How can you forgive somebody, when you're not allowed to judge him first?

Answer 1

You're right, in order to be forgiven you have to be guilty, and in order to be found guilty they have to be judged. Too bad the Christians don't understand something this fundamental. Silly bible beaters.

Answer 2

The fact is, you have no power to forgive, or forget. The best you can do is through a blanket over the memory. Even that can have negative consequences. Call the blanket Jesus' power of forgiveness. And pray that it stays in place every time you eat, because forgiveness is a daily requirement of a spiritual diet. It's like bread, good for a day, and then you need more. While your at it, ask Jesus to give others the same blanket coverage of the things you do that offend them.

This is a major part of the Lords Prayer...

Answer 3

the thing about it is that as humans, it is in our worlds nature to judge first, if someone doe you wrong, most people jump immediately into a spirit of offense and how that offended them, so they judge that person based on thier own opinions about the situation. Judgement means that you see yourself as higher than that person or the thing they've done, which makes you look down on them. However seeing as "God is love"(1 John 4:16). we are supposed to live humbly, not be bible bashing thinking we're better than everyone else, but lifting up others instead, a humble spirit removes a mindset of judgement. All THAT said... we forgive in realizing this, everyone screws up. and everyone sins, to God no sin is worse than any other, (excluding blasphemy). making you no better than the person your judging. you forgive out of a spirit of humility, that you realize that you've sinned as well. If God doesn't hold it against you, why should you hold it over anyone else.
In forgiving you exclude judgement altogether. "with whatever measure you judge, you will also be judged"(Matthew 7:2), so if you forgive others, you will be forgiven, it's not jugement then forgiveness. it's Forgiveness in place of judgement. That helps i hope.

Answer 4

You judge everything. How do you cross the street without getting flattened? If somebody done you wrong you forgive them- If you don't God will not forgive you. No blessings, no answered prayers, no assurance that you are a child of God- the choice is yours.

Answer 5

Why would you have to judge someone who hurt you?

I have an emotionally abusive mother. I don't have to pass judgement about that. It's just a fact of my life.

Passing judgement actually STOPS the forgiving process. We ponder the aspect of this person going to hell. We make a mental list of all the crappy things this person has done. We examine all the ways this person is cruel to other people. Judge Judge Judge.

No help there.

When I forgave her, it helped me heal and move on. No judgement needed.

Answer 6

Of course we're supposed to judge people. How do we protect ourselves if we don't judge potential threats in dark alleys? How can we both concurrently believe in making first impressions and not being judged? In the critical thinking class I teach, we call that self-contradictions in theory, and it is the first sign that our logic is flawed.

We all judge. The moment we accept that, then we'll finally be able to handle the real problem: making judgments our final decision. All judgments can be changed. When we hold our judgments against someone, we instantly become closed-minded. And THAT'S the problem. Not judgment.

Answer 7

forgiveness and judging are 2 different things one is to judge one if he is good or bad forgiveness is forgiving someone who hurt you some way

Answer 8

If someone punches you in the face, why is there judgement necessary? Most of the time if someone is in need of forgiveness it is because of an act (or lack of one) that happened. So you evaluate the act, not judge the person.

Answer 9

The forgiver must judge that the person that will be receiving forgiveness is guilty.

Excellent point. Never really thought of that before. 10/10.

Answer 10

You wouldn't happen to be one of thos crazy fringe Christians would you. As a catholic i can tell you that you are allowed to judge. You are also supposed to act toward everybody as if they have the inate human dignity that God assinged to them and for that reason you are supposed to forgive.

Answer 11

Judging aside, you know when you've been wronged.
Do you remember a few months ago when a man went into the Amish school in Lancaster, Pennsylvania and killed all of those children? The Amish held no grudge, but that doesn't mean they don't know that they have been wronged.