants to get his end away wherever he can. I really don't want to make you feel at all bad about yourself, but blokes are blokes. Give him a wide berth, and find someone that likes and cares for you as a person, not as a female.
I am a bloke and I know how we think. I hope this helps.
2007-05-25 10:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by monkeyp00 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
absolutely guys play mind games, most likely as much as gals, and never by accident. He is probably feeling rejected and hurt because you told him "it couldn't work out". Absolutely guys get confused as well. Relationships of any sort can be confusing. My suggestion would be, don't play into the "games". Distance yourself from this person if possible and let nature play itself out. I think you'll find he's really into you, but if you still don't think it can work maintain the distance until it's no longer an issue.
2007-05-25 10:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you told this man that you liked him and nothing ever came of it why do you care? Yes men play mind games as well as women do. We all do is it intentional probably not all the time. Does he have an advantage over you because he knows how you feel? yes. If the friendship is that trying break that off as well. Dont let a little boy who doesnt know what he wants from life screw with your head. GOOD LUCK
2007-05-25 10:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by kellycan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes lots of guys play mind games. He is most likely trying to test you. If he is unsure if it will work out again he may be looking for confirmation that your feelings are the same as his. I never met him so i will leave it up to your theory on his personality to see if i am right. My advice is either let him know exactly how you feel or you can play some mind games of your own.
2007-05-25 10:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about be honest with him. If you are friends, then you should be able to sit down with him and tell him how crazy this stuff is making you, and you are doing things you wouldnt normally do because of it.
You don't say how old you are, so he may be too shy to tell you how he really feels. So, talk to him and let him know that one way or another you want the lovey-dovey comments to stop or you won't be able to be his friend anymore.
2007-05-25 09:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by akgoddess39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and they say women are flaky ! sounds to me like this guy is pulling the control thing. How can you tell what the real truth is? I went through 5 yrs. of this stuff, until I woke up and told myself that I was better than that & deserve to be treated as I deserved. He seems to treat you good only when he feels that he has you under control. if he feels threatened by you,he starts the crap again. they reel you in with their charm ( sweet talk, caring, do anything to please you ) then they turn on you for no apparent reason. I finally left my man for good, now I have to get my self esteem back. don't let any man drag you down. they will take you self esteem and flush it down the toilet. be strong, you deserve somone who will treat you good . this guy soesn't seem to be worthy of you.
2007-05-25 10:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by chercinbob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've answered your own question you said you've tried it,
and it didn't work out so unless something has changed chances are its not going to work again. and the guy tells you these things because there is still a possibiliy of SEX.
Guys don't play mind games if they really like you and want to be with you.
But if they want to have sex with you they will tell you whatever they think you want to hear.
2007-05-25 10:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tone Teezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys absolutely play mind games in relationships. You must be very young and inexperienced, because if you weren't, you would be able to out play him with mind games of your own.
Just act un-affected, by the things he says. The one thing that guys can't take is indifference, especially if you don't let them know you are being indifferent deliberately.
2007-05-25 10:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by Harry Guilmont 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say they definitely do. Some guys, like some girls, feel like they want what they can't get. He is trying to keep you connected while giving himself a bit of his own freedom. He could possibly be doing this without knowing it, but I doubt it. You sound like you are pretty young though, so forget this guy and move on with your life.
2007-05-25 09:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys and Gals play mind games in relationships. It's human nature.
2007-05-25 09:57:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋